From Publishers Weekly
Refusing to pander to audiences expecting Dr. Phil-type quick fixes, Glass (who has appeared on Oprah herself) chooses "a new, fact-based, scientifically and therapeutically responsible approach" to a subject she contends is fraught with public and professional misconceptions. Drawing on research studies (her own and others') and clinical cases from her 25 years as a psychotherapist, she explores "the new crisis of infidelity" resulting from platonic relationships that become progressively intense. Personal and professional friendships between men and women have become so prevalent and accepted that, according to Glass, even "good" people in "good" marriages can be swept away in a riptide of emotional intimacy more potent than sheer sexual attraction. Glass scrutinizes affairs and offers well-defined guidelines, including tips for determining how vulnerable individuals and relationships are to temptation, and prescriptions for keeping relationships "safe," repairing betrayal-induced damages and recovering from the trauma. Glass's credentials and commitment lend this book credence as a valuable resource; Staeheli's easy, personable style and the well-organized format make it user-friendly, too.
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". . . breakthrough book, Dr. Glass provided practical advice with scientific basis and profoundly sensitive clinical experience about the destructive problem, infidelity." -- John M. Gottman, Ph.D., author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and The Relationship Cure
". . . illuminating, instructive, down-to-earth, and inspiring . . . it truly transforms lives, NOT "Just Friends"
is a godsend for couples." -- Michele Weiner-Davis, author of The Divorce Remedy and The Sex-Starved Marriage
". . . love this book . . . A must-read for anyone who hopes to be happy in a long-term relationship." -- Pat Love, Ed.D., author of The Truth about Love
and Hot Monogamy
". . . puts a new face on infidelity using clinical experience and current research. I recommend it for anyone considering an affair." -- Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
". . . surprising, radical insight . . . Infidelity doesn't start when your partner sleeps with someone; its when your partner becomes closer to someone" -- Ira Glass, Host of National Public Radio's This American Life
". . . the most comprehensive book on affairs I have ever read . . . the only one that completely reflects the reality of affairs." -- Peggy Vaughan, Host of DearPeggy.com and author of The Monogamy Myth
"I treasure Dr. Shirley Glass, I treasure this book. She offers her traumatized readers compassion, wisdom, and unshakeable common sense." -- Frank Pittman, M.D., author of Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy
Frank Pittman, M.D. Author of Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy
I treasure Dr. Shirley Glass, and I treasure this book. No one understands affairs better than she does. She offers her traumatized readers compassion, wisdom, and unshakeable common sense. -- Review