Writing with the "newly elect" in mind, Brian McNaught advises his readers on how to forge connections within the sometimes thorny gay, lesbian, and bisexual communities while still maintaining ties with family and old friends. Along the way, he discusses sexual ethics, same-sex marriage, work, spirituality, and political action. Readers who have been out for a year or more, or who grew up in large cities, may find McNaught's earnest tone and tortoise pace too basic, or even unintentionally funny. (After telling us, for example, that he and his gay brother, Tommy, feel comfortable with each other in the way McNaught imagines that compatible heterosexual brothers might feel, he confides that they "talk often about issues from our childhood that we are currently working on in therapy.") But for the neophyte, his tolerant and deliberate approach will feel welcoming. A good introductory book for adolescents as well, and the families of gay people. --Regina Marler
The title of this excellent book perfectly captures the feelings of anticipation and bewilderment that most gays, lesbians, and bisexuals feel after the initial trauma of coming out. Drawing on his own personal and professional experiences, McNaught (Gay Issues in the Workplace, LJ 10/15/93) focuses here on the problems and issues likely to confront newly out gay men and women. He sensitively and sensibly addresses topics including heterosexism, internalized homophobia and heterophobia, sexuality, relationships and gay marriage, legal and financial problems, workplace issues, family matters, religion and spirituality, and the special needs of gay youth. A list of resources supplements the text. More meditative than directional, McNaught raises issues that will nevertheless linger with the reader and engender reflection and discussion. Warmly affirmative, realistic without being downbeat, and moving in its candor, this important work is essential to gay studies collections and is highly recommended for public libraries as well.?Richard J. Violette, Social Law Lib., Boston, Mass.
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Excellent book, thoughtful and well-written, on a subject on which it's hard to get that kind of material. I am reading it for the second time.Published 10 months ago by Too Old For This
"Now that I'm out, what do I do?" Uh... live your life maybe? Uh... get on with the next thing? Uh... BE HAPPY? Read morePublished on October 27, 1999
The book looks at how being gay affects everyting in your life and what you can do in each area to cope with it not only for yourself but how you can give back to the people in... Read morePublished on October 22, 1998 by firstname.lastname@example.org