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NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children [Kindle Edition]

Po Bronson , Ashley Merryman
4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (446 customer reviews)

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In a world of modern, involved, caring parents, why are so many kids aggressive and cruel? Where is intelligence hidden in the brain, and why does that matter? Why do cross-racial friendships decrease in schools that are more integrated? If 98% of kids think lying is morally wrong, then why do 98% of kids lie? What's the single most important thing that helps infants learn language?
NurtureShock is a groundbreaking collaboration between award-winning science journalists Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman. They argue that when it comes to children, we've mistaken good intentions for good ideas. With impeccable storytelling and razor-sharp analysis, they demonstrate that many of modern society's strategies for nurturing children are in fact backfiring--because key twists in the science have been overlooked.
Nothing like a parenting manual, the authors' work is an insightful exploration of themes and issues that transcend children's (and adults') lives.


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From Publishers Weekly

The central premise of this book by Bronson (What Should I Do with My Life?) and Merryman, a Washington Post journalist, is that many of modern society's most popular strategies for raising children are in fact backfiring because key points in the science of child development and behavior have been overlooked. Two errant assumptions are responsible for current distorted child-rearing habits, dysfunctional school programs and wrongheaded social policies: first, things work in children the same way they work in adults and, second, positive traits necessarily oppose and ward off negative behavior. These myths, and others, are addressed in 10 provocative chapters that cover such issues as the inverse power of praise (effort counts more than results); why insufficient sleep adversely affects kids' capacity to learn; why white parents don't talk about race; why kids lie; that evaluation methods for giftedness and accompanying programs don't work; why siblings really fight (to get closer). Grownups who trust in old-fashioned common-sense child-rearing—the definitely un-PC variety, with no negotiation or parent-child equality—will have less patience for this book than those who fear they lack innate parenting instincts. The chatty reportage and plentiful anecdotes belie the thorough research backing up numerous cited case studies, experts' findings and examination of successful progressive programs at work in schools. (Sept.)
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From Bookmarks Magazine

Reviewers were generally wowed by Bronson and Merryman's breezy synthesis of the latest parenting research. They often favorably contrasted NurtureShock with traditional parenting guides, which seem old-fashioned compared with the authors' cutting-edge approach. But at least one skeptic felt that NurtureShock was just more of the same; the New York Times Book Review noted that every generation has a "revolutionary" book of parental advice, and this one may only seem novel because of a new kind of packaging. Nevertheless, even Pamela Paul found parts of the book interesting, suggesting that there may indeed be something in NurtureShock for everyone.

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1,302 of 1,333 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars It's not what you think. It's more than you know. July 3, 2009
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Parenting books are ubiquitous. How to sift through and determine which are worthy? I have a teenage daughter and have read quite a few. Even when I thought I was impressed, there was always something nagging at me about them. I determined that many of the books had an outside or hidden agenda, which was to socialize parents according to a specific sheep-herding mentality. Often, a social consciousness or a reaction to a negative social consciousness about raising children informed these "manuals." In other words, the science behind the thinking was weak--they were often politically charged or reactionary.

The blurbs about this book intrigued me, but I was also skeptical--until I read the first chapter on the inverse power of praise. Parents and guardians--just get ye to a bookstore and read the first chapter. I think you will be galvanized by its immediacy and logic (as well as back-up data) and it will inspire you to continue. It all clicked when I read about our praise-junkie tendencies, and how it has a paradoxical effect. The authors never condescend to us; they maintain that all of us want to make the best and most informed decisions. For instance, most of us start telling our babies, from the cradle "You are so smart" as almost a mantra of parenting. The authors do not criticize positive praise--they are revealing the data for specific types of praise. Telling a kid he or she is smart rather than specifically praising them for their efforts will eventually backfire. The child will have a tendency to not put out a lot of effort when they are challenged because they are stymied by the feeling that they have to stay smart, or that they must be NOT smart if they can't solve a problem or puzzle.
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383 of 405 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars A Useful and Flawed Update on Notions of Child Rearing October 5, 2010
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NurtureShock, Bronson and Merryman's book about misplaced assumptions in the rearing of children is a worthwhile read for any parent. More a guide for critical thinking about our somewhat whacked out approach to child raising in America (reserving spots in elite preschools before a child is even born) than a guide to raising children, the book presents fresh data, surprising conclusions, and frequent cautions about old assumptions.

NurtureShock joins a new mini-genre of literature that sells by turning old assumptions on their heads, and making us question what we once thought was surely true. Also in this category is Freakonomics: A Rogue Economist Explores the Hidden Side of Everything (P.S.) and Outliers: The Story of Success.

The book is highly entertaining, and impossible to read without a number of "Ah Hah!" moments, but does have limitations. While presenting powerful evidence that it is best not to dole out generic praise by the boxcar load to children (it actually impairs their performance) the book is at its best. Teachers, by the way, have known this for decades, and good teachers transformed long ago from non-specific cheerleaders (You're doing great!!) to more specific statements ("I like the way you stuck with that math problem until you figured it out"). Similarly, teachers have been acquainted for years with another theme of the book: academic skill testing done prior to the third grade correlates very poorly with academic performance down the line.
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197 of 211 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars How Children Work July 10, 2009
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I learned to cast a suspicious eye toward some who are regarded as childhood "experts" after getting to know the adult offspring of a few prominent figures in the field who were navigating adulthood with considerably more difficulty than the average person. So I particularly like the holes that Bronson and Merryman poke in some of the previously accepted academic theories and trends in child development. I also think that some of the "new" academic data presented in the book is something that many parents will simply (and hopefully) recognize as common sense.

The chapters in the book are all very interesting, covering babies and teens and much of the in between. The chapter on testing for giftedness, which has become a hot button topic of late, is very thought-provoking. I agree with the authors that most gifted programs have run badly amok, but as one who had many years of experience at a private school for highly gifted children, I know that there are children who, in an average school environment, would be teased mercilessly for their ability to relate better to numbers and books than to their classmates. For highly gifted girls in particular, a school such as that can be a very safe place for them to be very smart.

The chapters on false praise, sibling rivalry, teen rebellion and overly-involved parenting speak more to an affirmation of common sense wisdom than to academic breakthroughs, but the research and studies are fun to read nonetheless. The chapters on race, sleep and lying are quite thought-provoking. Overall, the book is well written (not in florid or garbled academia-speak), very well researched, and the authors succeed in offering quite a few new, and fun, things to learn about children.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
4.0 out of 5 stars One of the best parenting books out there
This book is filled with scientific research information of what works and what doesn't work when it comes to parenting
Published 2 days ago by mohamed
3.0 out of 5 stars There have been some interesting points to learn from the ...
There have been some interesting points to learn from the book, but I feel that the authors keep harping on the same point over and over again for some topics. Read more
Published 10 days ago by ABS
5.0 out of 5 stars Great reference with strong scientific study data
Great reference with strong scientific study data. This is the book all parents of toddlers to teenagers should have.
Published 13 days ago by Walter C. Kress
5.0 out of 5 stars makes so much sense
Should be mandatory reading for all parents.
Published 15 days ago by Lori
3.0 out of 5 stars interesting but not memorable
The book feels like a recitation of somewhat related topics, but it's hard to recall the overall theme as the book progresses.
Published 18 days ago by Karen from California
5.0 out of 5 stars Read the Nurture Shock, and you will be shocked!
I read this book for a class called Conception through Early Childhood. When I finished it, I couldn't help recommending this book to some of my Chinese friends right away. Read more
Published 18 days ago by Lin SHI
5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Read...and you should pass it on!
This is a must read for every parent...preferably people on the verge of becoming parents. And re-reading as your kids grown wouldn't hurt either! Read more
Published 1 month ago by Julie Padberg-White
4.0 out of 5 stars I really enjoyed the reviews from this site and the summary sounded...
As part of the University of Pittsburgh's Applied Developmental Psychology M.S. program, I was given options to choose from a list of 5 books to read for class. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Rebecca
4.0 out of 5 stars Good!!
It's very very shock! You can't image most of the ways of child NURTURE you think right are inevitably defective! By citing a lot of researches, Nurture Shock is very convincing. Read more
Published 1 month ago by muquan wu
5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars
Fast paced, does not get stuck on one particular aspect of parenting. Learnt some valuable lessons from this book!
Published 1 month ago by ILDIKO VARGA
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