The list author says: "I watched my husband go through it and saw how the more he knew how typical his reactions were, the less stress he experienced. It is very typical for both the mother and the father to run the entire gamut of emotions and thoughts around a pregnancy even though they might not talk about it. This includes excitement, thrill, regret, elation, concern, fear, worry, happiness, desperation (I'm trapped!!), confusion, grief & depression (over the life they are losing), contentment, peace, etc., etc., etc. Riding this roller coaster is normal, so don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff. Don't even try to figure it out -- the best advice I got when I was pregnant was that nothing could truly prepare us for what was to come. But it will be good. :)
The best advice I can give to a father-to-be is to just be there for her and listen quietly to mom-to-be. Then repeat back to her what she just told you. This little gem of advice will take you far through the hormonal ups and downs of pregnancy as well as the stresses new parenthood later. Use it well and use it often for a happier family.
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"It's not a 'girl' thing. Doulas relieve stress for father! You can be even more involved with the birth the way (and amount) you *want* to be involved, and she'll take care of the rest! Doula-assisted births are proven to result in shorter labors, and better experiences and health outcomes for mom, dad and baby. Every study ever done on doula-assisted births overwhelmingly confirms this."
"This book can not only help you understand your newborn baby's facial expressions, but really gets to the heart of the psychology of baby. Will show you how to boost baby's self-esteem and better bond with and relate to baby. In my opinion, an unrivaled early childhood education in an easy to read format."
"Sleep may be your greatest challenge and affect all aspects of your physical, emotional, parental, marital, career and financial life. I highly recommend reading this book before the baby is born. Even if it seems uninteresting to you now, you will be more than glad you read it while you could! One of two books I absolutely recommend owning."
"Well-written and researched. Supports a positive parenting approach and truly helps brain development. Covers all of the important things from attachment, playing, reading, to talking. Written by a professor in a Psychology in Education dept. Her personal story is also touching."
"A must-have book for every parent! Filled with pictures and highlights, it reads like a really fun and easy (but very informative) textbook. Great research behind the need to respond to your baby's cries (explains why letting babies cry it out is damaging) and great advice for dealing with things like tantrums. Written by a child psychotherapist."
"A tongue-in-cheek spoof from dad's point of view on the toughness of parenting, written to make you laugh. Not PC at all. Make sure mom's hormones are ready to let her see the lighter side of it. On the other hand, she may be laughing louder than you are. Good perspective to help loosen up the parenting perfectionist inside."
"Babies who are carried an extra 3 hours a day in the first few months cry 40% less. They pick up verbal skills faster and develop better core muscle strength, balance and gross motor skills. It’s also a proven way to make babies smarter ('Genius' DVDs retard intellectual development – no tv before 2 years!) My only regret is that I didn't get a sling *before* the baby was born!"
"Wraps, slings or pouches help immensely first 4 mos. This one is comfortable, affordable and made of light cotton so won't overheat in the summer. It is also adjustable to a wide range of sizes. It fit both my normal 5'2" build and my husband's medium to heavy set 5'10"."
"I highly recommend the Ergo Baby Carrier after 5 months -- spendy but really cheap when you see the rewards it reaps. Don't waste your money on anything but the Ergo after baby is 4 months old! This carrier is also adjustable to all sizes for both mom and dad."
"This gives facts which disprove those critics/naysayers in family & community about early bedsharing, which is vital to babies’ sense of security at night. Newborns especially need constant close contact with their mothers to thrive."