On Becoming a Father

A Listmania! list by cohrun
The list author says: "I watched my husband go through it and saw how the more he knew how typical his reactions were, the less stress he experienced. It is very typical for both the mother and the father to run the entire gamut of emotions and thoughts around a pregnancy even though they might not talk about it. This includes excitement, thrill, regret, elation, concern, fear, worry, happiness, desperation (I'm trapped!!), confusion, grief & depression (over the life they are losing), contentment, peace, etc., etc., etc. Riding this roller coaster is normal, so don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff. Don't even try to figure it out -- the best advice I got when I was pregnant was that nothing could truly prepare us for what was to come. But it will be good. :)

The best advice I can give to a father-to-be is to just be there for her and listen quietly to mom-to-be. Then repeat back to her what she just told you. This little gem of advice will take you far through the hormonal ups and downs of pregnancy as well as the stresses new parenthood later. Use it well and use it often for a happier family.

Check out libraries, eBay, craigslist, used/second hand stores and garage sales (often the best deal around) as more affordable and earth-friendly alternatives."
Be Prepared
1.  Be Prepared by Jeannie Hayden
The list author says:
  "A humorous book with lots of practical advice coming from a 'scouting' perspective!"
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The Doula Advantage: Your Complete Guide to Having an Empowered and Positive Birth with the Help of a Professional Childbirth Assistant
2.  The Doula Advantage: Your Complete Guide to Having an Empowered and Positive Birth with the Help of a Professional Childbirth Assistant by Rachel Gurevich
The list author says:
  "It's not a 'girl' thing. Doulas relieve stress for father!  You can be even more involved with the birth the way (and amount) you *want* to be involved, and she'll take care of the rest!  Doula-assisted births are proven to result in shorter labors, and better experiences and health outcomes for mom, dad and baby.  Every study ever done on doula-assisted births overwhelmingly confirms this."
Used & New from: $5.74
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What Babies Say Before They Can Talk: The Nine Signals Infants Use to Express Their Feelings
3.  What Babies Say Before They Can Talk: The Nine Signals Infants Use to Express Their Feelings by Kalia Doner
The list author says:
  "This book can not only help you understand your newborn baby's facial expressions, but really gets to the heart of the psychology of baby.  Will show you how to boost baby's self-esteem and better bond with and relate to baby.  In my opinion, an unrivaled early childhood education in an easy to read format."
$14.56   Used & New from: $0.01
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The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night
4.  The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night by Elizabeth Pantley
The list author says:
  "Sleep may be your greatest challenge and affect all aspects of your physical, emotional, parental, marital, career and financial life.  I highly recommend reading this book before the baby is born.  Even if it seems uninteresting to you now, you will be more than glad you read it while you could! One of two books I absolutely recommend owning."
$11.06   Used & New from: $0.01
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Bright from the Start: The Simple, Science-Backed Way to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mindfrom Birth to Age 3
5.  Bright from the Start: The Simple, Science-Backed Way to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mindfrom Birth to Age 3 by Jill Stamm
The list author says:
  "Well-written and researched. Supports a positive parenting approach and truly helps brain development. Covers all of the important things from attachment, playing, reading, to talking. Written by a professor in a Psychology in Education dept. Her personal story is also touching."
$11.33   Used & New from: $3.34
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The Science of Parenting
6.  The Science of Parenting by Margot Sunderland
The list author says:
  "A must-have book for every parent! Filled with pictures and highlights, it reads like a really fun and easy (but very informative) textbook.  Great research behind the need to respond to your baby's cries (explains why letting babies cry it out is damaging) and great advice for dealing with things like tantrums.  Written by a child psychotherapist."
$12.20   Used & New from: $6.01
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The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two (Revised and Updated Edition)
7.  The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two (Revised and Updated Edition) by Martha Sears
The list author says:
  "My favorite cling-to first-time-mommy resource and a real classic.  Just read this book and compare it to other baby books!  Worth owning -- if you buy only one book, this is it!!!""
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Father's First Steps: 25 Things Every New Dad Should Know
8.  Father's First Steps: 25 Things Every New Dad Should Know by Robert Sears MD
The list author says:
  "This book is both quick and profound, and a fun and easy read. Each chapter has a great point to make."
$10.59   Used & New from: $0.01
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Baby 411: Clear Answers & Smart Advice for Your Baby's First Year (Baby 411: Clear Answers and Smart Advice for Your Baby's First Year)
9.  Baby 411: Clear Answers & Smart Advice for Your Baby's First Year (Baby 411: Clear Answers and Smart Advice for Your Baby's First Year) by Denise Fields
The list author says:
  "A baby care book highly recommended by experts.  Also see Toddler 411 (a year goes faster than you think and that is about how long it takes a baby to become a toddler!)"
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Keeping the Baby Alive till Your Wife Gets Home: The Tough New 'How-To' for 21st-Century Dads
10.  Keeping the Baby Alive till Your Wife Gets Home: The Tough New 'How-To' for 21st-Century Dads by Walter Roark
The list author says:
  "A tongue-in-cheek spoof from dad's point of view on the toughness of parenting, written to make you laugh. Not PC at all. Make sure mom's hormones are ready to let her see the lighter side of it. On the other hand, she may be laughing louder than you are.  Good perspective to help loosen up the parenting perfectionist inside."
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And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives
11.  And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives by John Mordechai Gottman
The list author says:
  "The first year of baby's life is statistically the most challenging for any couple, so this book can be a relationship (and sanity) saver."
$12.37   Used & New from: $2.44
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The Pregnancy Book: Month-by-Month, Everything You Need to Know From America's Baby Experts
12.  The Pregnancy Book: Month-by-Month, Everything You Need to Know From America's Baby Experts by Martha Sears
The list author says:
  "A gazillion times better than the "What to Expect" version."
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Babywearing
13.  Babywearing by Maria Blois
The list author says:
  "Babies who are carried an extra 3 hours a day in the first few months cry 40% less. They pick up verbal skills faster and develop better core muscle strength, balance and gross motor skills.  It’s also a proven way to make babies smarter ('Genius' DVDs retard intellectual development – no tv before 2 years!)  My only regret is that I didn't get a sling *before* the baby was born!"
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Lite-on-Shoulder Ring/pouch hybrid Baby Sling(Vine Sketch)
14.  Lite-on-Shoulder Ring/pouch hybrid Baby Sling(Vine Sketch) by slingcarrier.com
The list author says:
  "Wraps, slings or pouches help immensely first 4 mos.  This one is comfortable, affordable and made of light cotton so won't overheat in the summer.  It is also adjustable to a wide range of sizes.  It fit both my normal 5'2" build and my husband's medium to heavy set 5'10"."
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Good Nights: The Happy Parents' Guide to the Family Bed (and a Peaceful Night's Sleep!)
15.  Good Nights: The Happy Parents' Guide to the Family Bed (and a Peaceful Night's Sleep!) by Jay Gordon
The list author says:
  "This gives facts which disprove those critics/naysayers in family & community about early bedsharing, which is vital to babies’ sense of security at night.  Newborns especially need constant close contact with their mothers to thrive."
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