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On My Own: The Art of Being a Woman Alone Paperback – March 25, 2008
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—Amy Sohn, author of Run Catch Kiss and My Old Man
“In On My Own Florence Falk bravely and soulfully invites women to reimagine aloneness—to see it as a gift rather than a failure. Her book is a call to wholeness, independence, and empowerment.”
—Eve Ensler, author of The Vagina Monologues
“Finally, an insightful and powerful book that guides us towards inner freedom that is possible when we befriend aloneness. This is for all women, single or not: The stories and practical guidance offered in this book teach us about living and loving fully.”
—Tara Brach, Buddhist teacher and author of
Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha
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Around this country, millions of women, single or deeply lonely in their relationships, wrestle with questions about the role and place of partnership in their lives. This remarkable book offers us a way to see our aloneness in a new way....helping us to celebrate our solitude as a state of liberation.
It's hard to imagine a woman whose life would not be touched by reading this book. For many women, Falk's message will come as a key, unlocking a door they may never have known was even there.... and lives will change, forever. For some, perhaps, it will be revolutionary, and the change will come with great force. For others, it may be like a small stone, dropped into water, the rings rippling out gently, wider and wider... but either way, I am convinced, lives will transform. Give this book to a woman you know who is ready for freedom!
This, understandably, creates pressure.
In our modern drive to have everything, women have lost their Self. By losing one's Self, according to Falk, a person loses the ability to stand alone, to be self-sufficient, to enjoy solitude without being lonely and bereft. In addition, when one's Self is damaged or missing, there is nothing protecting you from psychic damage from friends, lovers, and the world in general.
In many ways, our culture resists the import of a woman who is able to stand alone. If you are valuing your own self, you are selfish - a horrible accusation to make of any girl or mother. If you cultivate your own interests, or enjoy your own company, you are self-absorbed - again, a negative. Falk wants us to take joy in selfishness, as we re-imagine ourselves and make peace with who we truly are. She wishes that more women would take time to be self-absorbed, to glory in the creative, WHOLE person who has been submerged for so long by our society, our relationships, and abuse.
Which brings me to the "almost inspiring." Falk finds it necessary to trace in microscopic detail the failed relationships, parental and peer abuse, and overarching societal pressure which causes modern women to lose their Self. This is an amazing downer in a book intended to inspire.Read more ›
"On My Own: The Art of Being a Woman Alone" addresses the aftermath. Women, amazingly enough, are still the most vulnerable individuals and as a group have the least amount of experience living alone. It's not that they have to be taught how to behave, as much as they have to be reassured that it's OK to be on their own in the first place. Shame and fear are among the major issues they may have to work to overcome. Those who embrace solitude as a time for reflection, creativity, and regrouping are the ones who thrive and succeed.
Florence Falk studies all of the aspects of such situations, beginning with the societal pressure to be beautiful, skinny, and part of a couple; then adding to those expectations the overriding childhood influences of parents and peers, as well as the lure of addictive habits to escape from them all. This is, therefore, a much fuller treatment than the title indicates. It's really a psychological scrutiny of the general lifestyle of the contemporary American woman.Read more ›
There are times I feel alone and insecure and times and when those moments creep up, I tend to pick up this book and read it again and soon I realize, I had just simply lost sight.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
As a middle aged woman who recently left a long term relationship to be alone, I found this book to be a huge help. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Suanne Coonrod
This book is okay. I liked it when I needed some motivation to stick to my seperation with my significant other although I have books I found more helpful for my situation.Published 3 months ago by Amazon Customer
The fear of being alone is an extremely common one. Falk tries to show how it can be positive, by examining difficult or sad situations we all face, exploring what they mean, how... Read morePublished 6 months ago by Sarabeth
Great book! Been single all my life (by choice, have had 2 marriage proposals). Lots of uplifting info here.Published 9 months ago by Cheryl
Disciplining yourself to like yourself, to do activities with yourself around strangers that like the same thing is HARD!!! Read morePublished 10 months ago by Rosita A. Artis
I highlighted dozens of passeges in this book and then promptly bought copies for my two best friends (the first recently out of a bad marriage, the second married but looking to... Read morePublished 16 months ago by Jessica dufour
Ho-hum. I only read a small portion because this author made the impression of being weak and helpless on her own. As a single mom for 16 years, I couldn't read any more.Published 16 months ago by SANDRA RIGGS
Most of us women will eventually be alone. This tells us what we need to know before this happens. A word to the wise. Thanks, mary ellenPublished 17 months ago by maryellen