One Way Ticket To Kansas: Caring About Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder And Finding A Healthy You [Paperback]

Ozzie Tinman (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 6, 2005

One Way Ticket To Kansas assists those involved in an abusive relationship with someone diagnosed with, or suspected to have, Borderline Personality Disorder. The text gives a simple description of the disorder, means of coping with one sticken with the disorder, and explains the readers contribution to the unhealthy relationship. Also included are various support networks available for the reader. This book has multiple endorsements from experts in the field of personality disorders.

Product Details

• Paperback: 172 pages
• Publisher: Bebes & Gregory Publications; 1 edition (April 6, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 097678730X
• ISBN-13: 978-0976787303
• Product Dimensions: 7.9 x 4.9 x 0.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #323,926 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

63 of 64 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Easy to read information that makes sense; most helpful, July 7, 2005

By 

J. Keaton (Texas) - See all my reviews

This review is from: One Way Ticket To Kansas: Caring About Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder And Finding A Healthy You (Paperback)

I have read "Stop walking on eggshells", "I hate you, dont leave me", "Girl interupted", and "Lost in the mirror". When I bought One Way Ticket To Kansas I figured I would just get the run of the mill book about borderline that didn't explain or help with the severity of this disorder. After reading this book I thought, "finally, someone has the guts to give an honest look at what this illness does to those that care about someone with borderline disorder". Ozzie Tinman gives an honest look about what it is like to live with someone with borderline and does not sugar coat or make excuses. He uses his own experiences to explain that this illness is about and the sincerity of his writing is obvious. There is no doubt that he did in fact face the ugliness of his borderline wife's behavior and grew as a person. Not only does this author share his own story but also breaks down the behaviors that a borderline displays, and explains why they may display these behaviors. But he doesn't stop there. He then breaks down the reader's contribution to the relationship and explains the power to change is in the hands of the reader. This book was a breath of fresh air.
I recommend this book for anyone that has a borderline person in their life. Whether you are in the relationship or have left it and trying to recover, this book gives straight forward answers and advice that is grounded in common sense. I recommend that readers seeking information about borderline personality read this book first, then Stop walking on eggshells, then I hate you don't leave me (a difficult read). Don't waste your money on other books. There is a lot of useless material out there. These three are all you need.

32 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Read, Essential If You Care About Someone With BPD, July 15, 2006

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Mike - See all my reviews

This review is from: One Way Ticket To Kansas: Caring About Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder And Finding A Healthy You (Paperback)

In my opinion this is hands down the best book out there for dealing with someone with borderline personality disorder. Yes, there is SWOE and other books that are out there, but One Way Ticket To Kansas is the only book that I have come across that is writen from the perspective of a spouse. It is also the only book out there that explains in detail the eratic and seriouly disturbed behaviors the person with BPD directs at the person they are most intimately close to, the spouse. The information in One Way Ticket To Kansas is easy to read, entertaining, and the author has a knack for explaining the complexities of bpd in easy to understand terms. While the book is sensitive to the person with bpd, it also does not pull any punches either and gives an honest look at the effects to caring about someone with bpd. This book will make many light bulbs go off in your head, and help you realize that you have had the power all along to find happiness. It's empowering to the reader and focusses specifically on the reader, not the person with bpd. Once you start reading this book you will not want to put it down. Then you will read it again as you will emotionally connect with the author about so many aspect of your life. This is a must have book.

29 of 30 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The best borderline personality disorder book out there, June 7, 2005

By 

Jennifer C "Jennie C" (Florida) - See all my reviews

This review is from: One Way Ticket To Kansas: Caring About Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder And Finding A Healthy You (Paperback)

I purchased One Way Ticket To Kansas after becoming frustrated reading some of the traditional book referrals for borderline personality disorder. What a treat I got. This author explained this complex disorder in easy to understand terms, clear examples of behaviors, and opened my eyes to ways that I could make my life happy again. And the biggest shock was after explaining borderline, the author focussed on the power that the reader has to make changes, thus empowering the reader, rather than making her feel helpless to this disorder.
One way ticket to kansas is validating to the reader, yet still sensitive to the person you care about that has bpd. It is a must have if you are in or recovering from a relationship with someone with borderline.
The reading is interesting, as the author often refers to his own expereiences and examples gained from his marriage to a wife diagnosed with bpd. However, the tone of the book is not blaming towards the person with bpd. Rather it focusses on the readers ability and power to change their circumstances.
I would recommend this book above all others for bpd. I would have saved a lot of money on other books I started and did not finish, had I just purchased this book in the first.