Customer Reviews

One Way Ticket To Kansas: Caring About Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder And Finding A Healthy You

5 star:		(16)
4 star:		(3)
3 star:		(1)
2 star:		(1)
1 star:		(0)

 

 

I have read "Stop walking on eggshells", "I hate you, dont leave me", "Girl interupted", and "Lost in the mirror". When I bought One Way Ticket To Kansas I figured I would just get the run of the mill book about borderline that didn't explain or help with the severity of this disorder. After reading this book I thought, "finally, someone has the guts to give an honest look at what this illness does to those that care about someone with borderline disorder". Ozzie Tinman gives an honest look about what it is like to live with someone with borderline and does not sugar coat or make excuses. He uses his own experiences to explain that this illness is about and the sincerity of his writing is obvious. There is no doubt that he did in fact face the ugliness of his borderline wife's behavior and grew as a person. Not only does this author share his own story but also breaks down the behaviors that a borderline displays, and explains why they may display these behaviors. But he doesn't stop there. He then breaks down the reader's contribution to the relationship and explains the power to change is in the hands of the reader. This book was a breath of fresh air.

I recommend this book for anyone that has a borderline person in their life. Whether you are in the relationship or have left it and trying to recover, this book gives straight forward answers and advice that is grounded in common sense. I recommend that readers seeking information about borderline personality read this book first, then Stop walking on eggshells, then I hate you don't leave me (a difficult read). Don't waste your money on other books. There is a lot of useless material out there. These three are all you need.

In my opinion this is hands down the best book out there for dealing with someone with borderline personality disorder. Yes, there is SWOE and other books that are out there, but One Way Ticket To Kansas is the only book that I have come across that is writen from the perspective of a spouse. It is also the only book out there that explains in detail the eratic and seriouly disturbed behaviors the person with BPD directs at the person they are most intimately close to, the spouse. The information in One Way Ticket To Kansas is easy to read, entertaining, and the author has a knack for explaining the complexities of bpd in easy to understand terms. While the book is sensitive to the person with bpd, it also does not pull any punches either and gives an honest look at the effects to caring about someone with bpd. This book will make many light bulbs go off in your head, and help you realize that you have had the power all along to find happiness. It's empowering to the reader and focusses specifically on the reader, not the person with bpd. Once you start reading this book you will not want to put it down. Then you will read it again as you will emotionally connect with the author about so many aspect of your life. This is a must have book.

I purchased One Way Ticket To Kansas after becoming frustrated reading some of the traditional book referrals for borderline personality disorder. What a treat I got. This author explained this complex disorder in easy to understand terms, clear examples of behaviors, and opened my eyes to ways that I could make my life happy again. And the biggest shock was after explaining borderline, the author focussed on the power that the reader has to make changes, thus empowering the reader, rather than making her feel helpless to this disorder.

One way ticket to kansas is validating to the reader, yet still sensitive to the person you care about that has bpd. It is a must have if you are in or recovering from a relationship with someone with borderline.

The reading is interesting, as the author often refers to his own expereiences and examples gained from his marriage to a wife diagnosed with bpd. However, the tone of the book is not blaming towards the person with bpd. Rather it focusses on the readers ability and power to change their circumstances.

I would recommend this book above all others for bpd. I would have saved a lot of money on other books I started and did not finish, had I just purchased this book in the first.

Finally, a book about borderline personality disorder that I could relate to. I have read them all: Stop Walking on Eggshells, Sometimes I Act Crazy, I Hate You Dont Leave Me, etc. None of them relayed information to me in a way that I felt connected to the author. Rather, the other books threw out the information in a very dry fashion, seemingly putting me to sleep. I retained very little from them. The facilitator of my support group suggested that I read One Way Ticket To Kansas. Oh my gosh, this book just blew me away. It explained bpd in a way that I understood and retained. The author used personal examples from his own life and I found myself crying as I finally felt like someone understood exactly what I was going through. There it was in print, the very things I have been experiencing over the last 3 years! Although the author presented wonderful information, he made it very clear that the journey and decision on that journey were in the hands of me, the reader. It sends a very empowering message that you can take control of your life and that the decisions are truly yours to make. If you are dealing with someone with bpd and are looking for useful information, this book has to top your list. If I could rate it 10 stars I would.

I completely relate to the situation in this book. It is very much about the trials of living with and caring about somebody with BPD, especially a spouse. It offers good advise on how to deal. It is also a very personal account of the author's situation of marriage and borderline. It is an easy read perfect for the betrothed.

Here is my WARNING: While the author takes a deliberate neutral stand about whether to stay or leave your BP spouse, the meat of the book itself doesn't read that way. He shares his story of how he eventually decided to divorce his wife. Much of the book discusses the thought processes about taking a stand against abusive BP behaviors. Excellent advise, inspiring and empowering! However, I found that because it is based on his individual experience, written between the lines it read "end your marriage like I did". I found that to be the underlying message of the book. So once again, the author states in the book that that is not his intention but be warned, you may get that impression. If you are not at a point where you are looking at your BPD situation with some clarity and honesty, this book may give you the wrong impression. I was able to pick up on that while reading it but I can only wonder what people in more vulnerable states of mind (like I was at one point) might get out of it. Remember, the answer may not necessarily be to leave the relationship but to restore your own healthy self. Don't let a book tell you what to do, only let it guide you to making the right decisions for yourself!

I recommend this book, especially if your spouse has or you suspect has BPD. But I HIGHLY recommend the book 'Stop Walking on Eggshells' as a read for anyone who cares about somebody with BPD - a spouse, relative, friend, etc. The more advise and info you can get to take your life back, the better. Read 'em both!

When you love someone with borderline personality disorder, your world doesn't make sense to anyone else and you feel completely alone. This author has written a book that explains very effectively the behaviors that the person with borderline personality engages in that leads to your isolation and how they destroy every shred of self worth that you may have. His words pierce you as he explains his chaotic relationship with his wife that has borderline, and throughout the book you find yourself crying and saying, "me too". Light bulbs go off in your head as you realize that you are not alone and Ozzie Tinman is telling the story of many of us that are suffering in a borderline relationship. His writing validates you and helps you realize that you are neither crazy nor alone in this fight to regain your life.

As he tells his story, the author shares various expereinces and ways of coping in your life. The coping skills are based in common sense and easy to employ, but very effective and necessary. He explains how all along we Ozzies (the author's term for someone who cares about someone with BPD) have had the ability to change our lives for the better, and that we are not powerless to the maddness that surrounds us. As you read you begin to realize that he is right, and there are brighter days ahead.

I suggest this book to anyone in a BPD relationship, as well as anyone involved in any domestic violent situation. The lessons taughts are universal for recapturing your life when someone you care about participates in abusive behavior against you. It is a book about empowerment and caring enough about yourself to not tolerate the abuse. I give it 5 Stars, two thumbs up, a snap and a circle.

Rachel

I have a husband that has Borderline Personality Disorder. Trying to make it from day to day is so difficult and good information out there is definately hard to find. This book is one of the exceptions. One Way Ticket To Kansas gives explainations of BPD and ways a person can cope when someone they care about has this disorder. It is in easy to understand language, which is rare for a book about clinical information. It gives a rare insight of what it is like to be involved with someone inflected with this illness, and also gives you guidence how to take control back of your life. It is a wonderful book. After I read it I bought three more copies to hand out to family members to help explain to them the abusive situation I was in. It really helped open their eyes because I was having a lot of trouble explaining it to them in my own words. Thank you Ozzie Tinman for writing this book. It was badly needed.

One Way Ticket To Kansas is a much needed resource that I have found most helpful with friend/family of clients that have borderline personality disorder. I have looked for information in the past that would help loved ones adjust and find their own self discovery; however, the only books available focussed on the person with BPD, not the pain suffered by friends and family, which is significant. One Way Ticket To Kansas is all about the reader. It zones in on the recovery and mental health struggles suffered by the friends and family that are so often ignored by mental health professionals. This book explains BPD in easy to understand terms and allows the reader to grasp very complex concepts very quickly. I have also found this book to be very helpful in the treatment of those that suffer from any abusive relationship, not just a BPD relationship. This is a must have book if one is seeking information to assist their understanding of BPD and how the relationship effects their own mental health.

OMG, this book is easily the best book out there about taking care of yourself when you care about someone with borderline personality disorder. I bought it after I heard about it from a support group, and some of the members really stressed that I should get it. I have read SWOE and Don't Leave Me, but One Way Ticket just blows the others away. This book was so easy to read, made so much sense, and it felt so good to read that I was not all alone in how I was feeling. I can not stress enough how excellent this book is. If there is a person with BPD in your life, get this book, like now!

Michelle Morgan

Deals with the problem headon. Most of the ride to kansas will feel like your life story. You won't know till you read it but it's true. My opinion: we who are dealing with BPD don't realize how much we need to work on ourselves. Don't let BPD distract you from yourself. Yes, their problems are worst but only for them. Our problems are driving us crazy but they are hard to see because of the activities of the BP.

Remember the old saying: You first put the oxygen mask on yourself, then you can help others. Otherwise, there is not enough time for you to live.