If I'd Only Known... Sexual Abuse in or out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention [Paperback]

Dorothy Neddermeyer (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: November 2000

If I'd Only Known describes unspeakable acts of sexual abuse and incest, as well as the aftereffects suffered by victimized children.

Written by author and psychotherapist Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, this manual on a difficult and controversial topic provides invaluable information on sexual abuse, its aftereffects and how to protect yourself and your family. Giving detailed signs of sexual abuse in children, discovery methods, and step-by-step guidelines that empower you and your children against potential perpetrators, this book will assist in the prevention of abuse.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"Awareness is the best weapon against crime. This book provides the tools necessary to defeat those who would harm children." -- Paul Ragonese, former highly decorated NYC Police Officer, former cablevision host, Safe Streets, Currently CBS Crime News consultant, --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

About the Author

A psychotherapist with over 20 years experience, Dorothy Neddermeyer specializes in sexual abuse, incest and physical abuse recovery. She is an author, lecturer and trainer on a variety of issues, a Diplomat National Board of Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists, Certified Regression Therapist and is listed in Who's Who in American Women, 2000 Edition. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: Amer Book Pub (November 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1930586167
• ISBN-13: 978-1930586161
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.2 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,250,102 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars If you have a child, wake up and read this book, April 3, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: If I'd Only Known... Sexual Abuse in or out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention (Paperback)

The book's title says it all. While women can expect to know 75 percent of their attackers, the U.S. Department of Justice reports that 96 percent of rape victims under the age of 12 knew their attackers. While we might fear an attack on our children by strangers, Neddermeyer's work exposes the truth that your child is most likely to be sexually abused by the person you would least expect. Her book offers a step-by-step guide in teaching your child how to protect themselves from this heinous crime.

Brad Parker
Women's Self-Defense Institute

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars a good primer on a bad subject, April 26, 2003

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Rebecca Brown "rebeccasreads" (Clallam Bay, WA United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: If I'd Only Known... Sexual Abuse in or out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention (Paperback)

Sexual abuse of children by adults or other children is an ugly subject most of us would rather know nothing about...except statistics say it is at epidemic levels. In my experience, it is when those first inappropriate, almost casual, actions go unremarked ("It's just children being children!") & unstopped ("No harm done, they'll grow out of it!") that allows for the next & the next, & each successive instance of abuse will become more explicit & damaging. It ALWAYS does.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer has put together a good primer on what sexual abuse is, how & how much it happens, what to look for, what to do when it happens, how to teach your children to watch out for themselves & how to build a bridge of trust upon which your children can report unwanted behavior.

IF I'D ONLY KNOWN... is an excellent handbook which everyone living & working with children needs to read & put into practice because it is a dangerous world out there & our children cannot protect themselves from older figures of "authority." & because the damage done by ignoring or pretending everything is ok has repercussions that bind child & adult into the dreadful cycle of doing unto others what has been done unto them.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars If I'd Only Known, May 17, 2002

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"fclr" - See all my reviews

This review is from: If I'd Only Known... Sexual Abuse in or out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention (Paperback)

The sexual abuse of children can happen with most any youngster by most any adult but some children are especially vulnerable to being abused and some adults are particularly driven to violating them. Predatory adults threaten families and communities as safe havens and alert us to the need to be informed, vigilant, and clear about shielding children from harm. This timely guidebook is an important step in that direction by alerting parents, leaders, and caregivers to common dangers and calculated grooming that can threaten the well being of children in the home and community. This book is eminently practical and filled with a lot of common sense checks and reminders, the kind of guidance detail that can come from the author's experience as a therapist. With specific examples of how abuse occurs, the author expands her solid overview of the issues in the first half of the book. The last half is devoted to what to do concerns and checklists. This is a guide to prevention that includes also a nice bibliography for additional in-depth help.

Roman Paur
Executive Director
Interfaith Sexual Trauma Institute (ISTI)
www.csbsju.edu/isti
Founder
Faith Community Learning Resource (FCLR)
www.csbsju.edu/fclr