- Paperback: 224 pages
- Publisher: Seal Press (May 6, 2008)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1580052452
- ISBN-13: 978-1580052450
- Product Dimensions: 6.9 x 5.4 x 0.7 inches
- Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars See all reviews (61 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #214,488 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know Paperback – May 6, 2008
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Jessica is also the founder of Feministing.com, which Columbia Journalism Review called "head and shoulders above almost any writing on women's issues in mainstream media."
Her writing has appeared in publications like The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Nation, and Ms. magazine. She is currently a columnist at the Guardian US. Jessica lives in Brooklyn with her husband and daughter.
Top Customer Reviews
Jessica Valenti's writing style is snappy, fun to read, and yet very good at disturbing the reader with insights that are dead-on but easily overlooked in our culture. I've followed the feministing website (which Jessica Valenti contributes to) for some time now, and I am constantly fascinated by the sheer amount of research and information that they find. I'm also disheartened by how often her work is dismissed as "thought police" or "hysteria"--but then, that's exactly what she's getting at in this book: male privilege allows (us) men to mouth off on TV, talk radio, and pretty much every other form of media about OUR interests, but women who do the same are labeled "guy bashing" or worse, simply for acting like actually free people. Books like this one are powerful documentaries about that dynamic, which is taken for granted to the point that those who call it out are usually personally scolded for it. All the more reason why Valenti's contribution is integral.
Oh, this is really interesting, to Jessica personally: you know that part where you mentioned seeing your childhood tormentor, Eleena, talking about her own issues on TV? As amazing as this is, I know EXACTLY who you are talking about. I wonder, do you see her on-screen confessional as a sign of hope, or head-smacking "Jeez, how can she not even get this?"
You know how you go to a party and maybe your friend came in with this loud, obnoxious person? And in order to spend time with your friend (and being an introvert, you hate parties anyway) you must spend time with this obnoxious person? And you realize that everything about you and your friend's companion is opposite and there is NO WAY unless hell freezes over you will be friends? So you stand around, listening politely while the other person shoots off at the mouth, saying things you agree with, but you find yourself almost immediately inwardly opposing?
Well, that's how Valenti and I are. She's got some great ideas, but the way she writes totally grates on me. Little to no research or references, a too-casual approach, tons of f-bombs and lots of goofy, supposedly funny comments to more serious topics. Some people are going to adore this frank discussion; they are going to learn oodles from it. They are going to love how relaxed and carefree Jessica Valenti is.
But when I open a non-fiction book, I want professionalism. I want to see a big, fat Bibliography with lots of references - weblinks AND books, magazines, periodicals. I want a certain tone in the writing. I don't mind some anger, but I want some attempt at objectivity.
This time around, Valenti tackles the double standard. How guys can be ugly, but women have to be gorgeous. How men want careers, and women want marriage and kids. How guys can have frequent sex, but women are called prostitutes. And Valenti attempts to provide solutions to each one.Read more ›
The only real problem I have with this book is the "So... What to do?" section at the end of every chapter basically boils down to "Stop _____. Seriously." I think Valenti could have put more practical solutions to these everyday problems or put in more resources that have some ideas for solutions.
Overall He's a Stud, She's a Slut is great take on sexism and I'll be passing it around to all my friends.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
The book itself was in excellent condition when I received it. I enjoyed reading this humorous approach to double standards that exist in society today. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Irania
For anyone who sometimes struggles to read because of how dauntingly long a book may seem, this is for you. Each "chapter" of this book is no more than a few pages. Read morePublished 3 months ago by R Pierson
Highly readable and informative. I chose it as a reading for my Intro to Gender Studies because it addressed double standards and gender stereotypes in a humorous and an accessible... Read morePublished 5 months ago by KMSteffens
Good points overall, but the writing is a little too informal and laced with swear words to deliver the powerful message that a topic like double standards deserves.Published 5 months ago by blondie93
Jessica Valenti writes awesome feminism and this is a fantastic work of hers. Writing about feminism isn't the easiest thing to do, there's the perfectionist critics, the 'it's... Read morePublished 8 months ago by Ju Landeesse
This book is fascinating in its description of 50 double standards that women face every day in the USA (and probably in other countries as well). Read morePublished 8 months ago by Carlee Jones
Jessica Valenti takes on a serious and frustrating subject matter with wit and humor. Every woman knows all too well the upsetting double standards we must face in a society that... Read morePublished 12 months ago by Book Girl