Our Love Is Too Good to Feel So Bad: Ten Prescriptions To Heal Your Relationship [Paperback]

Mira Kirshenbaum (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 1, 1999

Once the relationship was healthy. And now it's in trouble. Rather than working unproductively, feeling confused, and grasping for tired solutions that seem complicated and irrelevant, do something about it. This book will show you how to sort through all the pain and confusion in your relationship, put your finger on exactly what's been causing all your troubles, and find the precise way to eliminate them.

Psychotherapist and bestselling author Mira Kirshenbaum has identified ten Love Killers that cause all the painful and mysterious problems couples get into. By answering simple questions, you'll be able to diagnose your individual case and identify the lover killer for your specific problems. For every love killer, there is a corresponding Love Builder -- a prescription tailor-made for your particular problem that can help heal your relationship. These solutions grew out of fourteen years of pioneering research into ways couples solve their problems, delving into every aspect of life together, from sex to money, from affection to conversatiion, from watching TV to planning for the future -- all based on what happens to real love between real people amid the stress and distraction of real life.

If you're longing for the closeness and passion that once was yours, find out now what's wrong with your relationship, and exactly how to fix it -- and make your love better than ever.

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

What turns a happy, healthy relationship into a pairing full of boredom or even anger and hostility? Couples therapist Kirshenbaum, author of the bestselling Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay, has identified 10 "love killers" that cause people to lose the good feelings that brought them together in the first place. "Think of a love killer as the equivalent of a ... condition like pneumonia," she writes. "If properly treated, it can easily and reliably be cured." Among the most common diseases threatening romantic happiness: letting your relationship slide as life pressures sap your time and energy, excessive criticism, not opening up emotionally, or the feeling by one or both partners that the other isn't meeting his or her needs. Because relationship problems often aren't what they seem, the book provides questionnaires for determining where the trouble is coming from, as well as a variety of prescriptions for working things out. Don't be fooled by the overly cute chapter headings, each of which is taken from a popular song title--this is an informative, very usable book that is sure to save more than a few relationships from slipping away without either person knowing just what went wrong. --Ben Kallen, Personal Growth editor --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

From Library Journal

After the huge Too Good To Leave, Too Bad To Stay: killing "love killers."
Copyright 1997 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 336 pages
• Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks (February 1, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0380795779
• ISBN-13: 978-0380795772
• Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.2 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #447,837 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Mira Kirshenbaum is clinical director of the Chestnut Hill Institute, a center for therapy and research in Boston, and has been treating patients in individual and couples therapy for more than thirty years. She is the author of ten other books, including Our Love is Too Good, To Feel So Bad, Everything Happens for a Reason, and When Good People Have Affairs.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

27 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book opened up my heart and my mind., July 30, 1998

By A Customer

This review is from: Our Love Is Too Good to Feel So Bad (Hardcover)

I have only picked up three other relationship books, with only one of them being a bestseller but I have never been so into a book like I was with Our Love.... Not only did it help me identify the love killers in my relationship but it also gave me hope. I may have fallen into the love is already dead category she describes but now I know why and where it may have made a difference. The great thing was that when I noticed Ms. Kirshenbaum had an e mail address at the end of the book, I emailed her and asked for a recommendation. She wrote back. She was so helpful. Most of all you feel like she is talking to you throughout the book so getting a response from her solidified her caring nature. I recommend this book to anyone who may have lost hope in their relationships. If the love is still there, then the hope will return once you start reading this book.

25 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Useful, informative book with tools to help save a marriage, January 7, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Our Love Is Too Good to Feel So Bad (Hardcover)

This book was well written, organized and relevant. The information it contains reflects many years of the author's work as a marriage therapist. Unlike many books on the market, this one is aimed at identifying the specific problems which can destroy a marriage. An analysis of each potential problem area is presented along with suggestions for solutions. The book takes into consideration the typical reactions of husbands and wives when their marriage is threatened. Having read many books on marital discord, infidelity, separation and divorce, this book was one which presented practical, realistic goals for the tedious process of reconciliation. The book addressed situations in which reconciliation is not the best course to take, but left that lengthy discussion to other books.

19 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This is the book I've been waiting for--it's the best, March 21, 1998

By A Customer

This review is from: Our Love Is Too Good to Feel So Bad (Hardcover)

This is the first book my wife and I have found to tell us exactly what's wrong with our relationship and how to fix it. It's been about ten days now and it feels like we've finally got our love back. I love the idea of diagnosing your love killer so you can get rid of it. I like the stories too. Finally someone's offering real help you can use.