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I didn't find this book to be helpful.
on January 26, 2014
I read this book because I have a 3-year-old who is very sensitive to loud noises and it affects our lives, although she has been assessed and doesn't meet diagnostic criteria for anything in the DSM-V. I think it's something she will grow out of but I wanted tips to help us right now. This book was not helpful.
I could tell this book was not written by someone with background in psychiatry or psychology. The author is a preschool teacher who has encountered "annoying" children like mine, and annoying parents like me who she writes this book to in order to persuade them that although their children might not meet DSM-V criteria for anything, she, a preschool teacher, is sure the kids have something wrong and only occupational therapy can help.
I'd be fine with that if there was more specific advice in the book but the main point seems to be that early intervention is needed and maturity won't help so hurry up and get occupational therapy. I don't really see a lot of adults crying at fireworks so I'm pretty sure some of us outgrow our sensitivities but I guess the author thinks this is unlikely.
She mocks parents who don't listen to her or parents who think their child doing things like reading early could possibly be a sign of anything positive (it's just a splinter skill!). She has nothing positive to say about any of the "annoying" children she claims to want to help. She is certain their brains are "different" but no references are ever given for that claim or any others. Apparently, it couldn't possibly be the case that there are natural variations in sensitivities and brain structure and function.
It almost seemed like this author was used to parents dismissing her armchair diagnoses (after all, she's only a preschool teacher and an MD would be unlikely to agree with her) and she wrote this book to try to prove to those parents why they were all wrong and should listen to her - not to actually help the children in a significant way.
I ended up getting another book "The Opposite of Worry. The Playful Approach to Childhood Anxieties and Fears" and it seems to be much more applicable to my child's needs and the author has a much more positive tone, and actually seems to respect the children and parents he works with. It's full of great, practical advice, unlike this book.