Overcoming Frustration and Anger [Paperback]

Paul A. Hauck (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 1, 1974

How do you handle frustration? With irritation, anger, hostility, rage? By blaming the person or event bothering you? If so, your reaction will backfire and make you ill, prevent you from handling the problem at hand, and make you an unhappy person. This book shows you a better way to manage frustration and anger.

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About the Author

Paul A. Hauck is a retired clinical psychologist. He has written several popular books offering helpful advice and techniques developed through his private practice.

Product Details

• Paperback: 144 pages
• Publisher: Westminster John Knox Press; 15th edition (January 1, 1974)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0664249833
• ISBN-13: 978-0664249830
• Product Dimensions: 7.9 x 4.8 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 5.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #547,886 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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23 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Anger is self-inflicted; you can stop anytime, June 18, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Overcoming Frustration and Anger (Paperback)

I have read many self-help books (Carlson, Covey,Robbins, Walsch, Peale, Carnegie et al.), but this is the first one where I can say it made a real difference in my life.

The basic idea is anger comes from two things: wanting something and not getting it. When I realized no one has ever made me angry (nor have I ever made anyone else angry), it was both empowering and sobering. I realized I was responsable for my response to events. I was in control of my life. I cannot blame anyone for anything. Anger comes from wanting to get your way, which may not happen all the time. To realize anger is self-inflicted made it easy for me to stop.

A perfect example: getting mad at someone who cuts you off in traffic. You have no power to prevent such an event, but you have unlimited options on how to respond, only one of which is to get angry. You could just as easily sing, dance, drive into a wall or stop the car. The other driver does nothing to you; you do it all to yourself. You have the ability to decide what your response will be. Yet many of us scream and yell and get upset at what the other driver "did" to us. No one reached into our brains and "forced" us to feel or act in a certain way.

Another good part of this book is how to be assertive without being aggressive. You don't have to be a doormat to stay calm in life.

I bought this book because I was frustrated with my lack of success at work. I learned frustration is just another form of anger, also self-inflicted. You can stop it anytime you like. I found it rather easy to do.

I've given this book to 3 people and recommended it to several others.

7 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Makes sense, August 15, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Overcoming Frustration and Anger (Paperback)

One of the better self-help books I have on my shelf. The words in this one stick with me. I catch myself getting upset over something and some of the author's "tricks" to stop the anger come into thought and it makes more SENSE to not be upset than to be upset. I think the key to breaking the angry habit IS to find a way to short circuit the fuse with practical thoughts that allow you to perceive the situation in a more rational light. This book taught me some of those thoughts which gave me the choice to be angry or not.

6 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Best advice I've found., December 4, 2002

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Tamara (Menlo Park, CA United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Overcoming Frustration and Anger (Paperback)

I have just completed writing a three-part article for my company on understanding and dealing with frustration. After weeks of research on the topic, this was definately the most helpful resource I found on dealing with frustration and anger. Instead of being just another self-help book attempting to make you feel better about yourself, it provided concrete steps to change the way you think and feel when confronted with frustration. The idea that you create your own emotions to an event is very helpful. It takes you from where you are today, right now, and gives you a way to be a happier and more pleasant person.