Overcoming Jealousy and Possessiveness [Paperback]

Paul A. Hauck (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 1, 1981

Psychotherapist Paul Hauck, whose popular books have brought help and advice to countless readers, now shows how jealousy and possessiveness--often the most tragic emotions--can be overcome. Applying the principles of Rational Emotive Therapy (RET), Hauck demonstrates how jealousy is a learned emotion and can be unlearned once you understand why you are jealous and begin to think in new ways about yourself and others.

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About the Author

Paul A. Hauck is a retired clinical psychologist. He has written several popular books offering helpful advice and techniques developed through his private practice.

Product Details

• Paperback: 140 pages
• Publisher: Westminster John Knox Press; 1st edition (January 1, 1981)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0664243746
• ISBN-13: 978-0664243746
• Product Dimensions: 7.4 x 4.9 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #69,859 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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79 of 81 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Focuses too much on the non-jealous mate., December 21, 1999

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I feel that this book hasn't given me any solutions to overcome my jealous behavior. There are some solutions but they are not very detailed in how to use them through different stages and situations in a relationship. I think that this book is more helpful for those people who are dating or married to someone who is jealous. Overall I think that if you are a jealous person looking for a book to help you change then I think that you should look for another book.

41 of 41 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Hey, You, WAKE UP your the problem here!, May 31, 2005

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Now I have your attention I cannot tell you the dramatic difference this little book did for me and my marriage. One day my wife comes up to me and says out of the blue "Im not happy I want to seperate, please pack a bag and get out" I was blown away I did not see this coming at all!

This book will NOT underline NOT save your marriage... You will. This is going to take a bit of maturity on your part and also willingness for you to change your behaviors. Let me tell you what I was doing so you dont think I am just some guy who was only slightly jealous.

The more I tried to smother her and deny her basic freedoms the more she pushed away from me. The more she pushed away the harder I tried and the more jealous I became. I did things that were so unbelievable I still cant believe I did them. I used to set up a video camera to watch the house while I was at work so I could see who was coming over to sleep with her. I would find excuses to leave work early so I could suprise her and see who she was sleeping with. Nothing ever proved anything. But in my jealous mind any thing I found like a sock on the floor, proved her infidelity. This meant that I would accuse her of sleeping with people, I was nervous of every man in her life because they obvously wanted to sleep with her and I knew it. I wanted to know where she went and for how long so that I could then question her later and see if her stories were the same if she said one thing wrong I used that to accuse her of visiting other guys. I read her emails to see who she was writing and what they were saying about me. Basically I was a mess. When I began to realize this I slowly started to see what I had done wrong and it all was like a light going off. I had not seen what I was doing. I was like a dog that is chained up and is pulling to get a bone, the more I pulled the tighter the coller was getting and the more it choked me.

I would also suggest a marriage counselor for you and your spouse or partner. Yes this book will help for people that have domestic partners and boyfriend/girlfriends. If you see any hope in the relationship at all dont give up. You can do it! Dont become another statistic.

27 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Not Bad but don't have too high expectations., October 5, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Overcoming Jealousy and Possessiveness (Paperback)

Overall I thought this was a good book. It is an easy read. I do however think it focuses too much on what jealousy is and how the jealous person should take the blame (which I agree with), but it does not give enough solutions to the problem. No exercises or anything like that to help someone control these rages. There are no concrete long term solutions to the problem. At times it felt like the author was saying this is your problem, it's your fault, and you need to do something about it but never gives any concrete suggestions. Overall had some good advice and definitely makes one feel that this "neurosis" as the author puts it can be defeated. . On the other hand I thought that some of the advice was too general and perhaps bad advice. For example the authot offers as one solution to having your partner conducting flirty phone calls in front of you was to do the same to them. I'm not sure if that is so healthy for a relationship. I feel that might come under the 2 wrongs don't make a right category. It's cheap and can be read quick enough that it's certainly worth a try. Don't think it will change your life or anything but a good place to start.