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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Tough Topic, But Must Be Addressed,
This review is from: Overcoming Lust (Paperback)How many guys would raise their hands if asked in public if they have a problem with ogling women or undressing them with their eyes? The answer is only a few brave souls. Yet as the co-author of "Every Man's Battle," this issue hits home for every guy. Jim Vander Spek has labored more than five years to give all men a valuable resource with "Overcoming Lust." His transparency is amazing and his advice is rock solid. If you've been looking for ways to combat those "sexual buzzes" that come your way--and sometimes that's nearly impossible to escape living in this sexualized culture, then get a copy of Jim's book today. You don't have to live another day in sexual bondage and you can experience God's grace in a wonderful way. This book is highly recommended.
5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Crucial clarity and practical, life-changing truth.,
This review is from: Overcoming Lust (Paperback)In "Overcoming Lust", Jim Vander Spek has been incredibly transparent about his own struggles with pornography and sexual sin and how God has given him decisive victory. As a pastor for more than 25 years, I've walked alongside and ministered to dozens of men that have been enslaved by pornography and various forms of sexual sin. And yes, I have read many of the Christian books that have been written in an attempt to help men be set free from this amazingly destructive sin. "Overcoming Lust" may just be the most useful tool I've found thus far.
Jim's definition of "lust", it's distinction from "sexual desire" and the connection "sexual desire" has with a "holy" or "unholy" sexual "buzz", are insights that I haven't seen in the other publications I've read on the subject. When you add in his unique and thought-provoking perspective on Romans 7, very practical advice on using and memorizing scripture, and a fresh view of accountability with other men, before you even finishing reading, I believe you'll rejoice along with me at this latest expression of God's grace towards His people....especially men of God!
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Overcoming Lust,
This review is from: Overcoming Lust (Paperback)This book is Scripturally rock solid. This book takes us beyond "recovery" and into "Victory" over the bondage to lust. If you are tired of "slipping", or "relapsing", study the Bible studies outlined in this book and you can also find total and lasting victory over lust.
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Most helpful book on the topic of Sexual Lust I have seen!,
This review is from: Overcoming Lust (Kindle Edition)Jim Vander Spek has written a great volume on the subject of sexual lust. First, I appreciate that he admits he did not go fully into the sin of lust. He never had a sexual relationship with a woman besides his wife. He heard a message by Billy Graham and it affected the way he allowed himself to indulge in sexual lust. He started to believe that "if, given the opportunity, one would have sex with one he was looking, it was then sinful lust" (Page 28). So this gave him permission to look at whatever as long as he did not actually have sex with that person.
Throughout this resource, the author points out truths that are not commonly taught. "Until lust no longer dominates you, your heart, soul, mind, and strength cannot be properly centered on loving God" (Page 73). He makes it clear that we cannot tolerate this (or any sin) in our lives. He lists many "rationales" men often use to excuse a certain level of dabbling in lust by way of the "illicit sexual buzz". He describes these rationales like this, "something that allows us to live with ourselves and to sleep at night. Most importantly, maintaining a rationale allows us to keep on doing those things that we know are wrong" (Page 63).
Also an important distinction between this resource (along with Every Man's Battle) and others addressing the issue of lust is the clear message of victory. Other books don't set a clear goal of victory over lust but rather give you techniques to manage the issue. The secular as well as many Christian counselors have taken the attitude of the "recovery movement" and look at sexual immorality as an issue of addiction where there is no room for victory but only a lifelong struggle to stay "sexually sober" (Page 109-111).
This author does an admirable job of drawing the distinction of true victory over sin even lust. "Christian abdication to the world's vision of endless struggle without real victory is pernicious since it misrepresents the nature of our new life in Christ. Liberation begins with an understanding that no sin can stand before the power that is at work in us and that the hold of any indwelling, life-dominating, and habitual sin can be broken" (Page 107).
The book is presented in two parts: Part 1 - Battling Lust and Part 2 - Learning from the Scripture. I have not even gotten to the second part of the book and I feel like this resource is the best I've seen about the issue of sexual immorality in the individual believer. In referring to Matthew 5: 27-30, "resorting to physical amputation as a means of eliminating lust is the result of a grotesque misunderstanding of the vital point Jesus was making. Instead of condoning physical self-mutilation, this teaching forces us to recognize that it is not merely observable actions of the flesh, such as masturbation, that Jesus is calling on us to eliminate. Rather, he confronts the lust that is taking place inside... Since blind, handless men are equally capable of generating lust, amputation simply won't work" (Page 134).
"The particular cup (i.e. TV, internet, magazines, etc) from which we drink our lust is not the issue. It is the lust itself that must be eliminated" (Page 136).
The author makes a strong case throughout the book that there are many teachers that are leading many astray because of a faulty understanding of lust and how to gain victory over it. "Teaching about lust which does not provide clear biblical direction spreads a smothering cloak over those who are struggling" (Page 139).
2 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Very practical, Very usable!,
This review is from: Overcoming Lust (Paperback)This is one of the most usable books on this topic that I have read in a long time. Biblically it is right on target. This book could easily be a super resource for a Mens Ministry small group or even a retreat. I bought 2 of them. One to keep and one to give away. Now I have to buy another one because I gave them both away.
5.0 out of 5 stars Read this book,
This review is from: Overcoming Lust (Kindle Edition)Short and simple comment, he gets to the root of the problem and doesn't classify the problem ( habitual sin) as insurmountable.
5.0 out of 5 stars being sexually pure and overcoming lust,
This review is from: Overcoming Lust (Paperback)Overcoming lust is a great book for people who are struggling with sexual sins and want to be set free from the bondage and temptation of lust and sexual immorality and sexual sins. You can only have sexual gratification with your wife not anything else. Christians have to crucify the flesh with it`s passions and desires and they have to have control over lust not let lust control them. Christians or anyone who has problems with sins of the flesh and pornography or sexual addiction should benefit from this book. The book talks about adultery with the eyes and adultery in the heart that causes people to sin in their hearts and minds and become slaves to the sin of lust. Many people are in hell, because they obeyed the lusts of the flesh instead of obeying the commandments of God. Walking according to the SPIRIT and not supporting your sin is gaining victory over lust. God designed us and created our sexuality and wants us to live according to his moral standards not the world`s standards and not be sex obsessed or become addicted or engrossed with sexual perversity.
4 of 7 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Healthy Humans and Healthy Sexuality,
This review is from: Overcoming Lust (Paperback)Endorsement by Dr. Kelly O'Donnell
CEO/Consulting Psychologist, Member Care Associates Inc.
Be encouraged and be transformed! This is the hope-filled message which Jim Vander Spek resolutely presents for those desiring sexual healing and healthy sexuality in his book, Overcoming Lust. Jim competently explores the ensnaring nature of lust and the freeing wisdom of Scripture. He aptly describes how "victory" in our thoughts and behaviours is not just a Scriptural ideal or a naïve platitude but rather an obtainable goal that brings us into a closer relationship with God and others. Through many stories, personal examples, practical advice, and solid Biblical exegesis, he describes how we can overcome lust and break the hold of sexual sin. I appreciate the helpful blend of both encouragement and exhortation to walk in the light--being honest with ourselves and transparent with others--as we pursue sexual wholeness. Also helpful are the timely "challenges" interspersed throughout each chapter reflecting Jim's desire to support readers with the tough love needed to really grow.
Jim minces no words in describing how habitual sexual sin destroys the beauty of our human sexuality, replacing it with a haunting, incapacitating bondage. Like any addiction, it cannot be overcome by sheer will power, by oneself, or by self-admonitions to change. He clearly describes how healing is a process that takes time and discipline, strict accountability, utter honesty, close friends, tight controls (such as with the internet), understanding emotional and environmental triggers, and learning and relearning healthy behaviours. Permeating the healing process is the central role of Scripture. "Do not dodge what Jesus said about lust. Jesus intends to set you free and has told you exactly what that requires." (p. 140)
I highly recommend this book to everyone wanting to prevent or overcome sexual bondage and for those who informally or professionally help others. It provides a much-needed corrective to the prevailing thought that addictions are something we simply must "live with but try not to act on." A huge thank you, Jim, for sharing your life, healing principles and the Scriptures with us. May your excellent work encourage and help transform all who read it!
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Overcoming Lust by Jim Vander Spek (Paperback - October 31, 2011)