The Package Deal: My (not-so) Glamorous Transition from Single Gal to Instant Mom (Paperback)

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"Here's to Izzy Rose and The Package Deal: clearly, she's turning into not only a Fairly Good Mother (the most any of us can really hope for)­but even more important­a Fine Southerner as well! Her 'jump-on-off-that-cliff' bravery and her 'might-as-well-laugh' attitude are all the proof I need." ­Jill Conner Browne, THE Sweet Potato Queen

"In her sweet, funny, and immensely engaging book, Izzy Rose reminds us what it means to be a true family. I wonder if she'd adopt me." ­Cathy Alter, author of Up for Renewal: What Magazines Taught Me About Love, Sex, and Starting Over

"A laugh out loud memoir packed with good advice--a much needed resource for the fledgling or soon to be stepmother." ­Sally Bjornsen, author of The Single Girl's Guide to Marrying a Man, His Ex-Wife and His Kids

"If you are a stepmom, are about to become one or know one, you simply must read this hilarious and heartfelt memoir. Even if you're not a stepmom you'll enjoy it thoroughly, it's that good. The Package Deal by Izzy Rose offers a glimpse into the brave heart of a woman who takes on another woman's children with courage, honesty, and humor. Pour a glass of red wine, dish up a slice of gourmet cheese, and curl up with The Package Deal - the perfect tonic for any stepmother's soul." ­Jacquelyn B. Fletcher, award-winning author of A Career Girl's Guide to Becoming a Stepmom

"Izzy Rose nails how it is and what it feels like to be a new stepmom. There's nothing like that shocking first year! She moved from an exciting career in a perfect location with built in best friends to WHAT? -a strange place with no friends, no family and the expectation of raising someone else's half grown kids. Like many of us, Izzy was uprooted by love, and she portrays beautifully the strong love between her and her fiancé. It's that force that propels them to the next level of connection and confidence that makes it all worthwhile." ­Susan Wisdom, author of Stepcoupling

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Meet Izzy Rose–a hilarious and chic new stepmom trying to come to terms with the package deal. A single “middle-class socialite” living in San Francisco, Izzy loved her career as a successful, Emmy Award-winning TV producer and she was fine with the fact that she was unmarried and kid-less at thirty-five. But, then she fell in love with an irresistible Southern man named Hank and her Izzy-centric lifestyle turned upside down.

In short order, Izzy finds herself saying I DO to becoming a wife and “instant mom” to Hank’s two sons and packing her bags for a new life in Austin, Texas. There, Izzy struggles to hold on to a bit of her professional identity while reinventing the stepmother role in her sassy, stylish, but also loving and vulnerable way. Honest and daring, The Package Deal is a toast to the richness of her new life and a tribute to any woman whose ever fallen in love and then asked, What exactly did I get myself into?

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Product Details

• Paperback: 288 pages
• Publisher: Three Rivers Press (May 5, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0307454339
• ISBN-13: 978-0307454331
• Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.2 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (26 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #69,536 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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5.0 out of 5 stars This is for the sisterhood of stepmothers...., June 7, 2009

By	Susan Davis-swanson "The StepFamily Center" (Beverly Hills, CA USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Izzy Rose has written a delightful book: The Package Deal about her journey from independent career woman to taking on an instant family with two teenage boys! The role she finds herself in is peppered with "Rules" she is learning along the way and some great recipes for coping - check out Gram's Rum Cake. Izzy combines warmth, humor and the hopes and dreams of most women who decide to take on this challenge for the man they love. From the time she makes her decision to move across the country, away from career, family and friends for love, you are in the struggle with her. The Rules that evolve along the way are rules so many in steplife learn, and usually the hard way: Rule #10: Surrender your expectations; Rule #12: When the Kids have a "tude, suck it up and don't take it personally; Rule #16: Compromise but don't sacrifice yourself. Wisdom she is gaining as she moves through the process.

Hank and Izzy's relationship is what stands out though because with a good partnership, the bumps and grinds, stresses and hurts are bearable, even when they seem unbearable. Early on they developed their House Rules, which included the rules the whole family follows and the couples' expectations of the kids; the entire family signed it (kids and parents) and both parents enforced the rules, establishing themselves as the parental heads of the household. Hank is also a partner who realizes the sacrifice she is making to be with him and supports her; he pays attention to date nights, to showing appreciation and to letting her go when she needed to go . Their relationship is one of openness with another, an openness that allows for honest communication, honest expression of feelings and paying attention to one another's needs. So when the turbulence comes, which it always, always does, they are learning to navigate it together and to weather the storms.

Wishing Izzy and Hank a long and happy marriage and I suggest that you pick up this book, laugh with her, cry with her, get yourself some good girlfriends (or at least l) who is a stepmom and poor your hearts out to one another. I know my girlfriends have helped me survive it all!

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The Hilarious, Brilliant, Awful Truth: The Package Deal, July 29, 2009

By	Wednesday Martin - See all my reviews

Attention everyone who has ever told a woman with stepkids, "You just need a sense of humor." Calling all those who presume that the whole problem for those of us having problems with stepkinder is that we just don't know how to laugh it off. Clearly you've never met Izzy Rose or read her book, The Package Deal.

It's not easy to make stepmothering funny, because the difficulties can be so, well, aggravating, consuming, unremitting, and un-funny. Particularly in the first year or so, as the woman with stepkids endures everything from insults to her cooking from kids in a loyalty bind to the insult of stepfamily architecture in which she is the stuck outsider to all the persistent cultural dumbthink about stepmothering ("You'll get back whatever you give"; "All you need are good intentions," "Just love them and they'll come around," etc).

In spite of all she's (and all stepmothers are) up against, Rose pulls of the seemingly impossible: she writes about the frequently bruising and brutal first year of going from single gal to insta-stepmom in a book that is hilarious, smart, and compulsively readable. Never one to feel sorry for herself, and always one to find the silver label lining in any bad situation (Izzy has a thing about adult beverages, bless her), she's more than just a wisecracking protagonist you root for and want to go shoe shopping with. Like a true friend, Izzy makes you laugh, it's true; but she'll also make you cry, make you think, and help you feel profoundly understood.
Wednesday Martin, Ph.D.
author, Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A timeless love story re: a new stepfamily, May 26, 2009

By	Susan Wisdom, LPC (Portland, OR) - See all my reviews

Izzy Rose has given us a delightful story about being a new stepmother. She tells it like it is. She amuses us with her funny,and/or painfully honest stepfamily situations. It's from those stories the reader can gain valuable information and wisdom...as well as hope

Hers is a timeless and touching tale. There's nothing like that shocking first year in a new stepfamily! Like many of us, Izzy was uprooted by love. She moved from an exciting career in a perfect locaton with built in best friends to WHAT? - a strange place with no friends, no family, and the expectation of raising someone else's half grown children. She goes back and forth from cocky confidence to feelings of failure and fear of being miserably stuck.

My favorite part of The Package Deal is how beautifully she portrays the strong love between her and her fiance. It's that force that propels them to the next level of connection, communication and confidence that makes it all worthwhile.

Thank you Izzy Rose for this great contribution to the latest stepmother and stepfamily literature. Your story is thoroughly enjoyable.

Susan Wisdom, LPC
Author of Stepcoupling