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15 of 15 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
we need more books like this, June 11, 2003
This review is from: The Pain Behind the Mask: Overcoming Masculine Depression (Paperback)
I have recommended this book to many friends and clients, and it has been very helpful to them. In the process of ordering another copy, I just read a review that refers to it as "a waste of time" for men. I disagree! But then again, no book is a one-size fits all... This book is a better fit for men who have been depressed in an atypical way and who need a different perspective to understand themselves and get better. (The current working model of depression reflects more culturally "feminine" traits.) This book suggests that when a man abuses alcohol or drugs, becomes aggressive after a loss, or intimidates others with his 'bad moods', it is easy to overlook the vulnerable emotions behind self-destructive behaviors and violent behaviors. It's just as easy to miss the underlying clinical depression. The core value of this book is to suggest that we look beneath the mask. Written more as a self-help book than a textbook, it is shorter on theory and research than I like. But it is geared to a lay audience and succeeds in this way. There are many case studies and practical suggestions that the author's have successfully used in clinical practice. Simply put, this book has been needed for quite a while. But it may not fit everyone in the same way.
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21 of 25 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
The Pain Behind the Mask, January 14, 2000
This book should be required reading for both men and women,since we all want happy relationships.Because male depression goes unrecognized and leads to self-neglect,violence and abuse, society is dealing with the repurcussions constantly. For me, the best part of the book was the steps that men need to undertake to change. At the end of every chapter, affect, behavior and cognition instructs how to do this. As the mother of two boys, and the ex-wife of a man who has never acknowledged his depression this book has given me insight into the culture that unfortunately sees this inability to relate as being"male"This is a much needed book!
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10 of 12 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
useful insight, February 1, 2002
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Having trouble with the man in my life and wanting to help, I set out to find answers. This book is a great window into the head of the men in your life, and the reasons why they do what they do. It gives alot of background info, as well as some advice on how to change things for the better. The book is aimed at men, by men, so isn't preachy, or threatening,- but I definately recommend it for women to read before they pass it on to the guys. Ultimately, it's the man that has to want to heal, but understanding what they're going through can help the women be there for them while they do.
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