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Parallel Play: Growing Up with Undiagnosed Asperger's [Kindle Edition]

Tim Page
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Book Description

An affecting memoir of life as a boy who didn’t know he had Asperger’s syndrome until he became a man.

In 1997, Tim Page won the Pulitzer Prize for Criticism for his work as the chief classical music critic of The Washington Post, work that the Pulitzer board called “lucid and illuminating.” Three years later, at the age of 45, he was diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome–an autistic disorder characterized by often superior intellectual abilities but also by obsessive behavior, ineffective communication, and social awkwardness.

In a personal chronicle that is by turns hilarious and heartbreaking, Page revisits his early days through the prism of newfound clarity. Here is the tale of a boy who could blithely recite the names and dates of all the United States’ presidents and their wives in order (backward upon request), yet lacked the coordination to participate in the simplest childhood games. It is the story of a child who memorized vast portions of the World Book Encyclopedia simply by skimming through its volumes, but was unable to pass elementary school math and science. And it is the triumphant account of a disadvantaged boy who grew into a high-functioning, highly successful adult—perhaps not despite his Asperger’s but because of it, as Page believes. For in the end, it was his all-consuming love of music that emerged as something around which to construct a life and a prodigious career.

In graceful prose, Page recounts the eccentric behavior that withstood glucose-tolerance tests, anti-seizure medications, and sessions with the school psychiatrist, but which above all, eluded his own understanding. A poignant portrait of a lifelong search for answers, Parallel Play provides a unique perspective on Asperger’s and the well of creativity that can spring forth as a result of the condition.

From the Trade Paperback edition.

Editorial Reviews Review

Amazon Exclusive: John Elder Robison Reviews Parallel Play

John Elder Robison is a writer, speaker, and advocate. He is the author of Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger’s. Read Robinson's exclusive Amazon guest review of Parallel Play:

The first time I saw Tim Page, I felt a sense of familiarity. He was obviously smart but shy, socially awkward, with a different cadence to his voice. There was an undefined, instinctive "something" that told me Tim was a fellow Aspergian. I feel different and excluded from much human company, but people like Tim are an exception. They are my people. They are me.

Tim says he’s lived life as an outsider, and that’s exactly how I feel too. As a result, even though I’ve grown up to find commercial success, happiness often eludes me. Within minutes of meeting Tim, it was clear he felt the same. Neurotypical people try to welcome us into their world, but Asperger’s blinds us to the olive branches of friendship they proffer. They even shake the leaves in front of our faces, but we just gaze, impassive and oblivious. People assume we’ve rejected them, but in truth we want their friendship and acceptance with every fiber of our being. That’s the heartbreak of it.

Tim’s story illustrates that reality with clear and moving prose. Even when he’s been with people, much of his life has been spent alone. He was always smart, but like me, I wonder what it’s been for. His book shows that genius has its benefits but it’s not a formula for happiness or even general life success. You’ll wonder if his extraordinary abilities are a cause or a result of his isolation. Or are they just more facets of a unique mind?

Anyone with an interest in Asperger’s and the complexity of the human mind will be fascinated by Parallel Play. It will leave you with much to think about.--John Elder Robison

(Photo © Rick Colson)


"Simply lovely. . . . Page does not glorify or mythologize his condition, nor does he render a portrait of a soul victimized by circumstance. The view from this window is merely one of the human condition, painted in emotions known to us all, yet rarely so finely drawn." —Los Angeles Times

"An improbably lovely memoir. . . . In fascinatingly precise detail and often to pricelessly funny effect, [Page] describes ways in which his efforts to feign normalcy have backfired." —The New York Times

"The wordsmithing is nimble and lyrical, well-tuned by a writer with a musician's ear." —The Washington Post Book World

"Fascinating. . . . In this tender but unsparing look back, Page . . . [leaves] readers to ponder how a condition that bedevils and isolates can also yield magicianly talent, originality, and grit." —O, The Oprah Magazine

"Eye-opening." —People magazine's "Great Reads"

"Page expertly fuses information about Asperger's with personal (at times embarrassing) anecdotesand makes the result feel like Holden Caulfield with a touch of Stephen Daedalus." —Baltimore Sun 

"Parallel Play tells of Tim's journey from lonely boy genius to Pulitzer-winning writer. One thing becomes clear: Tim's sharp and incisive insights into music and the arts were made possible by Asperger's syndrome, the very condition some see as a disability. I guarantee you'll be inspired, amused, occasionally saddened and deeply touched by his story."  John Elder Robison, author of Look Me in the Eye
"A lucid, sweetly sentimental testament to growing up different." —Kirkus

"Tim Page's witty, intellectually stimulating memoir almost made me wish I had Asperger's syndrome."  John Waters

"Tim Page has written an autobiography that is remarkable in terms of e...

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  • File Size: 1267 KB
  • Print Length: 210 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0385525621
  • Publisher: Anchor; 1 edition (September 8, 2009)
  • Sold by: Random House LLC
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B002MHOCS0
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68 of 72 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Living Outside the Box September 9, 2009
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The bare facts of Tim Page's professional life show that not only has he been tremendously successful, he's very decidedly followed his own path. His lifelong love of music led to employment as a radio show host, a platform that allowed him to interview many of his living heroes in the arts world. He won a Pulitzer Prize writing as the Washington Post's classical music critic, a job title he'd coveted since the age of three or four. When he discovered Dawn Powell, then a mainly forgotten author he found he loved, Page got most of her works back in print, edited books of her diaries and letters, and wrote a critically acclaimed biography. Page is now is a music and arts journalism professor at the University of Southern California, an especially impressive accomplishment since he dropped out of high school because it bored him so much he could not force himself pay attention, even when he stuck himself with pins in a futile effort to stay alert.

While high school couldn't hold his interest, Page has had passions that have brought him attention since he was very young. His fascination with silent movies kept him busy writing, producing and filming his own shaky, black and white versions, using the neighborhood kids as his cast. "A Day with Timmy Page", a documentary about Page's movie making, shows Page as a talented, somewhat tyrannical, very young looking 13-year-old charging around shouting stage directions to his friends and yelling "Lights, action, camera!"

While turning the neighborhood kids into movie stars and chasing his passions into adulthood have caused people to admire Page for "thinking outside the box.", Page confesses early in his newly released memoir Parallel Play that he has never had more than a shadowy, uneasy sense of what those "boxes" are.
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25 of 27 people found the following review helpful
Imagine growing up with Asperger's syndrome, feeling that you are so unlike the other children, but without knowing the cause until you reach middle age. The author of this impressive memoir, Tim Page, was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome in the year 2000, when he was 46 years old. Writes the author with astonishing clarity: "Nevertheless, the diagnosis was one of those rare clinical confirmations met mostly with relief. Here, finally, was an objective explanation for some of my strengths and weaknesses, the simultaneous capacity for unbroken work and all-encompassing recall, linked inextricably to a driven, uncomfortable personality."

Being singled out by elementary school teachers for expressing unusual thoughts and exhibiting unusual behavior can not but be a baffling and frustrating experience. And yet out of this painful experience has emerged this short but sparkling memoir that captivates and bounces with life because of the author's vigorous prose.

The title of the book refers to his awareness, even as a child, that he did not think, behave, feel and act as the rest of humanity did. With an uncanny ability and clarity of thought, Mr. Page describes precisely how he felt: "At the age of fifty-three, I am left with the melancholy sensation that my life has been spent in a perpetual state of parallel play, alongside, but distinctly apart from, the rest of humanity."

In a way he had the typical childhood of a boy born with Asperger's syndrome, but who hadn't been diagnosed of the syndrome in early childhood, and so he suffered the consequences: "And so, between the ages of seven and fifteen, I was given glucose-tolerance tests, anti-seizure medications, electroencephalograms, and an occasional Mogadon tablet to shut me down at night.
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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars An excellent account of a life with Asperger's May 7, 2010
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Tim Page's story is certainly well told; which is not surprising, since he makes his living as an award-winning (the Pulitzer Prize, no less) writer, and was a long-time music critic for the Washington Post. While I didn't find his story quite as interesting as John Elder Robison's LOOK ME IN THE EYE, it was certainly better than the two Temple Grandin books I've read in the past few years. But that is probably not a fair comparison, since Grandin's autism was much more pronounced and severe than either that of Page or Robison, both of whom would probably be classified as very high functioning Asperger's Syndrome. Indeed, Page, who mentions Robison's book, said he had even taught himself by an early age to look people in the eye; his father insisted that he do it. Probably the biggest difference between the Page and Robison books was that Page remained quite reticent about his personal life once he'd reached adulthood. His marriages are only briefly mentioned and his three sons were quite obviously out of bounds, as far as this book was concerned.

But there is one particular passage, found on the last page of his story which caught me - convinced me that I would like Tim Page should I ever meet him, eye contact or not. Here it is:

"I have a mistrust of happy endings. Still, today - this hour - I am satisfied. Soon I will return to a house full of books, most of which I've read and some of which I've created - a youthful dream fulfilled."

Me too, Tim. Be happy. - Tim Bazzett, author of PINHEAD: A LOVE STORY and BOOKLOVER, coming in September 2010
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5.0 out of 5 stars Fascinating!
Several years ago, I had the opportunity to coach children (in community theater) who had Asperger's and other autism
spectrum disorders. Read more
Published 5 months ago by Sapphire
4.0 out of 5 stars Great read! Insightful too!
As the mother of an Asperger's teenager, I really appreciated this book. It is both an enjoyable and informative read. Read more
Published 9 months ago by Amazon Customer
5.0 out of 5 stars This is a very good book
The author suffers from Aspergers's and shares an inciteful look into the challenges and ultimate rewards of his own journey. Read more
Published 11 months ago by Boston
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book and would recommend it to everyone!
Great book from a perspective that you normally do not get. Tells how life is for a person with Autism
Published 13 months ago by Julie G.
3.0 out of 5 stars Disappointed
The book is OK but not what I expected. Not a lot of insight into the Asperger's impact on his life--read like a typical biography/memoir.
Published 18 months ago by Beth
5.0 out of 5 stars the best!
This is one of the best Asperger's books I have read. The story of Tim Page "discovering" why he sees the world the way he does is very informative. Read more
Published 19 months ago by Cheryl
5.0 out of 5 stars Came for the Asperger's; stayed for the music
I knew Tim Page's work through his biography of Dawn Powell and his editing of her diaries. I dimly remembered that he was the music critic of The Washington Post. Read more
Published 23 months ago by Stephanie Patterson
4.0 out of 5 stars A very worthwhile read
I just re-read the first third of this book to refresh my memory from the first time I read it. Despite a substantial difference in age and background, I could identify with a lot... Read more
Published on December 11, 2011 by nonneurotypical
5.0 out of 5 stars Lyrical
This book changed my understanding of Aspergers. I didn't expect someone with what I thought to be a linear thinking process to capable of this incredibly beautiful writing,... Read more
Published on November 10, 2011 by J. Thilmany
4.0 out of 5 stars Parallel Play- A former UConn Grad
This book was great! Tim Page offers the audience a powerful story of his life and what it was like being undiagnosed with Aspergers syndrome. Read more
Published on June 13, 2011 by James
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