Parent As Coach : Helping Your Teen Build a Life of Confidence, Courage and Compassion [Paperback]

Diana Haskins (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 1, 2001

Parent as Coach is the indispensable guide for Parents, Teenagers, and Adults who care. Diana Haskins brings coaching and parenting together in a thought-provoking yet practical handbook that points the way toward more harmonious parent-teen relationships. Haskins' insights as a parent and personal coach reveal what young people want from adults and how adults can mentor the next generation. Her Seven Ways to Coach Your Teen speak directly to teens' most pressing needs and parents' greatest challenges.

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Jack Canfield, Co-Author of Chicken Soup for the Soul Series and The Secret says: PARENT AS COACH is a must-read handbook for parents of teen and pre-teens. This approach is practical, useful, direct and powerful. I use the PARENT AS COACH Approach in my own family. THIS WORKS! --Jack Canfield

From the Publisher

Parent as Coach Message: Teenagers can build lives of confidence, courage and compassion - when adults respect, nurture and acknowledge them in a one-on-one connection. Every adult can enjoy “the teen years” and help their teen build a happy and meaningful life – when they view their young people as whole, good and wonderful and put aside the negative assumptions that often accompany the word “teenager.”

Parent as Coach Goal: To create positive, powerful partnerships between adults and teenagers, which allows all concerned to form lasting and enduring bonds of mutual love and respect. To transform parent-teen relationships of struggle, fear, silence and frustration into satisfying lives filled with joy, peace, deeper connections and real communication.

What is Parent as Coach? Parent as Coach is a proven and practical model for improving and transforming the relationship we have with the teens in our lives. The parent-coach model helps us as adults to examine our own core beliefs and respect the emerging beliefs of our “emerging adults.” Instead of teaching how to manage and control teens, Parent as Coach helps us appreciate the unique perspective of our teens and to express respect, understanding and support for who they are right now. A parent-coach does not dictate how to grow up; instead, guides a young person to their own solutions, inherent gifts, and the path to a meaningful and purposeful life.

Who is Parent as Coach For? Parent as Coach is for everyday adults everywhere who find parenting a teen challenging at best, impossible at worst. Relationships between adults and young people can be rewarding, fun, endearing, and energizing.

Why was Parent as Coach created? Out of necessity for one parent. Parent as Coach founder Diana Haskins discovered that previous ways of parenting were woefully inadequate as her child matured into a teen. This everyday parent, trained as a Personal Effective Coach, found that what worked best in the relationship with teen were the skills and processes she used as a professional coach. Coming from the passion of desperately wanting to help her teen and other young people grow into happy and productive adults, this everyday parent developed Parent as Coach for herself and for those who care for teenagers everywhere.

What Difference Will Parent as Coach Make? Parent as Coach changes our global perspective from “Teenagers – Oh No!” to “Teenagers – How Cool!”. From the parent-coach viewpoint, the parent-teen relationship moves from conflict and opposition to encouragement and support. The end result is that our children are raised to fill their “adult shoes” with the skills and maturity necessary to live as functional and responsible members of society.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 106 pages
• Publisher: White Oak Publishing; 1st edition (February 1, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0970225504
• ISBN-13: 978-0970225504
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 5.8 x 0.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #686,751 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Developing Creative Contributors, March 24, 2001

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Jeffrey Brown (Portland, OR) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Parent As Coach : Helping Your Teen Build a Life of Confidence, Courage and Compassion (Paperback)

I have found the advice in Parent As Coach to be clear, well thought-out, and immediately transferable to my experience coaching teenagers and families. The sheer practicality of the PAC approach places it far above most other books on the topic, and I highly recommend it to parents, older siblings, and anyone who finds themselves in the position of coaching, counseling or teaching teenagers.

This book receives my hardiest endorsement as a practical guide for moving beyond limited thinking about teenagers and on to developing the consciousness that will allow teens to become creative contributors of a caring society.

Diana Haskins has written a useful guide for understanding and applying the concepts of how to coach anyone to the unique challenges faced by growing young adults. She begins this work by acknowledging the importance of creating a strong foundation for the relationship by: deepening the connection between adult and teen; strengthening the relationship through heartfelt, effective communications; and fostering a progressive learning dynamic between both parties by laying the groundwork for mutual respect.

From this perspective of honoring and respecting the wisdom inherent in each teen, Diana presents the keys to effective life coaching and addresses some of the most essential concerns teens and parents face today. She reinforces her message by using the language of coaching as a means to respect and nurture, rather than diminish or abandon, the many talents, gifts and insights every teen possesses, giving them the confidence and courage necessary to developing their own unique, and therefore worthwhile, manifestations as fully expressing human beings.

By sharing the principles of coaching in this book about coaching teens, Ms. Haskins has given everyone interested in understanding the heart of coaching, an easy to read, practical guide for learning and applying coaching skills to every relationship. I look forward to additional work by this author, in part because of her clear, well-conceived style of writing that turns sometimes-clinical theories of parenting into a very straightforward sequence of steps that can be practiced by anyone of any age to improve the quality of their relationships. It is this transference-capacity that makes Parent As Coach such a useful guide for all readers.

Parent As Coach is a book I am happy to recommend to my own clients, professional associates and family. I recommend it to you as well.

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Reviewer, Teddy Gardner, Portland, OR United States, March 26, 2001

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Teddy Gardner (Portland, OR United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Parent As Coach : Helping Your Teen Build a Life of Confidence, Courage and Compassion (Paperback)

Are you looking for some new tools to communicate with your children that make a difference? Then this is the book for you! As a mother of two, I have experienced the benefits of Diana Haskin's wisdom when it comes to connecting with children and approaching them with deep listening, respect, love and clear requests. Parent As Coach is personal, practical and offers sage advice for building a strong foundation with your beloved children, as well as all others near and dear to your heart.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars An important and essential book for parents and teens, March 11, 2001

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Sid Smith (Portland, Oregon USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Parent As Coach : Helping Your Teen Build a Life of Confidence, Courage and Compassion (Paperback)

The premise of this book really struck a cord with me. As a teen, I really could have used the active, and positive, support of my parents. When I was a parent of teens, I seemed to have forgotten this. I wonder what the world would be like if all parents and teens read this book. Imagine what would happen if teens really felt respected, listened to, understood, and appreciated. Parent as Coach presents these concepts clearly and concisely, making the book very easy to read and the principles easy to follow. I'd definitely recommend this book.