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Parent in Control: Restore Order in Your Home and Create a Loving Relationship with Your Adolescent

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EXCELLENT! Until my husband & I were given this wonderful book, along with his other book, "BACK IN CONTROL," we had exhausted countless hours in counseling, along with parenting book after book over the years, that didn't help, until Gregory Bodenhamers. I COULDN'T PUT IT DOWN! I have given so MANY copies to other struggling parents of teens, like our son, along with "preaching" his techniques & words of wisdom on a daily basis with other parents I have spoken too. I call them, My Parent Bibles! Personally meeting Mr. Bodenhamer in his "Back In Control" workshops, he has a delightful, unique, & very funny way of bringing his words/skills to other parents, professionals, or anyone who works with troubled/struggling teens. His dedication shows thru & his heart is in the right place! I would HIGHLY RECOMMEND his books! They have given us the first sense of HOPE we had desperately needed. My Son has had control of our house for years, but UNTIL I READ THIS BOOK, I NEVER realized, even being a Nurse, HOW CRUCIAL it was to have a set "STRUCTURE," "CLEARLY DEFINED Rules," "CONSISTENT FOLLOW-THRU," & understanding what "MONITORING at the LEVEL OF NEED," means! Nursing school never taught me anything like these insightful books, when it comes to dealing with difficult kids! HOORAY! For Gregory, saving the day, to help us parents find a BETTER way!

We thought we had done everything we could do to help steer our 14 year old son on track from his social as well as criminal behavior. We attended a court-ordered parenting class, and "Parent In Control" was one of the recommended readings. Thank goodness!!

This book really sees it from the parent's perspective...no glossing it over from a psychiatric point of view, just plain living with a child who refuses to abide by society's rules...household rules...or legal rules.

I only wish I had encountered a book like this when my child was 6.

This book tackles your child's behavior from a no-nonsense approach in all areas: school, legal system, home, society. Don't miss it!!

I have read over a dozen parenting books and this is by far the best. In fact, I was so engrossed in this book that I read it straight through in one sitting. The book is very straight forward, the message and method is easy to follow and, best of all, it works and is applicable to boys and girls. When I finished reading the book I sat down and talked with my teens about the main concepts of the Back in Control program. They expressed relief that "I" (as the parent) was back in control. Again, great book!

Practical no-nonsense guide to help parents with problems such as truancy, running away, violence, problems with school performance and behaviors. I am a psychologist that runs a parent program for the juvenile court. I have found this the most useful book and guidelines available. It does take work on the parent's part. The parent must stick with it and be consistent. The results are worth it!

We got this book because of problems with our 15 year old son. We started seeing results immediately. Mr. Bodenhamer's techniques are practical. They are easy to use, although I have to say that it does take a great deal of self-control on the parents' parts to maintain the level of consistency. But it's worth it!

Living in colorado, the columbine incidient impacted us greatly. This book offers real, common sense help in dealing with all teens. I have put its principles in action with my teen, who is not beligerent, just typical, and they worked wonderfully. I had trouble with my older teen girls, the therapist thought they need more freedom, stating that I was too restrictive. That was lethal,it gave them more license to mishave. Here is an approach that finally makes real sense and gives the parent permission to be the adult.

This book tells it like it is and makes so much sense that it surprising we don't already know it instinctively. Any parent who has a child who is failing, manipulative, lazy, irresponsible and with a million excuses needs to put the control back where it belongs so needs this book badly. I highly recommend it.

Bodenhamer has written a useful approach to children whose behavior has not responded well to more traditional approaches to behavior management. He presents a step by step plan to deal with disrespectful and uncooperative kids. He, nevertheless, glosses over what some other authors have presented in their works and portrays their approach as not realistic. He states that Rudolf Dreikurs, Dinkmeyer and McKay suggest parents ignore many behaviors that are annoying or even dangerous. He purposely, it seems, does not provide the reader with the full story of the approaches that Adlerian's like Dreikurs, Dinkmeyer and McKay really present. They do not simply suggest that ignoring behaviors will work in all circumstances. They provide additional techniques to take an active approach to such misbehaviors. Bodenhamer just glosses over the entire theory these other authors tell to justify his approach. While his ideas do apply to children whose behavior is chronically disruptive, even his approach of simply staing your rules and insisting the child obey is not terribly efficacious without some sort of relationship and effective communication skills.

I have worked with family behavior problems for over 20 years. This is the best book in the field. It really works

Its been over a month and still no book? Not sure what happend, but not happy with the service. :(