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Parent/Teen Breakthrough: The Relationship Approach

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Wonderful! No pushy theories that don't make sense, no religious intonations, just plain, simple, understandable reality. "Parent Teen Breakthrough" not only showed me what to do, but how. And so much is so simple. In just over a month, I have seen triumphs almost daily - and not just with my teenager, but with my two younger children as well.. Ever wonder how you are supposed to accomplish whatever it is you are supposed to do or just how you are supposed to act as a parent? I have been a single mom for most of my children't lives and it has been difficult, at best. Though I have always tried to give them my best, there was something missing. My adolescent daughter was slipping from my grasp. The harder I tried, the further away she ran until, a few short months ago she tried suicide. I was devestated. But with a little help, we have made so much progress since then and this book gave me the insight and wisdom I needed to make it happen. I learned that I really am a great parent. All I need is a little shaping, a little change here and there. The closeness I am sharing with all of my children is the greatest reward I could ever have asked for in the world and I have "Parent Teen Breakthrough" to thank for showing me how.

I found this book browsing in a store. I have been referring to it for over a year now and it has changed my relationship with my 15 and 16 year old. There are no more fights over the little things in life, no more nagging. Just deep concern for my children and the time we have together. When I tell my friends of the theories in this book they think I am avoiding dealing with teen age conflicts, but they will admit to arguing a lot in their homes. Sometimes I think it's a gamble to practice this method, what if at the end of the teen years it was not the way to parent? But the results now are so incredibly rewarding, it almost imossible to think it is not the best way to go.

Excellent book for parents with preteens and teens. It is full of very compelling examples of behaviors that can be expected if a solid relationship between the parent and child has not been established. The crux of the problem is often the parent. We are comfortable controlling our children (it works) when they are smaller and we're quite surprised when they begin to mature and really need us to be a best friend. The book does not preach, but clarifies the value of building a new relationship. Perfectly appropriate for people of any religious faith. It is a gift that I give to parents very often.

During my son's eighth grade year I struggled constantly with conflicting ideas about how to control and moderate his behaviour. None worked and my husband and I spent many hours arguing and I spent many hours on the carpet at the school for various infractions. Completely seredipitously this book landed in my hands. I don't read self-help books and books of that ilk but after perusing the first chapter I thought "Yes, this sounds right." I have adopted the basic philosphy in all my dealings with my son. Despite my husbands claims that it is merely the easy way out (avoiding confrontation and bright lines), it is in fact a great challenge to stand up to the almost relentless advise that comes in on childrearing from all sides. It is not easy to say this is what I believe and I will stick with it understanding what you say about dire consequences. I often feel all alone and this book is a huge, absolutely huge, comfort to me.

This book challenges parents to examine the underlying reason that teens act the way they do.....namely, that they are moving toward independence. They need to figure out the world and their place in it as separate from their parents. Kirshenbaum gives examples of ways in which teens assert their independence and gives ideas how parents can facilitate this process while still giving their teens loving guidance.

A great resource for parents during the maddeningly difficult teen years.

Everyone understand that happy, confident, well- balanced Teen's do not just happen. This is why I feel that parent ought to read Parent/ Teen Breakthrough The relationships Approach. Everyone knows that being a parnet is life toughest job, but thanks to Mira Kirshenbaum and Charles Foster, Ph.D. has built a road map for parent to have a better understanding of thier child emotions needs and how to deal with them effectively. This book also show parents how to help children develop a healthy self image and understand thier own emotional. This book is very insightful and easy to read and easy to understand.

I have just gotten done referring someone to this book... for about the 20th time. I discovered this book about 10 years ago, don't remember from who or where... but I can tell you that it has been my bible! I reference it continually. I first purchased it when my son was 11 and starting to "assert" his independance. I am very happy to say that he is now a 21 year old college student, who is also my good friend. We have established a wonderful, respectful relationship with each other, and I owe alot of it to the thought processes and action I took (and didn't take), after reading this book. I am still referencing it with my 16 year old daughter and the relationship method has been wonderful in helping to understand and react to her growing "learning to leave home". I highly recommend this book!

Finally there is a source out there to really enlighten parents and help us back to the place of believing in the organic nature of our teenagers and their developmental paths.

Often it's difficult to know what can work--so it's refreshing to understand and come to know what CAN'T work when relating to our maturing children.

Easy to read, easy to understand, and worthy of implementing into our daily lives....A real GEM!

I found this book to be a loving and humanistic approach to childrearing with respect for your children as individuals, and offers appreciation for their changing needs as they grow older. As a matter of fact, I think this book is a wonderful perscription for ANY close relationship.

I have read tons of parenting books for those of us with teenagers. There are some very good ones out there. However, nothing spoke to me the way this book did. Now I know how to approach my son when we are headed toward a lose-lose situation instead of a win-win one. I need to approach him the way I would approach my best friend, with respect and seeking a situation that allows us to each keep our dignity while accomplishing what we need to accomplish. What do you do when you're at a standstill with your teen? This book tells you--ask him a few questions, tell him how you feel, tell him how important your relationship with him is, and tell him you are seeking win win solutions to this problem the two of you have come upon. Maybe it is because this book is all about having a good relationship that it seems so logical. I can do that--I do it everyday with people in my life, but it wasn't what I was doing with my kids. I am now, and oh, what a difference that makes. My son has responded to me in ways I never thought he would! Huge kudos to the author for this gem of a book. It's one I am recommending over and over.