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Parenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition) Hardcover – April 19, 2006
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About the Author
JIM FAY has thirty-one years on experience as an educator ans school principal. He is recognized as one of America's top educational consultants ans has won many awards in the educational field. He successfully guided his three children through their childhood and teen years using love and logic.
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Top Customer Reviews
In general, I like the idea of natural consequences, enforcable choices, and encouraging children to think through their problems. I can see myself using these principles with my own daughter, but not always the way the authors do it. Some of the sample dialogues in the book are reasonable but many do not sound as genuine and empathetic as the authors imply.
Some of the examples in the book and in the "pearls" are making me very upset. In one case, a child has been neglecting her dog by not feeding it, so the mom just gives it away with no warning and without confronting the girl about it. The authors admit this is a really tough approach but that's how kids learn that unless you take care of your health and your animals serious illness or death can result. Now this sounds crazy to me. In our home, we think of pets as a family responsibility, so that might be one difference. Still, wouldn't it teach the girl more about empathy to sit her down and say "you can either come up with a schedule and feed the dog or we are giving it away, you have one week to improve." Why do these authors feel that giving someone a second chance is a bad thing? It seems this might teach her "if I don't fulfill my responsiblity, someone else will take care of it for me."
Another example is a mom who asked her son to do something and he mouths off and refuses. So the next day when he asks for a ride she says, yesterday you showed me that asking nicely can be ignored, so I'm not going to drive you to your activity, even though you asked nicely.Read more ›
My background: I am a linguist and cognitive scientist who advocates neurological nurturing and optimal brain health through parenting the sound, scientific way. I have a two year old, and I am a devoutly practicing Orthodox Christian. So note that when I say that I find this book lacking in the Christian principle of love, of treating others how one would like to be treated, and full of evangelical wrong-headedness. It is also chock-full of bad neurological strategies, and takes advantage of a child's dependence and immature brain structure by making them choose out of helplessness to the situation. This is dangerous stuff.
1. Chiming into the chorus - no innocent animal should ever be allowed to suffer; If we took the sound conclusion that the authors make elsewhere in the book, that warnings allow kids to know that they have stretch room in our discipline habits, and that we should avoid warnings and make a serious point to let kids know that unacceptable behavior has an immediate consequence, then the logical conclusion to come to is that if your kid can't take care of the dog they wanted, they have to find that dog (with help, of course) a loving and better home than the one they're providing...not withhold food from the dog. It's cruel, and the dog never deserved to have to suffer.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Very good read. I wish ALL parents would read this--I can't help but think that our society would be much different if kids were consistently loved and responsibly raised!Published 1 day ago by Pacific Practitioner
Foster Cline and Jiim Fay have a winning recipe for how you rear children in today's world AND IT'S BASED ON THE WAY THAT OUR BRAINS ACTUALLY WORK! BRAVO! Read morePublished 2 days ago by Deborah Harding
A great way of parenting- with love and logic. I love the simple tips they give you and they cover every detail.Published 10 days ago by SheeShee
I must remember to read more about parenting books before purchasing them. I would return this if I could but unfortunately I ordered it via Kindle. Read morePublished 10 days ago by Amber Oliver
I liked the one for infants/toddlers the best. This felt like a bit of a repeat.Published 14 days ago by Jay S. Kothari
I have fiends that swear by this book. Thought I'd give it a try since my new boyfriend has small children still. So far seems to be having a positive impact. Read morePublished 18 days ago by anonymous