Forget about Leave It to Beaver, argues Newman (Little Things Mean a Lot) in this revised edition. These days, who needs siblings? They cost more money, demand more time and clutter up the house. One child may be the perfect balance for career types who want a family, or for older parents unwilling or unable to go through another pregnancy. Newman first lays out and debunks myths about the sad lives of only children: "onlies" or "singletons" are not shy, aggressive, spoiled or maladjusted. In the book's most trying section, she presents research and testimonies from parents of only children and from "adult onlies," which are helpful but occasionally sound somewhat scripted. She often seems defensive, and sometimes attacks families with multiple children noting, for example, that having four children is no longer "socially acceptable," or that only children see therapists more frequently simply because their parents are more attuned to their emotions. Yet discussing a case of sibling rivalry, she somewhat smugly recounts that the older child had to see a therapist because of aggression. This selectivity grates, especially later when she addresses exactly those issues that she previously dubbed myths e.g., the spoiled child, or "little adult syndrome." Nonetheless, she expertly discusses the finer points of raising an only child, with tips for encouraging sharing, making sure your child isn't running the household and guarding against a "state-of-the-art Child" that would help any parent in our affluent, child-centered times. Though she is generally too biased to help parents who are equivocating about family size, Newman's appealing, no-nonsense delivery and solid, reassuring advice will behoove those who already know that they will have only one child. (On-sale Aug. 14)
Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information, Inc.
Since almost a third of today's American parents are opting for one-child families, only children have become a popular subject for books in the past year (Ellie McGrath, My One and Only , LJ 6/15/89). Newman, author of several YA nonfiction titles, talks about the pressures facing parents to have larger families but argues that one child fits very well into the modern lifestyle. After enumerating the positive aspects of being and parenting an only child, Newman discusses the negatives but counters with practical advice on how to avoid common pitfalls. Much of the book's advice is useful for parenting in general, but parents of onlies will find this a particularly helpful guide.
-Marguerite Mroz, Baltimore Cty. P.L.
Copyright 1990 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
The book is easy to read, the author keeps an active voice. I've skipped many chapters since they didn't apply to me. I'm not a single father, I know I want just one child. Read morePublished 17 months ago by Happy Husband
This book was fantastic! I am the mother of an only child and have a difficult time finding ANY information about only children, especially parenting. Read morePublished on February 19, 2013 by HalloweenLady1031
Got this book for my daughter who is having problems with her only child. The book offers many suggestions as to how to
deal with the numerous behavior problems the "only... Read more
I wanted this book to be so much better than it was. I have one daughter, 16 months, and we are seriously considering making her our only. Read morePublished on August 4, 2012 by RK
I'm often reluctant to purchase these psychology books because they're so poorly written, take 30 pages to say what can be said in 1 paragraph, ramble, and have few words of wisdom... Read morePublished on November 24, 2011 by Alexanola
This title and synopsis is misleading. Most of the book is to help parents decide if having one child is right for them. Read morePublished on December 21, 2010 by Alison
This is an okay read. I agree with other commenters who've said that it's mostly a book about making the choice (or coming to peace with not having a choice) to have only one... Read morePublished on September 6, 2010 by Jennifer C. Smith