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Parenting That Works: Building Skills That Last a Lifetime

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I saw Dr. Christophersen in a New York Times article about how to teach kids to handle their anger, so I looked to see if he had any books out on the subject. I was very happy to see this book of his! Even better, Dr. Christophersen tackles problems like kids that interrupt too much, as well as divorce. The book -- which is really all about how to raise nice kids -- is easy to understand, and the advice is easy to follow. Dr. Christophersen doesn't believe in punishing a child who gets angry -- because kids learn from their parents. Who hasn't slammed the door when they're mad? Well, if my son is watching that display of temper -- or worse -- I'm teaching him to do what I do when I get mad -- throw a temper tantrum! Look on any highway, and you can see all kinds of temper tantrums -- it's called road rage, but it's just an adult form of temper tantrums. In this book, Dr. Christophersen explains how what we do teaches our kids what to do. If WE learn ways of controlling our temper, such as breathing deeply when WE get mad, we can help our kids to the same. Another good part is about talking with our kids. We all lecture kids -- even when they're too young to understand. Instead, he says, we should listen to our kids and answer their questions. What a fantastic way to get through to a child. If he asks questions, I've got his attention, and he's going to listen to me! The other thing I really like about this book is that it has the backing of the American Psychological Association, which means I can trust Dr. Christophersen's advice -- he's not the child expert "flavor of the week."

A must read for all parents. This parenting book encourages you to get on the "ten year plan." No, this is not a financial or business plan but a way to learn how to play with your child, to go into public with your son, and to develop language skills by talking to your daughter.

The skills taught in "Parenting that Works" will assist you with teaching your child now, what most parents hope to see in their adolescents in 10 years. Christophersen and Mortweet suggest that these skills must be practiced and taught over time, typically 3 months, before they become a part of your parenting style and part of your daughter?s behavior.

This is an excellent book that is easy to read and understand. The examples described by the authors resonate with what parents experience. With practice, patience, and your support; your son will be able to develop the ability to play independently, manage his moods and "self-quiet," and respond appropriately to requests and expectations. These concepts are explained well, are clear and easy to implement, but do take time and energy to practice and get good at!

Another great parenting book by Christophersen and Mortweet. These skills can be used with young children and adolescents.

I've recently been reading parenting books, trying to find good ones to recommend to my patients (I'm a child psychologist). This is easily one of the most comprehensive, well written, and useful books I have come across so far. A very useful guide for parents with or without difficult children.

good parenting tips, realistic examples and scenarios, all in all a good book to have on the shelf. The best idea from the book is that all parents should start with a 10 year plan for what their goals are for their children's behavior.....this is a practical idea that really helped us to begin a discussion about how to parent our energetic 2 year old.

This is a very good read, it provided lots of useful information on parenting, building good relationships and an understanding of how to handle some difficult instances that comes with being a parent.

I love this book. I have read a good majority of the book and not only does it have good tips but best of all what I have really gotten out of it is increased awareness of how I approach every issue or learning opportunity with my child. We have such an impact on the development, or lack of, with our child in ways we are not always aware of. Things such as body language, tone of our voice, and the words that we choose. Sure, I know not to talk down to my child or cruel her but hidden messages in what we say can have a negative impact. This book really made me more aware of the words I choose when speaking to my child and the questions which I ask. I also notice how so many other people talk to their children in ways which are negative without them even realizing it.

I recommend this book for parents and professionals. I am both. My daughter is a typically developing 2-year-old but my specialty, experience, and career are with special needs children, mainly who have Autism or ADHD. This book has some great ideas that I have used successfully with the children I work with and helped provide strategies to help their families encourage growth and development.

Se trata de un libro práctico, con buen soporte científico, con una aproximación útil y que me ha resultado de gran beneficio.
Recomiendo este libro sin reservas para cualquier persona que esté interesada en ser un mejor padre y tenga hijos menores de diez años.

This book is excellent preparation for anyone who is expecting a child. There is practical help for challenges parents face in managing common child behavior problems, such as getting toddlers to sleep and reducing temper tantrums, but the main advantage of this book is that it also teaches parents how to prevent common problems from developing in the first place. It is a must read for prospective parents, especially first-timers.

Very dry reading. Can't hand a candle to the Love and Logic concepts and books.

I read this book as part of a mail order course for the continuing education required for my Occupational Therapy license. I was extremely disappointed and often shocked by the lack of warmth, love or intuitive parenting in the book. I have two children, ages 3 and 6, and I found nothing in this book to be helpful. I'm glad I didn't read this in my first, impressionable years of parenting or I might have followed the poor advice within. This book is an anathema to anyone who wants to build a strong and lasting relationship with his or her child. My advice: try a Dr. Sears book or the incredible book Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Neufeld and Mate.