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Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child: From Your First Hours Together Through the Teen Years Paperback – April 20, 2008
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Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child is a wonderful, thoughtful resource for adoptive parents. As both a therapist and a parent, Patty Cogen offers valuable, practical advice with hands-on suggestions and great tips. This is a book that will grow with you as you navigate your parenting journey. --Carrie Kitze, author of We See the Moon and I Don't Have Your Eyes
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Hi, I'm Patty Cogen, the author of Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child--from your first moments together through the teen years.
I grew up in Los Angeles and by the time I was 30 years old I had lived on the West, East and Gulf coasts. I ultimately moved back to the west coast where I met my husband, Larry. We started our family with Robin, a son. When he was four years old, Robin asked me to adopted a sister for him and eventually, we did adopted Sun-Jia, from China. Because of a series of adoption "miscarriages", our children are nine years apart. I often say I have two "only" children. We all live in Seattle, Washington.
Having one birthed and one adopted child has given me a unique perspective on mothering and child-rearing.
There was so much I wanted to put into my book, but the publisher said, "that's enough!" So more of my thoughts can be found on my website: www.pattycogenparenting.info
I know most people who pick up my book are going to be new or first time parents with young children, but I encourage you to read the book even if your children are older. I spent a lot of time developing the information about pre-teens and teens to help with those two challenging periods of parenting.
Teens have so much on their plates to begin with; and being adopted makes a life even more complicated. My daughter joined an Asian leadership group and was the only adopted teen, the only teen with white parents. Where does an internationally adopted teen really fit in? On the other hand, Sun-Jia was delighted to find other kids who didn't use napkins (not popular in China) and who loved noodles as much as she did.
I hope you find my book useful. I wrote it as if I were talking to you while we shared a pot of tea in your living room (or in my den). People who have read the book say the book sounds just like me, which is wonderful to hear.
If you have questions or topics you like more information on, e-mail me. I might just write a short essay and post it on my website as an answer.
Top Customer Reviews
The sections about teens are especially important in today's world of confusion about parenting the adolescent. Most touching to me is the respect the author shows for teens.
The book leaves the reader feeling supported, with a sense of warmth and hope that even when faced with the most challenging moments as a parent of a teen, there are proven ways to grow through them. Patty Cogen shares concrete methods to use as a parent.
This is an important book that would be useful for any parent of a child adopted from a foreign country. Clinicians interested in clear views about proactive and supportive parenting of children in general would be grateful to have this comprehensive, real-life guide close at hand.
Although the author clearly has therapeutic preferences, she isn't trying to convince us that she is RIGHT. She offers quite practical ideas to help parents to see concrete ways of building trust and attachment, for example, and for understanding our children's difficult behaviors.
I think this book should remove 'Internationally Adopted' from its title: it would benefit all parents!
In the first few hours and days with our daughter, I referred back to the book many times and it gave me tools to get our first smile and our first snuggle. There is a touching the face game she suggests that worked on my daughter and the game was the first time she allowed Daddy to touch her! Amazing!! Our daughter still loves to play so many of the games today.
This book is such a good mix of psychology and practical application that it is still with us 6 months home. We used it as the book title says, from the first few moments we met her and continue to refer to it as new challenges arise. I can see this book is something I will keep for many years. I am so grateful to Patty for writing this book. I truly believe that it helped us be the most prepared we could be. I HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone. It is great as just a general parenting book as well - such insight into our children's brains. Priceless!!!
Most Recent Customer Reviews
The book arrived on time and in great condition. I am an international adoptee, and I wanted to read this book from the perspective of a parent to be better able to parent myself... Read morePublished 2 months ago by Sarah
So far this has been extremely helpful! We are going to be bringing home our 1st child in the next 2 months and this book is really helping us prepare mentally for so many... Read morePublished 2 months ago by Carly Cloud
Best book for International Adoption parenting information!!1Published 3 months ago by kathryn R Gratrix
An easy read that takes a holistic view of what changes and feelings a child may experience joining their new adoptive family. Read morePublished 4 months ago by A.C.
Constructive tips and stories. It doesn't sugarcoat the challenges that might come up, but it does help you think of ways to manage the different situations and recognize them. Read morePublished 5 months ago by NC Reader
This book is easy to read and understand. A must read for adoptive families! It starts with your child coming home and how they perceive the transition, your role as the parent and... Read morePublished 9 months ago by KC
This book has been one of the most instructive and informative books we read prior to our international adoption of a school age child. Read morePublished 13 months ago by Amazon Customer
I'm not a parent and probably won't be one for some time, but this book gave me wonderful insight into the psyche of an adopted child. Read morePublished 14 months ago by goggydodger