Once you open the book, though, it's just as clear that, marketing aside, the book was not actually written as part of the parents vs. peers debate, which it has absolutely nothing to do with. Nor is it a scholarly work, in the vein of Harris's book. The original title of this book was probably something like "The Eight Skills of Raising Successful Children." These simple skills, which Borba (author of 36 other educational publications) has researched and workshopped across the country, then implemented in the curriculum of three elementary schools, are commonsensical, feel-good affirmations for parents and kids. Borba uses lots of lists: the aforementioned eight skills, "four steps to developing positive self-beliefs," "four steps to enhancing social competence," and so on. The "success tips" and affirmations are pretty straightforward, as with this suggested "pillowgram": "Slip a message under your child's pillow. 'Kevin, I loved looking at your drawings today. You are so artistic! Sleep tight! Love, Dad.'" These are fine, basic self-esteem builders; unfortunately, they can sometimes veer too much on the cloying side. But for parents who want to help their children develop the eight skills (self-confidence, communication, getting along, perseverance, self-awareness, problem solving, goal setting, and caring), it should be of significant help.
"Packed with helpful suggestions and insights. This book is a wonderful guide to help kids become winners." (Louise Hart, author of The Winning Family: Increasing Self-Esteem in Your Children and Yourself and On the Wings of Self-Esteem)
"Parents Do Make a Difference makes a huge contribution to the well-being of children. It's positive, practical, and instantly usable. Kids across America will surely become more confident and self-reliant as a result of this wonderful book." (Naomi Drew, author of Learning the Skills of Peacemaking)
"Dr. Michele Borba's years of research and experience make her uniquely qualified as an expert in this field. The many practical and creative suggestions offered here are sound, effective ways of developing successful human beings. I'm certain that this outstanding book will become an extremely valuable guide and resource for both parents and teachers." (Robert W. Reasoner, president, International Council for Self-Esteem and retired school superintendent)
"Michele Borba's book is bursting with wise and practical ideas for helping kids develop the strengths of character-qualities like caring, self-discipline, and perseverance-that make us fully human." (Thomas Lickona, author of Educating for Character)
"Parents Do Make a Difference is a godsAnd for parents. Dr. Borba speaks clearly and authoritatively about the things that matter most to a child's success-not grades or test scores, but the ability to set goals, cooperate, and empathize with others, to be self-reliant and self-motivated, and above all, have high self-esteem." (Thomas Armstrong, author of Awakening Your Child's Natural Genius and In Their Own Way)
"Michele Borba's new book is invaluable. Drawing on a lifetime of rich experience, the author understands parents' concerns and speaks to them wisely and compassionately. Best of all, she spells out what parents need to know in easily accessible language and easily learnable stages." (Nathaniel Branden, author of The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem and A Woman's Self-Esteem)
"Parents Do Make a Difference is able to address the core issues of parenting. Cross-culturally, Dr. Michele Borba has brought valuable insights to teaching professionals. Her parenting ideas have also been widely adopted by parent educators in Hong Kong." (Ivan Yiu, assistant community services secretary for children & youth, Tung Wah Group of Hospitals, Hong Kong)
"Every child arrives in life with a birthright to healthy self-esteem and to be welcomed, nurtured, and inspired by parents who abide by the practices Michele Borba recommAnds in this book. Applying these principles would quickly help the world become a much healthier and happier place." (Senator John Vasconcellos, 13th District, California State Senate)
"Finally, a 'cookbook' for parents and educators on how to raise successful kids. My seminar attAndees have asked me for years, 'Wouldn't it be terrific if children could be exposed to these principles of self-esteem?' Michele, you've done it. The world needs your recipes for success-what a difference they'll make in our kids' futures!" (Bob Moawad, chairman/CEO, Edge Learning Institute, and past president, National Association for Self-Esteem)
"Michele Borba has done it again - she's written another must-have, must-read book! Parents of grown children will ask, 'Why didn't they have this when my kids were younger?' and then buy it for their grown kids so the grandkids will be raised sensibly. I highly recommAnd this book to anyone who cares about kids." (Hanoch McCarty, coeditor of A 4th Course of Chicken Soup for the Soul® and coauthor of Acts of Kindness)
"This book is loaded with practical, proven ideas for teachers and parents to use in their efforts to be the best influence they can be. Children of all ages will be helped to develop skills they need to be their personal best in the new millennium." (Dorothy Rouse, board member and former teacher, Los Gatos Union School District Los Gatos, California)
"By applying the strategies from Parents Do Make A Difference I experienced such stunning success with a severely disturbed foster child that it caused an astonished juvenile court judge to label her transformation "miraculous." He even lead his courtroom in a round of applause for her success and credited her rehabilitation to Dr. Borba's techniques. One could only imagine how using these techniques could profoundly impact the lives of all children." (Dawn Hamill, foster child advocate)
"As one who works with foster children, I consistently look to Michele Borba for her expertise, insightful guidance, and sound advice. I personally have seen miracles occur in the lives of foster children who have been touched by the skills detailed in Parents Do Make A Difference. Because of this book, foster children's lives are being changed - more importantly, their lives are being saved." (Madelene Hunter, recipient of the California Foster Parent's Association's President's Award; founder, Madelene Hunter Foundation Serving Foster Children, San Diego)
"I strong Andorse Michele Borba's new book, Parents Do Make a Difference. Grounded in solid research, her message has the potential to truly help parents help their children be more successful in school and in life." (Richard Herzberg, executive director, Bureau of Education & Research)
This is one of the best parenting books I've ever read!
Parents Do Make A Difference is exceptional and I truly believe it has all the elements a parent needs to overcome all the difficulties we encounter raising kids.
This is easy to read, well laid out and is packed with useful tips on how to help kids be their best selves.
I have a 7 year old and have benefited from reading this book. Lots of good info to dog ear!Published 7 months ago by E.M.
My husband and I are a young couple adopting a sibling group this year. We really wanted some good ideas on how to raise well rounded children as we are not the typical people who... Read morePublished 22 months ago by N. MILLWATER
I read some of it and it is a book and as expected it is old and some pages are yellow but all good.Published on January 27, 2013 by Kat Silva
I bought this book in hopes to provide some insight in raising a self-confident daughter. With all the problems and pressures facing young girls today, I thought the more I know... Read morePublished on May 2, 2012 by KimK
The book has very practical suggestions for seven very specific skills that Dr. Borba thinks are foundational for kids to develop in order that they may succeed in all areas of... Read morePublished on February 21, 2012 by Jenny Whitley-Langley
This book has some sound common sense parenting strategies that hark back to the days of 'traditional values'. Read morePublished on May 14, 2011 by Mr. D. L. Hudson
I haven't finish it yet. It seems to be easy to understand and practice. But I am not sure if it effect every type of child.Published on March 15, 2011 by Not me
I like this book I am a lover of self help books to me and the kids and gave me some good ideasPublished on January 11, 2011 by M. Leon
Con: Contents are presented in a "textbook-y" way, making it seem less personal, abstract, and redundant. Read morePublished on August 10, 2010 by Learningmommy