Passage to Intimacy [Paperback]

Lori H. Gordon (Author), Jon Frandsen (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 1, 2001

Dr. Lori H. Gordon, the marriage and family therapist who has been revitalizing love between couples through her nationally acclaimed 16-week PAIRS program, shows readers in Passage to Intimacy how to develop the necessary skills that create deeply fulfilling relationship.

Hidden expectations, miscues, and a lack of knowledge about the affection, physical closeness and emotional bonds that sustain intimacy are only a few of the relationship "landmines" that can destroy a couple on their road to intimacy, according to Gordon.

Passage to Intimacy includes key elements and basic tools from Gordon's successful course: role-playing, self-assessment exercises, insights from other couples' experiences -- all to enable couples to have a closer, more loving relationship.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"After 40 years as a psychiatrist and marital therapist, the PAIRS program is my most valuable professional and personal tool." -- Clifford Sager, M.D. Author Marriage Contracts and Couples Therapy, Intimate Partners: Hidden Patterns in Love Relationships. Director, Marital and Family Therapy, Payne Whitney Clinic, New York Hospital-Cornell Medical Center

"An admirable achievement. A major contribution to the relationship of any couple who will study its ideas and apply them." -- Nathaniel Branden, Ph. D. Author of the Psychology Of Self -Esteem.

"Gordon is the MASTER and she will guide you step-by-step, building the long lasting relationship of your dreams. -- Diane Sollee, MSW. Founder & Director Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education and Smartmarriages.com.

"With simplicity and its hands-on approach, Passage to Intimacy offers a unique effective way to build and heal relationships." -- Donald W. Adams, Ph. D. Clinical, Child and Family Psychologist. Past President of the North Carolina Psychology Association.

From the Author

PASSAGE TO INTIMACY provides a LANGUAGE and a TOOL KIT. It speaks the language of the heart as well as of the mind. Just a relationship can spiral steeply downward, it can also spiral upward, given knowledge, skill and goodwill.

This is what PASSAGE TO INTIMACY is designed for.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 294 pages
• Publisher: Fireside; Revised edition (April 1, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0671795961
• ISBN-13: 978-0671795962
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #790,012 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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14 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Passage to Intimacy, December 1, 2001

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Kelly Simpson (marriage therapist) (Dallas, Texas) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Passage to Intimacy (Paperback)

This book is made of the things that save relationships and make them great! As a marriage and family therapist, I recommend this book regularly to clients and other therapists alike.

Easy to read and packed with practical tools for people to use right away, this book is full of the concepts and exercises Dr. Lori Gordon has been testing and refining for over 25 years!

I love this book because it focuses on strengths instead of weaknesses and is really a "how to" book instead of "pie in the sky theory." I use it to help people discover what they can do differently as well as to understand their partner's behaviors, but always to help them make something they want actually happen!

Applause for Dr. Gordon, and for her elegant simplicity, profound wisdom, and practical help!

11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Thank you!, December 11, 2001

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Jennifer Sawyer (Dallas, Texas) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Passage to Intimacy (Paperback)

The book "Passage To Intimacy" was wonderfully done. It is helping me in my relationship. I am developing all the skills needed to make it work. It is fun again because we have a new outlook on our points of view. We are actually starting our relationship over and building it to new lengths. I recommend this book to all that want to do it right!

15 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Malescan learn to be intimate, August 7, 2000

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ray duggan (Leesburg, VA, USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Passage to Intimacy (Paperback)

I came accross this book in a "Revocery Works" Book Store in Malvern, Pa. The specialize in AA/NA/Sexual Abuse of both chilren and adults amond other conditions such as depression and female self confidence. I've always had a problem being realy intimate with my female partner/lover/wife. (Not al at he same time.) Only after reading this book and completing the short journal assignments was a able to come to grips with just how the lack of intimacy in my relationships hindered the growth and/or continuing of some relationship. But this is not just a book for single men. It was developed for married couples and then spread to single couples and now, just plain singles. Just as I, a member of the big sometimes dumb, male member of the human race so can the female members of the same race gain knowledge and courage from this book. I used the term "same race because, at times, I felt the women i was dealing with were from another planet. God only knows what they felt about me. It's a five star book and i intend to buy 6 copies for my friends. Assuming i can find them