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Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks; 1 Reprint edition (January 29, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0060834390
  • ISBN-13: 978-0060834395
  • Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.7 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (87 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #8,034 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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“In Passionista, his pleasure is all yours!” (Tracey Cox, bestselling author of SuperSex)

“Passionista satisfies the reader with tasty morsels of sexual enlightenment, nibble by nibble, bite by bite.” (Lou Paget, best-selling author of How to Be a Great Lover and The Great Lover Playbook)

About the Author

Ian Kerner, Ph.D., is a sex therapist and New York Times bestselling author of numerous books. He contributes regularly to Today and lives in New York City with his wife and two young sons.


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Ian Kerner is a nationally-recognized sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author of numerous books including the ever-popular She Comes First (Harper Collins). He writes a well known column for CNN and can often be seen on the TODAY Show and the Dr. Oz Show amongst others. He is regularly quoted as an expert in print and online media. Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors (AASECT) and addresses issues that are common to the "American bedroom." He frequently lectures on topics related to human sexuality, with recent appearances at New York University, Yale and Princeton. Ian is the founder of Good in Bed, an online destination that brings together many of the country's leading sex and relationship experts to provide information and advice. Ian was born and raised in New York City, where he lives with his wife and two sons.

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Great read, very easy.
DarkLight
Definitely lots of great ideas in here about how to please a guy without making you feel like have to do it hanging from the chandeliers.
Christiane F
I was amazed at what I learned and just applying a few of the techniques in this book will maximize your and your partner's experience.
Jeanna M. Williams

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123 of 132 people found the following review helpful By Jenny "North" on February 5, 2006
Format: Hardcover
That's what the author calls himself and his voice is really honest and friendly. I loved this book because it was focused on the male mind and had some really new things to say about the male body. Just when you think you've known everything there is to know about the penis, Kerner gives you some really new things to think about. Most of all he makes you feel really confident and I've already put some of the techniques into action. I also emailed him with a question and he emailed me right back!!!! I guess he really is my friendly neighborhood sex therapist, even though I live in Portlan and he lives in New York.
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122 of 133 people found the following review helpful By Lianne on January 20, 2006
Format: Hardcover
This wasn't what I was expecting, but turned out to be so much more intense and interesting. If what you're looking for is a bunch of tips there are plenty of other books that will give you that like Lou Paget and the other sexperts. This is really a look inside the male mind and how they approach sex and where their fantasies and fears come from and that great sex is more than knowing how to perform oral sex. It's easy to think from She Comes First that that's what this book is going to be about, but really it's just a small piece of a bigger idea. The book is a little dense in places, but it's also really friendly and I think it's unique to hear a guy talk so openly about what's really going inside a guy's head when it comes to sex.
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78 of 92 people found the following review helpful By Brooke on January 10, 2006
Format: Hardcover
I think of myself as a thinking woman, so the title hooked me. The book is definitely long on male psychology and issues affecting male desire and less focused on techniques. It's nothing like a magazine article. But there's so much great stuff in here, and the thing I love most is that the book is really feminist and inspiring. It's not just focused on giving pleasure, but also on receiving. I would have liked some more techniques personally, but after She Comes First and He Comes NExt, maybe we can look forward to We Come Together.
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31 of 35 people found the following review helpful By dragonfly on October 3, 2009
Format: Hardcover
Dr. Ian Kerner puts into words what women are thinking but have not or could not convey to their male partners: Great sex is integral to a relationship based on "intellectual , emotional, and spiritual compatibility." Kerner outlines techniques and ambiance but only after explaining the male sexual anatomy, physiology, and psychology and emphasizing the cultivation of intimacy and desire.

I found it revealing to peek into the male psyche, as Kerner delves into the male-side of the sex story, addressing the differences in how each gender feels about or is influenced by sex and porn, fantasies and penis size, and sexual excitement and love. It was interesting to have the "family jewels" pointed out as both the center of control, the driver of desire, but at the same time, as a locus of vulnerability and sensitivity. (However, the "vulnerability and sensitivity" may only refer to the physical, rather than the emotional for some.) And, it was rousing, almost stimulating, to hear that for men in long-term relationships, "the sex act is the primary conduit for expressing their feelings... [a] path to achieving a true sense of intimacy with a romantic partner."

Now having armed yourself with the knowledge of what "he" feels and deals with, Kerner rubs the female ego with "women, be fierce" anecdotes -- anecdotes about the Woman on the Shaky Bridge and the White Tigress and, despite the gender gap and an even greater sexual gender gap, encourages women to teach their man about "global orgasms" and to begin foreplay outside the bedroom. That is, to explain to make love, not with their penises, but with their entire selves, and that foreplay is the mental component of sex and is about infusing the relationship with a lust for life.
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29 of 33 people found the following review helpful By gotenough69 on April 11, 2007
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I got "she comes first" for my husband 3 weeks before I bought this book. She comes first is one of the best book purchases ever. Based on that, I bought this book. It has some good info on the psychological side of a man's sexual needs, and a few tips and techniques for women. It was a little dry, and I felt the focus kept coming back to me, the woman. It is a very nonjudgmental book, and is very reassuring. It does not expect some amazing bedroom act, rather it shows you how your own emotional tendencies are found in him, and how to satisfy them. It is a simple book with simple techniques that are extremely effective. I WOULD RECCOMEND THIS BOOK, AND IT'S EVEN BETTER IF YOU GET "SHE COMES FIRST" WITH IT. My husband has turned into a different person since this book, and I am loving it.
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25 of 29 people found the following review helpful By Rachel on January 9, 2007
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I bought this book because other reviews stated that it was well written. I mainly bought it for fun (fairly clean) reading. However, it was incredibly insightful. I honestly didn't think I would learn anything, and thought this might be similar to an article featured in Cosmo Magazine, etc. Much to my surprise, I actually did learn a few things about men, and why they are, the way they are. (Or why their body reacts in certain ways.)

Overall, very insightful, clean, well written. If you want a good laugh, an interesting read, and are willing to put down your guard and learn a few things about men you never realized you didn't know, then this is the book for you !!
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