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The Passive Man's Guide to Seduction

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I am always interested in dating/relationship books, but this one, unfortunately, has nothing to do with either subject. The title is very misleading. It gives way too much commomn sense that a school-yard child knows already. Nice cover, but that's all there is to it. Between the covers are things you already know. For instance: Always be nice to women, talk sexy to them (yeah, okay! try that if you don't have the looks to back it up) and many silly things women would laugh at. Save your money, and move on. This will only hurt your chances, plus your wallet if you shell out money for this. I was annoyed and pi**ed that there was so little here. The authors should do their homework before trying to sell a book on the subject. Guys want something that makes sense...and that work.

Parlamis is just another huckster preying upon the socially inept. This 'big print' book (apparently done to flesh it out to 100+ pages) is a rambling mess. Little is given in terms of useful information other than ways to pretend you are Tom Hanks and play chess at a bar, presumably to pick up women. The book reads as if it was hastily written on a weekend using nothing more than a 24-pack of light beer, a selectric typewriter, and 6 packs of lucky strikes.

140 page pamphlet. Huge type. Full of long, rambling...quotes that have nothing to do with the topic.

What little advice it does offer is moronic -- such as pretend to play chess, paying little attention to the game. This is supposed to make you look irresistibly smart to stupid women (author states that you wouldn't want to go home with a woman who knows enough about chess to recognize what you are doing anyway!")

Save your money! This is the first "book" so lacking in value that I went thru the hassle of returning it.

Don't know what these last few reviews are all about, they obviously didn't read the same book as I did. Simplest to say that I learned a load from it, and you will too. Highly entertaining, good information that's helpful not just in dating or meeting situations, just go ahead and purchase this book.

while better than "Don't Be Afraid To Ask : How To Date A Beautiful Woman", this book really had very little actual advice. In fact, the intro explains that it is being written by a layperson... yeah...maybe some of the advice is good, but it's also pretty obvious. basically, it says "be yourself". could have saved several pages for that...not that there are many to begin with.

This book is a testimonial for all of the wonderful things a passive man is, but there is virtually no information that can be used to make you more successful with women. You can buy it if you want to but if I were you I would look at other texts unless I was just wanted to be lonely. Maybe if this book were marketed to women so that they would be exposed to all of the wonderful characteristics of a passive man it might have value. Save your cash!!!

Dating books are usually funny by default, full of lame tips that are unintentionally humorous. Finally, a manual on approaching women that doesn't insult the intelligence- this book assumes that its audience understands the value of a laugh. Meeting people isn't easy, and Parlamis mines the humor within the struggle with an easy charm. This is a manual for the shy, the tongue-tied, and the guy that wants to move up a level in the dog-eat-dog world of intersexual relations. For those that don't think that they need a manual, relax and enjoy the riffs of a shrewd observationist. For those men out there who are longing for female companionship- don't waste eight bucks for another lonely movie night alone or with the guys- read this book, relax and apply its wisdom. This book is more entertaining than Must See TV, funnier than a drunken cat, and more useful than a can opener. Put down that porno and get passive. It's not as fun at first, but pays greater dividends over the long term. Plus it's not as sticky.

After several years, I revisited The Passive Man's Guide to Seduction the other day. I found that the book has not held up well. The narrator, Mr. Parlamis, certainly has the best of intentions when he alleges that there is now a hot market of women scouring the engineering and IT wards for passive men as future mates. Ah, if only he were right. If he were, then a book with such a title as his would not be needed. For the more studious, introverted types like those who write and read Amazon reviews, this is a fantasy which we wish were the truth.

In fact, in all likelihood, the real market is in selling guides for passive males-beta on down-who resent having to alter their inner natures to please women, and want to find any magic trick which will keep them from feeling like total sell-outs. This is one such guide, and I feel very sorry for anyone who follows this author's advice because it so thoroughly contradicts reality. He presents, probably by accident, an argument refuting his entire thesis which is stated by a female acquaintance who observed that women do not mean to be attracted to flashy, brash men; it's just that they stand out from the crowd. Yes, my sentiments exactly. Quiet man will never get enough air time to really be able to compete with the alpha males. Another point that I was amazed by involved his claim that passive and passion are found in the same people. Why? Well, brace yourself, the reason is that they both start with the prefix "pass." That is about as sensible as saying that women will now begin to disdain bad boys as a result of thirty years of cultural Marxism. They will do no such thing. Two hundred thousand years of breeding and 30,000 plus genes will sway them in a familiar direction. The author's misunderstandings are pervasive, and one hopes that this obviously sensitive narrator has not unwittingly led many a man into the ditch. He argues that Passive Man's qualities of being "real, kind, passionate" and "honest" will now become hot commodities, but the average man, the passive, non-Donald Trump man, has always had such qualities in abundance, and he got perpetually rejected as a result. Mr. Parlamis analyzes women under the circumstances of how he wishes them to be as opposed to how they actually are. This is a common practice today and endemic to contemporary talk shows and a meaningful indicator of societal decline. My recommendation is to listen and read between the lines when dealing with others. Do not try to turn them into you. Your motivations are not there's.

Looks like the reviewers are pretty much split down the middle on this book -- half of them think it's lame, the other half thinks it's nothing short of a masterpiece. Pencil me in with the latter group, Franklin Parlamis has hit the nail on the head with this one. To start with, it's insightful and, at times, thought-provoking. On just about every page I had to stop and think about what he was saying. Not because it was hard to grasp (that's actually part of the beauty of The Passive Man's Guide, it's an easy read), but because it was mind-opening and made me think in terms of myself and my social life. Secondly, it's funny -- downright funny. He had me laughing non-stop.

The bottom line is you shouldn't miss out on this book. It's one of the better self-help dating books that works. The advice is practical and the techniques aren't throw-aways. And you will get better with women -- with this amazing book who couldn't?

Tremendous! Well written and offering very-telling examples of the dos and dont's of picking up women. I am 27 years old - well beyond the formative scamming days - yet this book really pulled it all together for me - showing me the psychology behind the art of meeting and seducing women.