Paying for It: A Guide by Sex Workers for Their Clients [Paperback]

Greta Christina (Editor)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 2004

A consumer handbook and etiquette guide, ""Paying For It"" is the first how-to book for sex work clients. Does your sex worker’s face light up when she or he sees you walk in the door? If not, ""Paying For It"" can make the difference between a so-so session and an hour that you’ll remember the rest of your life. Sex workers are like any other workers û they give their best effort to the people who treat them best, and in ""Paying For It"" some of the industry’s premiere professionals describe exactly how to become your favorite sex worker’s favorite customer.

Editorial Reviews

About the Author

Greta Christina has been writing professionally since 1989. Her writing has appeared in numerous magazines and newspapers, including Ms. and Penthouse, as well as in several anthologies, including Best American Erotica 2003. Her influential essay "Are We Having Sex Now Or What?" has been reprinted several times and referenced by scholars, writers and universities throughout the country. Her erotic novella, Bending (S&S), edited by Susie Bright, is scheduled for Fall 2005. She lives in San Francisco, where Ingrid, her partner of many years, also resides. This is her first book.

Product Details

• Paperback: 183 pages
• Publisher: Greenery Press (CA) (June 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 189015959X
• ISBN-13: 978-1890159597
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 5.8 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.1 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,252,559 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

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Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

36 of 36 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Basically an instruction manual for sex industry patrons, October 6, 2004

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Midwest Book Review (Oregon, WI USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Paying for It: A Guide by Sex Workers for Their Clients (Paperback)

The American sex industry rivals the revenues and numbers of employees of several Fortune 500 companies combined. Quiet literally a multi-billion dollar industry, this area of the service industry operates quite similarly to any other in terms of workers and managers getting better revenue flow through better service hallmarked with courtesy, empathy, and professionalism. Paying For It: A Guide By Sex Workers For Their Clients is basically an instruction manual for sex industry patrons to obtaining the most for the money in terms of quality and quantity -- just as they would any other type of commercial transaction for any other type of product or service. Knowledgeably compiled and expertly edited by Greata Christina, Paying For It is a combination consumer handbook and an etiquette manual. Very strongly recommended reading for anyone interested in sex work, whether as a provider or a consumer, Paying For It is virtually unique, expertly informative, and reliably authoritative reading.

42 of 44 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Interesting viewpoints, August 26, 2004

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Todd Hawley (San Francisco CA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Paying for It: A Guide by Sex Workers for Their Clients (Paperback)

This book is interesting in that it speaks of a topic most would prefer to be swept under the carpet somewhere, ie conduct and etiquette when dealing with sex workers of any kind. It's a subject most would rather avoid discussing, but as long as it indeed exists and will never go away, there might as well be a book about this topic. And what struck me about the approximately 30 essays in the book from professional dominants, prostitutes, strippers and escorts was a common theme. The "theme" being that anyone visiting any type of sex worker should treat them like any other worker, by being polite and well-groomed (ie making sure to bathe before visiting one!). While I'm not in the habit of using any sex worker-related services (although one never knows), it floors me to think people just assume because a sex worker is in an "illegal" trade that it gives them the right to be rude or unkempt. It somehow seems common sense to me the nicer you treat someone, the nicer generally they'll treat you. While there are numerous other "rules of etiquette" these sex workers discuss, it seems you'll have a better time by being well-mannered.

This truly is a book that deserves to be available, even if the topic is one that makes some uncomfortable.

32 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Good Introduction to Sex Industry, August 4, 2005

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Jeannette Angell "author of Callgirl" - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Paying for It: A Guide by Sex Workers for Their Clients (Paperback)

What is really terrific about this book is the fact that it incorporates so many different voices, giving varying perspectives on the question. Too often people know about one aspect of the sex industry and make assumptions that they understand everything that there is to understand about it; this book gives enough perspectives to discourage -- though obviously not eliminate -- that assumption.

At times funny and smart, casual and intense, the voices here will make sex work approachable and understandable to those who are just thinking about it, either as potential clients or potential workers, and provide valuable insights into the culture and ethos of the business before faux pas can be made. For those who are just curious, it's an excellent introduction to *some* of the people who live in this world.

--- Jeannette Angell, author of CALLGIRL