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Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting [Kindle Edition]

Laura Markham
4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (250 customer reviews)

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Book Description

A groundbreaking guide to raising responsible, capable, happy kids

Based on the latest research on brain development and extensive clinical experience with parents, Dr. Laura Markham’s approach is as simple as it is effective. Her message: Fostering emotional connection with your child creates real and lasting change. When you have that vital connection, you don’t need to threaten, nag, plead, bribe—or even punish.

This remarkable guide will help parents better understand their own emotions—and get them in check—so they can parent with healthy limits, empathy, and clear communication to raise a self-disciplined child. Step-by-step examples give solutions and kid-tested phrasing for parents of toddlers right through the elementary years.

If you’re tired of power struggles, tantrums, and searching for the right “consequence,” look no further. You’re about to discover the practical tools you need to transform your parenting in a positive, proven way.

Editorial Reviews


"In this compassionate yet practical text, Markham deftly leads parents down a gentler, kinder path to raising emotionally intelligent and happier children." ---Publishers Weekly

About the Author

Dr. Laura Markham is a clinical psychologist specializing in child development and parenting. The founder of, she supports parents every day in her private coaching practice and daily email inspirations.

Xe Sands is an award-winning narrator known for her authentic characterizations and intimate delivery. She has more than a decade of experience bringing stories to life through narration, performance, and visual art, including recordings of Wonderland by Stacey D'Erasmo and Survival Lessons by Alice Hoffman.

Product Details

  • File Size: 592 KB
  • Print Length: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Perigee Books (November 27, 2012)
  • Sold by: Penguin Group (USA) LLC
  • Language: English
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #9,627 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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204 of 212 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars THE Parenting Book EVERY Parent Should Read and Re-Read December 4, 2012
I am a gentle parent. I am a conscious parent. I put a lot of work into keeping calm when dealing with those tough parenting moments. I try to always hold the space for my daughter to simply "be" who she is in the every moment. But...

My default button is impatience and a penchant for raising my voice. *Sigh*

It takes a lot of work to keep myself in check as a peaceful, supportive parent. When I do veer of course, my daughter is sure to remind me of the error of my ways. For days on end. Days. On. End. Impatience and raising my voice does NOTHING to strengthen my relationship with my daughter.

I read and research. A lot. I have read all of the gentle parenting resources out there. I have taken a little of this and a little of that and tried to bring it together into a parenting style that works both for me and for my daughter. Yet, I still have not perfected the art of patient parenting.

I have been waiting anxiously for Dr. Laura Markham of Aha Parenting to write and release a book on peaceful parenting. I love her blog. I find myself nodding vigorously to every post she writes. Her words always give me pause. I digest them. I put them into action. And yet, I knew that she was holding back and had so much more to offer!

Enter Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To Stop Yelling and Start Connecting.

This is THE book that was missing from my repertoire of gentle parenting resources. This is THE book that I read two times in a row while barely coming up for air. The is THE book that has actually showed me, in a palatable manner, how to be the patient, non-voice-raising mama I knew I could be.
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149 of 158 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Your kids will notice the change right away! December 20, 2012
By Shannon
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A childhood friend posted information on "Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids" on her Facebook page, and I finished reading it a couple of days ago. What I have learned from this book has already improved my relationship with my eight year old son. My son thanked me this morning for reading this book. He said I am turning into the mom he always wanted. "Even if it means you don't always get your way?" I asked. He replied, "It's easy to learn from my mistakes when you aren't yelling at me about them." I almost burst into tears. This book is amazing, and by reading it I showed him that it is never to late to change your ways.
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210 of 232 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Good but not for everyone June 24, 2013
By Lisa
Format:Paperback|Verified Purchase
I wanted to love this book but it's not for us. I think it might resonate really well with people into "attachment parenting" and think that should be mentioned in the description. It might fall short with some very strong willed children though, like mine. At least, that's what I found when I tried a few suggestions.

The positives of this book is that it does a good job of highlighting the need for the parent to calm down. There are good tips. It made an important point that other parenting books do not, such as, it's alright to take a moment (or 10!) to calm down before addressing the problem. Many other parenting books say you need to address the problem immediately so the child knows exactly why consequences are happening. It gives some good tips about knowing how your child reacts to certain situations and have the foresight to diffuse them before the problem occurs. It promotes empathy, which can only help your relationship. I found I already do a lot of empathizing with my child.

Where I have the problem is the constant "making light" of problems or trying to turn them into a game in order redirect the behavior. This might work with some kids but not mine. In one example, a child wants the parent to move from a particular spot on the couch and the parent is supposed to make fun and games with the child... but not move from the spot. That only works with my daughter to a point. She would not become distracted, she would play for a while but then become serious and reassert her laser beam focus. Another example is about spitting, instead of consequences for spitting in the house the solution was to take the child outside to make a game of spitting out there. Like, "Oh, haha, look I can spit further than you!
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125 of 138 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars This book saved me after my 2nd child was born January 21, 2013
As of the writing of this review, I have two children: a 3 year-old son and 4 month old daughter. I had the good fortune to "discover" Attachment Parenting before my son was born and have enjoyed raising him with physical and emotional closeness. But around the time that my second child was born, things got really hard. Developmentally, my son was hitting some challenging stuff, plus the stress of a new sibling, a mom recovering from a hard birth, and other stresses in our life that landed at the same time. He was having huge meltdowns several times a day that were really hard for me. Somehow I got the idea that the intensity of his emotions was abnormal or harmful. It seemed silly that he would wail about the most seemingly minor things. Consequently, my "instinct" was to try to "contain" his negative emotions or distract him somehow (or just STOP THE WAILING!). But, no surprise, it didn't work, and the more I tried ignoring or negating his tantrums, the worse they got (and the more disconnected we felt).

At this time, I checked out "Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids" from the library and started reading it. About halfway through the book, I got really angry and almost came on here to write a somewhat negative review before even finishing it. I was thinking, "hey -- I parent this way, and my kid is a mess. This doesn't work!" Fortunately, instead I kept reading and eventually came the realization that I was *NOT* empathizing with my son in his moments of hard emotions. Instead I would negate somehow (by ignoring or explicitly telling him to "stop crying") and/or give in to his stated desire (thus not maintaining important limits).
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful parenting book!
This book should be mandatory reading for all parents. Dr. Markham has a really easy way to understand child psychology and development. And her advice is sound and practical. Read more
Published 3 days ago by AFinkberry
5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful and Effective
I absolutely love this book and Dr. Laura Markham practical loving approach. It forces you to reflect on your own actions and make changes so that you can model and guide your... Read more
Published 4 days ago by gracefuljade
5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommend
Love it in every way!
Published 10 days ago by Mamamia
5.0 out of 5 stars Gentle effective patenting
So far this is my number one favorite peaceful parenting book.
It works! It's gentle and effective way of communicating, bonding and building a healthy relationship with your... Read more
Published 13 days ago by Prettyflower
5.0 out of 5 stars It would have been great to start forming such positive habits right...
Wish I had read this book when my kids were just tiny babies! It would have been great to start forming such positive habits right from the start.
Published 15 days ago by Jean
5.0 out of 5 stars Peaceful family.
This book changed my life and my entire way of parenting. I think I've read by now a dozen other books on parenting but if I were to choose just 1 to read, this would be it. Read more
Published 15 days ago by D
5.0 out of 5 stars Should be given to every new parent without exception.
This book changed not only changed the way I parent, it changed the way I see my child. I have read this book and the read it again and again. Read more
Published 16 days ago by Jessica Starr
5.0 out of 5 stars Life changing book. Love the blogs.
Life changing book. It addresses some core issues that I've not considered. I'm very thankful and happy to have found this author's blog!
Published 20 days ago by CJACKS
5.0 out of 5 stars The best parenting book i ever read
The best parenting book i ever read. Until now parenting books have always confused me and left me with unanswered questions. This one answers them all.
Published 28 days ago by Nina Kirkegaard
4.0 out of 5 stars But I'm finding it very useful right from the beginning
I have not gotten through the entire book. But I'm finding it very useful right from the beginning.
Thank you.
Published 1 month ago by ChiMari
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More About the Author

Laura Markham is a psychologist turned parenting coach and author who advocates a relationship-based model of parenting. Markham's book Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting promotes the idea of peaceful parenting, where the parent manages his or her own emotions, both to deal mindfully with a distressed child and to teach the child successful emotional regulation by modeling. She takes the controversial position that parents need to move "beyond discipline" because punishment erodes the parent child bond, instead focusing on "connection," setting limits with empathy, and "coaching for emotional intelligence" -- all of which helps children WANT to cooperate.

The founding editor of the extensive website, Dr. Laura sends a free coaching email three times weekly to over 60,000 parents. She makes frequent TV and radio appearances, serves as a parenting expert for, and has written hundreds of articles published on dozens of websites. Dr. Laura lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her husband and two teenagers.


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