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People Who Make Your Life Hell: Controlling the People Who Try to Control You Paperback – April 9, 2002


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 208 pages
  • Publisher: Simon & Schuster Australia (April 9, 2002)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0743228898
  • ISBN-13: 978-0743228893
  • Product Dimensions: 5.4 x 0.7 x 8.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 10.1 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,167,341 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By A Niemirowski on May 19, 2002
Here is a book that recognises that people are not all academically prepared or have time to digest elite published research data. The book also acknowledges that we get too much information and not enough knowledge or wisdom. Readers need a book that respects them as individuals with the potential for self actualisation. This is a book readers can readily relate to. They quickly identify and understand abusive behaviour and then choose how to take action to change the situation. We are aware that there is no such thing as a quick fix. Nevertheless, here in "People who make your life hell" is the necessary jolt to make us recognise that we are owners of our life choices and how to ensure that we stay owners. Step one is to recognise that we have those choices.
Lois Grant has drawn on 25 years of counselling experience to produce a 'street smart' book that speaks to the reader as a person not a client. It reaches out to young and old. We as readers identify the 'problem' the problem person and also ourselves. We are, however, not treated as dummies. Readers can use the book as a quick reference or read all 208 pages in one sitting. The format is that user friendly - recognise the person, their behaviour and the issue, decide what to do about it, and then do something to change things - you have a choice.
Each key 'problem' character is reviewed succinctly to enable the reader to focus on the key characteristics (Queeen of Hearts, Cheshire Cat) and discover the underlying issues that keep the problem situation alive and unresolved. Only an informed person can make the vital choice to break free from a destructive situation.
That is the power of the book - it is not just a self help book -it is a wake up call - we have a choice.
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This is not just another book about difficult - or worse - people. Not that most books on the subject don't offer something helpful to those challenged by the sort of people who are guaranteed to create trouble for us unless we know how to deal with them. Which isn't to say that that is easy to cope with such people, even when we are armed with much relevant information about them and how they affect us.

This book takes a respectful, honest, practical, compassionate, empathic and unique approach to dealing with people who tend to make our lives hell unless we have such a guide as Lois Grant. Grant sees the plusses and minuses all people bring to a relationship, including ourselves and those who leave us feeling tormented. She works at helping us to arrive at a win-win outcome with challenging people, rather than being victimised by them or writing them and their potential positive contributions off. The author obviously has built this book on a solid foundation of understanding. Her approach is to draw on this unobtrusively as she offers realistic help. The more one understands the topic of difficult people, the more one will appreciate that this is an exceptional book and author.

I wish there were more of Lois Grant's books in print as I would like to regularly recommend certain of my clients buy it. It is first class.
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By Bazinga on January 24, 2013
An easy to read, insightful bully handbook! The first book I have seen which gets inside the bully's head and gives the onlooker tools to develop the skills to channel the bully into a positive direction. I feel I am on my way to being a "bully whisperer" as opposed to simply a bully slayer which was the best I could have hoped for in the past. The other good thing is that I could see snippets of myself in some of the bullies and realised some of my own insecurities in an non-threatening context. Very cleverly applied psychology.
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3 of 5 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on March 28, 2002
It's a jungle out there! All the different ways in which people who love you - or don't even like you - want to manipulate and control you. Finally, a handbook to help you recognise the different guises bullies come in, and how to manage them constructively rather than trying to defeat them at their own game. This book is as entertaining as it is insightful. Read it all, read parts of it, read it cover to cover, or just dip into it. It's an easy reference book with a more fullsome table of contents than most books, more like a road map to take you straight to the chapter you need. Bullies come in many shapes and sizes and on vaying missions. This book has grouped them into 21 different styles, each carefully named after a nursery rhyme character [to protect the guilty, I guess]. There's the queen of hearts, whose aim is to intimidate you into instant submission through public abuse, belittling and constant reminders of how wrong you are. And then there's Sleeping Beauty - thrilled to see you until someone better comes along. She's only as good as the company she keeps, but it too afraid to let anyone close enough to see how fragile she is. It's one thing to be able to recognise the bullies in your life, but the beauty of this little, easy to read book, is that you are offered a range of strategies to manage them and maintain your dignity and sanity, as well as that of the bully.
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