The Perfect Divorce: A Survivor's Guide By Someone Who's Been There [Hardcover]

Cheri Arterburn (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 2004

"The Perfect Divorce" is designed to help you survive one of life's most potentially devastating events. It's a sad fact that nearly 50% of all marriages end in divorce. That national statistic means that it becomes increasingly important to prepare oneself -- and more often than not, the children -- for what seems like inevitable, the spiraling into the abyss of betrayal, pain, guilt, depression, grief, rage, and even revenge.

But it doesn't have to be that way...

"The Perfect Divorce" is filled with topical, timely advice and tips on everything from helping your children cope to avoiding engaging your ex in emotional behavior that is both reckless and painful. The goal of this book is to help both parties survive the nightmare of divorce without destroying their exes -- and everyone around them -- in the process.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"A fabulous book! I can't recommend this book highly enough." -- Debbi Marcewicz, Writer/Screenwriter

"Cheri Arterburn embraces both divorcees and their children with her wisdom and wit!" -- Lisa Keel, MA, LCPC, author of "Embrace Yourself"

"Engrossing and enlightening." -- Laural B., author of "Survivor of Domestic Violence"

About the Author

Born in Athens, Tennessee, Cheri Arterburn worked in a family law office before studying business management, and psychology at the University of Tennessee. Upon completing her degree, Cheri got married and then went to work for a Fortune 500 company.

After a divorce suddenly left her a single mother of three beautiful children, she decided to devote her time to helping others. She speaks frequently to groups of all ages about every aspect surrounding divorce: prevention, alternatives, preparation, expert counsel, support, helping children cope, financial issues, and dealing with its aftermath. Cheri now makes her home in California.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 118 pages
• Publisher: BCC Publishing (July 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0975304909
• ISBN-13: 978-0975304907
• Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.5 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,592,739 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Learn not to lose control to negative emotions, October 30, 2004

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Midwest Book Review (Oregon, WI USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Perfect Divorce: A Survivor's Guide By Someone Who's Been There (Hardcover)

In The Perfect Divorce, author and divorce expert Cheri Arterburn draws upon her own experience as a divorced wife and mother, who had to deal with the realities of navigating the American legal system, her own emotional turmoil, and the responsibilities to her children when undergoing her own divorce. But In The Perfect Divorce is not just a personal story; in fact, the personal details of the author's divorce are kept brief in favor of emphasis on how to protect one's children, make a good example for them, keep things civil with one's ex, guard one's own interests, and above all, learn not to lose control to negative emotions concerning one's ex, especially in front of one's own children or in any social setting. Some of the author's most eye-opening warnings include the absolute importance of choosing an honest and competent lawyer - one of her first choices was actually paid off by her ex to lobby for his interests, not hers, and billed her an extra $30,000 when she fired him! - and the significance of refusing to sign divorce papers until a settlement is reached, since once the papers are signed the incentive to conclude the settlement diminishes and the process can drag on for years. Perhaps the most crucial warning lies in the fact that once two people have children, they are bound together for life, as both will always have duties and responsibilities to the children... and as a result, even if they divorce, they must learn how to get along with one another, especially in front of the kids. Highly recommended.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The Perfect Divorce:, September 25, 2004

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Rhonda Fuller (California) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Perfect Divorce: A Survivor's Guide By Someone Who's Been There (Hardcover)

A wonderful and helpful book!!I found that Cheri was right to the point on how to work the dissolution of a marriage in a way that keeps children in first priority. She goes past all the emotional garbage that comes from a divorce and gets right to business This book helped to save me the financial burden of attorney fee's by getting past anger/hurt/jealousy of another woman and dealing with the business end of the my divorce, which in time ALL divorces must arrive there, but usually it is only after letting attorney's battling it out at the expense of the client. She give clear step by step instructions to take care of the divorce, and I encourage anyone going through this turning point in their life to read this before wasting thousands of dollars on attorney's fees. Her experience is a real gift to those of us who are now faced with this difficult time.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars the clam, August 3, 2004

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hannah "hannah" (ca) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Perfect Divorce: A Survivor's Guide By Someone Who's Been There (Hardcover)

after reading this book I felt as if I could take anything on. I could not put it done for a min. I still to this day two years after my divorce use this book.It infomation on parening is what has helped me the most. I am a mother of six.. Thank you Cheri

may God bless you