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Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery English Language Edition
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This book is empowering and suggests a mind shift. It gives YOU, the reader, the power to change your life, your reaction to life and, therefor, your feelings. This book is based on zen principle's, primarily that awareness is healing. I believe it to be life and relationship changing, if you allow it to be!!
If you think about it, you are your only 100% GUARANTEED life partner. This book is about looking at your beliefs, behavioral patterns and conditioning in a curious, gentle and open way toward the goal of having a comfortable relationship with yourself. The unspoken corallary to this might be and thereby... avoid projecting your stuff on to others and get involved with the wrong people unconsciously.
This book is indirectly about relationships because by being the person we want to find, we are most likely to attract healthy people who will treat us as we treat ourselves. This book also helps us to look at our conditioning as a whole, which serves our relationship goals by making our unconscious conditioning more conscious.
I have read a number of Cheri Huber's books and have found them to be easy to read, very practical and entertaining. She does not overwhelm the reader with detail, but she provides a lot of useful and practical tools for those brave enough to do deep inquiry. She focuses more on lived experience in the moment than in-depth discussion of theory.
All of Cheri Huber's books emphasize the importance of being compassionate with yourself, looking inward and accepting whatever the present moment brings. I would say that she emphasizes that HOW you do something is at least as important as WHAT you are doing. She also stresses the importance of a daily meditation practice in most of her books, without being preachy about it.Read more ›
I love Cheri's books. I find them to be WONDERFULLY enlightening, interesting, deep and profound, yet fun and funny. A FANTASTIC way to understand deep Zen teachings and apply them to every day life. The books "There is Nothing Wrong With You" and "Suffering is Optional" especially spoke to me.
I REALLY like the handwritten look text. It is both easy to read, and seems more "fun" somehow than regular book type. Her approach is very conversational and fun, and at times, humorous. She draws me in, and I don't want to stop reading (except to do the exercises).
I previously tried to read some of the Zen classics, by both oriental and western writers, but their writings just seemed to philosophical, too dry, too hard to understand and apply, not to mention too small type to read comfortably. I just happened on Cheri's books at my local bookstore. Once I read one, I was hooked! I've read 5 and counting!
This book is GREAT for solving your undesirable relationship patterns. It really helps one take responsibility for one's own happiness...neither looking to another for happiness or buying into "them" looking to you to "make" them happy.
I also highly recommend "If the Buddha Dated" and "If the Buddha Married".
Thank you Cheri!
This is an excellent, humorous, and enjoyably readable meditation on modern relationships and how to survive them; some ways in which we fail, and a suggestion of a way not to fail. The suggestion is that, no matter how perfect the person we have found seems to be, they aren't; and neither are we. The passion we are feeling, no matter how wonderful and exhilarating, does not offer us a waiver for understanding our true selves and doing the hard work of being with another person.
And yet, though we may call it "work," it need not be somber or bereft of playfulness and spontaneity.
There are some basic instructions for sitting meditation and beginning an awareness practice, as well as a lot of "right on" observations about the pitfalls (and the hard teachings) of being in relationship. Decorated with Cheri's characteristic doodles and sketches. Highly recommended.
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This book completely changed my life. I was a philosophy major in college and have been actively involved in group & individual therapy for years, so I've read and pondered life a... Read morePublished 10 months ago by LW21
Excellent and insightful, easy-to-read and easy to use. I can pick it up almost anywhere and find something to apply to my daily practice.Published 14 months ago by NYCAM
easy to digest, read and understand. Cheri Huber gets right to the heart of the heart, and speaks to you like a friend. the style is gentile and easy to comprehend.Published 23 months ago by joe gillis rn
I bought this book about fifteen years ago, studied and practiced it's suggestions. It helped me move forward in emotionally maturity. Read morePublished on October 7, 2013 by CowDaddy
This is a great book. It presents a mindfulness oriented approach to relationships. I've read a few of Cheri Huber's books, but this one is the best. Read morePublished on August 29, 2013 by P. Wright
A different approach. the writer's style is something you WANT to read! Thank you Cheri-I'll read more of your work!Published on August 21, 2013 by suepen1
This book is kind,clear, wise, sane, and helpful!
Cheri has done a great job of identifying some of the most important and recurrent relationship dynamics that cause... Read more