Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery [Paperback]

Cheri Huber (Author), June Shiver (Illustrator)

Book Description

Publication Date: September 1, 1997 | ISBN-10: 0963625527 | ISBN-13: 978-0963625526

This guide to self-discovery through intimate relationships offers a spiritual perspective on healing childhood wounds and destructive patterns that are learned early on and later cause relationship dysfunction in adulthood.

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About the Author

Cheri Huber is the author of 19 books, including There Is Nothing Wrong with You, When You're Falling, Dive,and Time-Out for Parents. She founded the Mountain View Zen Center in Mountain View, California, and the Zen Monastery Practice Center in Murphys, California, and teaches in both communities. She travels widely and often, leading workshops and retreats around the United States and abroad, most recently in Costa Rica and Italy. She founded Living Compassion in 2003, a nonprofit group comprised of There Is Nothing Wrong With You Retreats (based on the book); Global Community for Peace: The Assisi Peace Project; The Africa Vulnerable Children Project; and Open Air Talk Radio, her weekly call-in radio show originating from Stanford University. She lives in Murphys, California.

Product Details

• Paperback: 228 pages
• Publisher: Keep It Simple Books (September 1, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0963625527
• ISBN-13: 978-0963625526
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #46,028 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Cheri Huber is the author of 19 books, including There Is Nothing Wrong with You, When You're Falling, Dive,and Sweet Zen. She founded the Mountain View Zen Center in Mountain View, California, and the Zen Monastery Practice Center in Murphys, California, and teaches in both communities. She travels widely and often, leading workshops and retreats around the United States and abroad, most recently in Costa Rica and Italy. She founded Living Compassion in 2003, a nonprofit group comprised of There Is Nothing Wrong With You Retreats (based on the book); Global Community for Peace: The Assisi Peace Project; The Africa Vulnerable Children Project; and Open Air Talk Radio, her weekly call-in radio show originating from Stanford University. She lives in Murphys, California.

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57 of 57 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Simple, not easy, November 30, 2004

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Joellen Corrocher (Philadelphia, PA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery (Paperback)

This is an amazing book with a powerful message... for those who are ready for it. This is labled as a "relationship" book however is not about changing anyone but oneself. In this little book, the author attempts to talk the reader out of trying to change others and into giving themselves the love you are seeking from someone else. Want caring, devotion and unconditional love?? Give it to yourself! One of her main "arguements" is that one can not feel anyway in a relationship that they do not feel out of a relationship. For example, if you feel lonely without a mate, once the initial "honeymoon" phase ends, you will again feel lonely, regardless of your mate. You change your perspective, increase your awareness, and then your expirience will change! Simple idea, not easy in practice. BUT definetly possible.

This book is empowering and suggests a mind shift. It gives YOU, the reader, the power to change your life, your reaction to life and, therefor, your feelings. This book is based on zen principle's, primarily that awareness is healing. I believe it to be life and relationship changing, if you allow it to be!!

24 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The title says it all!, March 27, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery (Paperback)

Hi,

I love Cheri's books. I find them to be WONDERFULLY enlightening, interesting, deep and profound, yet fun and funny. A FANTASTIC way to understand deep Zen teachings and apply them to every day life. The books "There is Nothing Wrong With You" and "Suffering is Optional" especially spoke to me.

I REALLY like the handwritten look text. It is both easy to read, and seems more "fun" somehow than regular book type. Her approach is very conversational and fun, and at times, humorous. She draws me in, and I don't want to stop reading (except to do the exercises).

I previously tried to read some of the Zen classics, by both oriental and western writers, but their writings just seemed to philosophical, too dry, too hard to understand and apply, not to mention too small type to read comfortably. I just happened on Cheri's books at my local bookstore. Once I read one, I was hooked! I've read 5 and counting!

This book is GREAT for solving your undesirable relationship patterns. It really helps one take responsibility for one's own happiness...neither looking to another for happiness or buying into "them" looking to you to "make" them happy.

I also highly recommend "If the Buddha Dated" and "If the Buddha Married".

Thank you Cheri!

15 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars everyone should be exposed to this book, November 3, 2004

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Christine Chu "uclachristine" (L.A., CA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery (Paperback)

This book really changed my outlook on life. It spells out specific things that we've all been conditioned to believe since we were young, and how those things are direct causes of unhappiness or suffering. It teaches you stop the cycle of letting the past or the future dictate your decisions in the present and your day-to-day life. The book makes you realize so much more than what I've just written. The revelations in it are truly invaluable. Whether you're religious or not, believe in fate or karma or not, single or not, you need to at least be exposed to what's in this book, and then you can decide if you want to embrace it and make your life easier and happier. It's very easy reading, should take the average person less than 2 hrs to get through.