Why We Pick the Mates We Do: A Step-by-step Program To Select a Better Partner or Improve the Relationship You're Already In (Psychogenetics System) [Paperback]

Anne Teachworth (Author)

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Series: Psychogenetics System | Publication Date: September 22, 2003

A Step-by-step program to select a better partner or improve the relationship you are already in. Presents Anne Teachworth's Psychogenetic Theory of Couple Counseling.

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Anne Teachworth's book can help you completely redefine your relationship and also your professional perspective. -- Robert N. Hoerner, MSW --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

About the Author

Anne Teachworth is a Certfied Gestalt Counselor, Diplomat of the American Psychotherapy Assn, and the Founder and Director of the Gestalt Institute of New Orleans/New York.

She has a private practice at 1537 Metairie Road, in Metairie, a suburb of New Orleans, and an office at 315 Central Park West, #1A, in New York City. Her contact number is 1800 786 1065 and her email is [e-mail]

Anne created The Flirting Class for singles in the late 70s in New Orleans. In 1977, she began studying NLP with its co-developer, Richard Bandler, and in 1987m they made one and a half hour color The Art of Flirtation video.

Anne is the author of Why We Pick The Mates We Do, and developer of The Psychogenetic System of Couple, Parenting and Family Counseling and offers workshops and training to therapists and the general public, not only in New Orleans and New York, but regularly in San Francisco and other cities.

She is a Certified Matchmaker with the Matchmaking Institute of New York and teaches on their faculty.

She is also in private practice in New Orleans specializing in couple and parenting counseling and is available for appointmente by calling %05 828 2267. $100 hr or 4 for $360

Product Details

• Paperback: 252 pages
• Publisher: Gestalt Institute Press; 5th edition (September 22, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1889968536
• ISBN-13: 978-1889968537
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.1 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (17 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #412,057 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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16 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The Psychogenetic System of Couple Counseling, July 18, 2004

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This review is from: Why We Pick the Mates We Do: A Step-by-step Program To Select a Better Partner or Improve the Relationship You're Already In (Psychogenetics System) (Paperback)

Psychogenetics is the science of Genetic Psychology, a study of the DNA inherited personality traits that were handed down from one generation to the other.

In WHY WE PICK THE MATES WE DO, there is an 8 question Selection Test which explores the reader's inherited Inner Adult and Inner Mate personality and behavorial traits, both explains WHY and identifies HOW these imprinted Inner Couple interactional couple patterns were learned from one's parents in the first 10 years of life. Neither these adult traits nor these couple relationship patterns were a conscious choice. They are the results of a Psychogenetic trance.

Most relationships are a result of transgenerational family imprints which is what Psychogenetics is all about. Actually your problems have been around a lot longer than you think. Indeed while your conscious mind was searching for a PERFECT MATE, your unconscious imprint was searching for a PERFECT MATCH. Following its established pre-imprinted imperatives, your unconscious mind rejected some partners and selected others for you, regardless of whether that particular partner could help you live happily ever after or not. You may have gotten involved with the wrong type over and over again, gotten into the same unsolvable revolving arguments and had one relationship after another dissolve without ever knowing what happened or why one or both of you changed so much after you got married or became parents.

WHY WE PICK THE MATES WE DO contains numerous proven exercises to help you, the reader, erase your inherited negative imprints and re-imprint positive attraction, selection and interactional patterns so you can reverse the unhappy relationship pattern you are already in with your current partner or stop repeating the same mistakes in mate selection. The Psychogenetic Sysem in the book will show you how to locate and deactivate the hidden landmines left over from your parents' relationship wars, and stop 'things that go boom in the night.' The approach can also help you change your imprint if you are single now so you will automatically be attracted to the right type of partner next time and be able to interact in more successful ways than before.

One of the best uses of this book is as a pre-marital guide especially for people who are always attracted to the wrong person or whose relationships keep turning out badly. It will explain what 'chemistry' really is and how to change the type of person you are attracted to so that you can fall in love with someone who is good to you and for you, and not the same old type that is bad to and for you.

Now you can find out BEFORE you get involved with a potential partner what your relationship will be like AFTER you two get involved or married. And you can also predict BEFORE you have children if that step will improve or ruin your couple relationship. You can know ahead of time what type of parents each of you will be. Take the guesswork out of it.

If you are already in a relationship or married, WHY WE PICK THE MATES WE DO can not only help you understand the unconscious imperatives in your imprinted Inner Couple relationship pattern that forced you to pick the partner you did, but locate and deactivate the hidden landmines that have caused the trouble between you, and the imprinted trance-ferences that produced the changes in you and your partner's personality AFTER you get married and became PARENTS. The insights are amazing and the instructions on how to reprogram your relationship are specific and effective. Finally, here's a way to SOLVE your relationship problems instead of DISSOLVING one relationship after another.

DON'T JUST GET INVOLVED WITH YOUR PARTNER, GET EVOLVED!

8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars grt but alot of participation required, October 28, 2006

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Andy "Aspe Andy Female" (Short Hills, NJ) - See all my reviews

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This review is from: Why We Pick the Mates We Do: A Step-By-Step Program to Select a Better Partner or Improve the Relationship You're Already in (Paperback)

This book is certainly very good and very different then any other self help book on the market. However, to gain from it you must be willing to do it's total workbook component to it which is a lot of the book. I usually like or love books like that if there really good ones however, this one requires you to be able to get assistance from atleast 2 parents and 1 previous or ex husband, wife, or significant other. Not only that but the more group help you get with this very possibly the more this book will likely help you. It also forces you to remember alot of your past so if you don't and don't have relatives to remember it for you I don't recommend this book. The advice in it could be unnusual and right but most of it is given based on your grt workbook participation. There is more then a few inventories/tests in here. Plus, it's pricy. The other good thing is most of the advice you can rarely if ever see elsewhere so the author obviously did her homework and research.So unlike most self help books this book isn't at all simple but that's what makes it so unique and such a benefit to read!

7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Couples Counseling Dream Book, May 11, 2001

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Robert N. Hoerner (Metairie, LA United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Why We Pick the Mates We Do: A Step-by-step Program To Select a Better Partner or Improve the Relationship You're Already In (Psychogenetics System) (Paperback)

As a social worker who specializes in couples counseling, Anne Teachworth's book has helped me make new insights and associations in my practice. Her connection from current adult relationships with spouses/partners to childhood relationships with that individual's parents is a stroke of genius. I literally am better able to predict and possibly prevent problems in couples' relationships because of Anne's book. I strongly recommend this book to anyone in the field of couples' counseling as well as those individuals interested in self-help. It should be a must read for any graduate program specializing in relationship counseling, especially pre-marital since the Selection Test in the book is accurately able to predict BEFORE a couple gets married, how their relationship will be after. Bravo Anne and thank you!