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Picking Your Battles: Winning Strategies for Raising Well-Behaved Kids [Paperback]

Bonnie Maslin (Author)
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May 19, 2004
How often as parents do we promise ourselves that we won't "sweat the small stuff" when it comes to our kids? And how often does our concern--or our tight schedules--make us do exactly that?

In a non-judgemental voice that speaks to parents everywhere, the author shows how to avoid "no-win" discipline styles and instead set limits, develop a child's sense of self-discipline, and use anger positively to survive the hassles and headaches of everyday life. With a unique and effective combination of authority and accessibility, Maslin gives parents both the big picture on understanding their child and step-by-step solutions to those inevitable battles they will face.

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"What I like about this book is its positive tone and no-holds barred information about how to parent children so that they will develop their potential and learn structure. All parents will find this book immensely practical and useful. I highly recommend it."
-Harville Hendrix, Ph. D., author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, and co-author with Helen LaKelly Hunt of Giving the Love that Heals: A Guide for Parents

"This is a compelling, engrossing and informative read. It combines the practical with the analytical, making you understand what to do with developing children and why. The content and format make it accessible and consumer friendly. No parent should miss this resource as a necessity and a comfort."
-Janice Weinman, Ed.D., president, Kids in Distressed Situations, Inc. (K.I.D.S.), former executive vice president, The College Board, special assistant to the U.S. Secretary of Education

"In this important book, weary parents will quickly learn to pick their combative engagements properly-in order not to become battle-fatigued in the foxholes of family life. Dr. Maslin has designed a balancing act for child-rearing that is parent-friendly and child-sensitive. And now, these triumphant care-takers will be able to deliver to the world fully-functioning children who will become adults that are loving, mature, self-responsible, disciplined, and endowed with wisdom gained from winning strategies that abound in Bonnie's kidology concepts."
-Dr. Gwendolyn Goldsby Grant, psychologist, parent, advice columnist Essence magazine, and author of The Best Kind of Loving

"For real estate, the credo is 'location, location, location.' For parent books, it is 'practical, practical, practical.' Bonnie Maslin in Picking Your Battles takes knowledge and turns it into steps of effective wisdom. Children taught discipline by parents are thus helped to avoid the later much harsher discipline required when taught by life."
-John E. Schowalter, M.D., Albert J. Solnit Professor Emeritus, Yale University Child Study Center

"Picking Your Battles is a wonderful book. Bonnie Maslin has a gift for making the challenges of parenting easier and more rewarding. Dr. Maslin has used her own experiences as a parent and grandparent and years of clinical practice to make Picking Your Battles easy to read and an essential book for all parents. It will help parents to be better informed and more likely to find parenting easier, more fun and more rewarding." -Harold S. Koplewicz, M.D., Founder and Director, New York University Child Study Center, Arnold and Debbie Simon Professor of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, NYU School of Medicine

"Dr. Bonnie Maslin has done it again. Knitting together years of expertise, nuggets of wisdom, and superb intuition, Picking Your Battles is a reader-friendly way to help hurried and embattled parents create a stress-free homelife. This delightfully written strategic guide is perfect for parents who would rather hug than fight."
-Professor Kathy Hirsh-Pasek, author of Einstein Never Used Flashcards and How Babies Talk

"This is an incredibly powerful book for parents because it speaks their language and it gives them examples of the very thing they may be struggling with when they read it. It is written in a direct, honest, non-judgmental, and open manner and affords the reader the opportunity to consider their own behavior without blame and without a sense of having 'harmed' their child. Dr. Maslin has done a superb job in writing a book about child development that is not pedantic but, rather, it is a caring, sensitive book which stresses the need for people to think about their own feelings and their own experiences when dealing with their children. It is a must for all parents."
-Paul Jay Fink, MD/professor of psychiatry, Temple University School of Medicine, past president of the American Psychiatric Association

"The book is marvelous. It's funny and real. This is the first book I've read about parents and kids that tells it like it is and offers insights that you can really put to work in real life. It's written with verve and wit, and I am going to recommend it to the families I work with."
-Susanna Morgenthau, family therapist

About the Author

Bonnie Maslin, Ph.D., is a psychologist who has worked as a psychotherapist and educator for over twenty years. The author of most recently The Angry Marriage and other books on families and relationships, she has been a frequent guest on many TV programs. She and her husband live in New York City and have four children.

Product Details

  • Paperback: 368 pages
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin; First Edition edition (May 19, 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0312263783
  • ISBN-13: 978-0312263782
  • Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 6.1 x 1.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 14.1 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (8 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,192,013 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Bonnie Maslin's Picking Your Battles, October 17, 2005
This review is from: Picking Your Battles: Winning Strategies for Raising Well-Behaved Kids (Paperback)
I bought this book after reading the reviews and hoped and crossed fingers that this book would help me to get back to how I was before I became a mother or at least help me to be a good mother and not a nagging old witch that I have now become.

Well I'm glad I did! I have two boys, one nine and the other twelve...and after reading the book I wished I had the book before I even gave birth to either of them. There's lots of valuable information on raising kids and how to discipline them. It also helps us to identify what type of parent we are and how to rate the behavioral breach.. but I especially liked the part about looking at our children and seeing them as a "work in progress" and "person under construction"., so whatever we do and say just remember this and it actually helped me better to deal with them.

I had some trouble with my younger one, one morning (yup!just before going to school). He was moody, cranky and scolding me and everyone in the room about how we must have misplaced one of his workbooks.,etc, etc.... and I decided to try one of Bonnie Maslin's kidology ..and What she said "No matter how angry I get with you or how furious you get with me, we will always love each other. There is always love after anger." In my own words of course, but the intention and the feeling conveyed, and the hug I gave him, actually did calm him down.

What surprised me most was that he called me at work from school to say he had found the book and that he was sorry about what happened in the morning! Can you believe it a nine year old boy taking his break time to call me to apologize!!

There were many more incidents that happened with my children and Bonnie Maslin's words of wisdom came in really handy.(Mind you I got the book only three weeks ago)

Don't wait till you have children to read this book and get ideas on how to raise children, do it when you are expecting/planning them. It is an extremely useful tool for parents dealing with everday issues like misbehaviour and anger and even the more serious ones like lying. More importantly though to set reasonable expectations of our children whom we love so dearly.


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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Smart Strategies for Rasing Your Kids, May 31, 2004
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This review is from: Picking Your Battles: Winning Strategies for Raising Well-Behaved Kids (Paperback)
Dr. Maslin's newest book is a winner. Her strategies for handling inevitable conflicts with your kids are very well thought-out. Some of her points are broader in scale while some of her suggestions are very specific, reflecting a very good eye for detail.

One of my favorites (and trust me, this one works!) is the "body block" maneuver: When you're on the checkout line at the supermarket, invariably your kids will clamor for some of the brightly-colored candy that the store managers deviously place right near the register. How do you avoid a tantrum here? It's surprisingly easy - just put your body between the candy and your child: Out of sight, out of mind, and you're out of the store without a fight over M&M's.

Maslin's writing is also very clear and accessible. I've read all of her other books (which mostly focus on adult relationships, such as The Angry Marriage), and I think this one is her best so far. If you have young kids and want to learn how to reduce all the fighting (who doesn't?), then definitely buy this book.

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars To My Readers:Join Me for Free Interactive Parenting Talks, September 10, 2004
This review is from: Picking Your Battles: Winning Strategies for Raising Well-Behaved Kids (Paperback)
Dear Readers,

Thank you for your generous words of praise for Picking Your Battles (PYB). While PYB is grounded in everything I know from my many years of clinical experience working as a psychologist in private practice as well as my knowledge of the field of child development, it is above all the product of thirty years of parenting; I am mother and stepmother to four reasonably well-behaved children. Because I know what it means to be on the front-line of parenting, PYB is a practical book written from the trenches, not the lofty heights of expertise. I feel sure that all of you who are also right down there with me on the front-line of parenting will find it useful in making your life with kids easier and more joyful enabling you get even better at the ever-challenging job of raising well-behaved kids.

All the Best,
Bonnie Maslin

PS I invite you to join my Nationwide Interactive Parenting Discussion Groups by way of a FREE conference call. For information on how you can participate in these innovative parenting sessions where you can hear me talk AND ask me questions, please go to my website: www.pickingyourbattles.com

PPS If you have found PYB useful, please recommend it to your friends. There is no better endorsement for me than yours, a fellow parent! Thank You.

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Get ready. Get washed. Get here. Get settled. Get up. Get down. Get moving. Get dressed. And, for goodness sake, get that macaroni out of your nose! Read the first page
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parental comfort zones, cooperative kids, picking your battles, structured choice, parenting philosophy, constructive anger, discipline habits, expect your child, action vocabulary, preferred behavior
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