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Play or Be Played: What Every Female Should Know About Men, Dating, and Relationships

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1 star:		(7)

 

 

The funniest thing about this book, is that the women that stand to learn the most from it are most likely the same women that wouldn't touch it with a ten-foot pole. Yes, the overwhelming majority of it is good old-fashioned common sense, but as the saying goes, common sense ain't common.

I found Nasheed giving sound arguments and solid answers to questions that I've been pondering since I was fresh out of high school. I liked the way he broke the personalities down into categories that both men and women fall into, and both men and women that have spent the equivalent of a month's time in the dating arena will most likely nod their heads in affirmation of them. No, every single observation he makes doesn't apply to every single man or every single woman, nor do they have to in order to be accurate.

What I liked most about the book, however, is how Nasheed doesn't pull any punches and speaks his mind fully regarding regressive behavior that he's witnessed in the opposite sex, from attempting to get over solely on looks to crippling their children with "ghetto" names, and everything in between. Truth is, Nasheed really isn't saying anything that anyone outside of the group targeted wasn't already thinking anyway, but having access to the venue of publishing affords him a little more freedom than those of us within earshot of said group. Much respect for chapters Four (Are You a Hoochie? Take the Chickenhead Test) and Six (The Victim Hustle).

A wise woman once told me that her mother told her, "When a man cares enough about you to tell you the truth, the least you can do is listen to him." Ladies: if you've been contemplating giving this one a read, then don't be turned off by the negative reviews of the book here. If I were a betting man, I'd bet that most of the reactions to the book displayed here stem from women seeing themselves in Nasheed's words, and not in a flattering light. No collective group of people on the planet likes to be told the truth about themselves, and in the face of the truth, everyone wants to believe that they're the exception and not the rule.

If you prefer someone telling it like it is over what the numbers indicate and political correctness, then you probably won't gather much new material here (because you'll already know the deal), but this is still a quick and very entertaining read, and you'll probably find yourself agreeing with Nasheed repeatedly.

It's also an entertaining read for the guys. (Well, at least it was for this guy.)

This book was inspirational and very eye opening, an absolute must for any woman of any race!!! It covers everything in a text that is easy to read and easy to understand and/ or apply to life's everyday dealings with the opposite sex.

As it covers all the variety of topics and types of men, the message is for women to look deeper within themselves and take responsibility for the actions at hand. Nothing happens to you that you aren't allowing to happen, or in some cases happening again and again...change your views and habits and look for better men instead of falling for the same lame losers!

This author hits it where it hurts and goes right to the core of the issue, society promotes problems! Quit being alone and work as a couple and family. Deal with the issues at hand and understand there are differences between the sexes, agree to disagree on the small stuff, and if you don't have trust or faith in your man... QUIT INVESTING TIME.

You can't change a cheater no matter how much he begs for your forgiveness...don't die thru your crotch;AIDS or any STD isn't worth a man's infidelity or your trouble to worry about it. Kick a cheater to the curb...'cause the same fate awaits you!

READ THIS BOOK!!! Life's to short to keep staying with or dating neanderthal a**-pickers!

To be honest, I disliked this book.

But if the purpose of this book is for women to learn how to be better players, then it served its purpose - though a infantile purpose at that.

The author of this book seems to be very street wise, but I question if he has any advanced psychological education, especially on women. The author, clearly a player in his own right, objectifies women throughout the book - even on the cover (refering to women as "females" while referring to men as the obvious, "men").

This book is excellent if you want to learn how to see through the eyes of a player, marginalize women into categories, and even learn to play childish games in order to seek the favor of a man.

But please first ask yourself if that's really necessary at all.

I found myself reading the first few pages in a Waldenbooks, buying it and reading it right then and there in the food court at the mall; WORTH EVERY DIME LADIES!!! If you consider yourself a classy, quality lady, and are tired of getting pushed up on by (practically) every ignorant bottom-feeding scrub in a 5 mile radius, or if you look at another sister and wonder what has her so together, THIS BOOK IS FOR YOU. Whether you like the premise or not, Mr. Nasheed is a man with tight game whose goal is to lace the ladies with some strategies on how to get theirs together, period. He keeps it real on what makes you a chickenhead, what type of females there are and how they get that way, and most importantly, HE ALLOWS YOU INTO THE MINDS OF MEN. This book should be REQUIRED READING and has even helped me to find my own king, as well as polish my game up. He has some observations and opinions that some may find offensive, but what you learn is far more valuable in the long run. GET THIS BOOK, DON'T SLEEP!!! (this would be a great stocking stuffer for your clueless, dateless, no self-esteem having girlfriend/sister/cousin who never seems to 'get it.')

This book will simply blow you away..Every woman should have this book...It's one of the few books that take a brutally honest approach with the female readers.This book is an all time fav among my book club.

I just finished reading this book, and I couldn't put it down. It wasn't because it was a great book, but I was just so interested in his flawed point of view. If you read this book, please do so w/ an open mind. His tips should not be taken to heart by any woman. He says the book isn't male bashing, but it surely bashes the women he claims to have written the book before. To make a book and explain categories of men, and then their subcategories, and also personailty traits that can be found in any man is ridiculous. You cannot group men and expect to all of a sudden find Mr. Right. The most valuable advice in the book is to go out and live life and have you own experiences. If women do that, instead of reading this book, I believe they'll be alot better off. You don't need someone (a man) to tell you what kind of men are out there if you're living life. Especially (as someone already mentioned) a man who has friends that have orgies in his apartment.

I bought this book because I thought Mr. Nasheed did a good job writing about the Mack mentality in Art of Mackin. I thought this would be a book telling women how to avoid men's games. This is another typical book by a man who has no respect for women. It goes on an on about how women are to blame for everything that happens to them and men are blameless. Some of the conspiracy theories are so ridiculous they are laughable. He puts forth the theory that white women planted the "I don't need a man" ideal in Black women's heads and although white women were smart enough not to believe it, Black women "fell for it, hook, line and sinker" and the "government" is profiting from it. Typical ghetto philosopher who smokes too much weed. Nowhere in this fanciful story does he address the fact that Black men have skipped out on their responsibilities to their families for decades, so Black women would have to learn to not need a man. But to him, Black women are merely unfortunate dupes. He strains logic and contradicts himself in the same paragraph. For example, he seems to claim that women are harmed by sleeping around and men suffer no negative effects from the same behavior. However in the same paragraph, which he calls the "pregnancy hustle" he talks about the government conspiring against men by making them pay child support.

He talks about how women who sleep with multiple men are "stank" and should be ashamed, however, he publishes books instructing men on how manipulate women into sleeping with them. Of course the fault line in the logic is that on the one hand Nasheed believe that the women really do want to sleep with the men and know what is going on, on the other hand, no one attempts to "hustle" a person who is entirely aware of what is going on. There would be no point. So what you have is, in Nasheed's view: women are "stank" for wanting to sleep with men, in denial for pretending not to want it, dishonest for claiming they were manipulated or stupid for falling for it and responsible for getting hurt. Men are just doing what comes natural.

The other problem I have with Mr. Nasheed's perspective is that although he claims to have traveled, he can only envision the world from a ghetto perspective. He talks about women in general as if all women spoke, thought and behaved like ghetto women. Even his "top notch" sista has ghetto tendencies. Anyone that does not live in his ghetto world is labeled too snooty or stuck up and having an inflated ego. Mr. Nasheed is under the impression that he is very educated, but he nothing but an ignorant big fish in the small ghetto pond.

If you want a tirade on all the problems that can be blamed on ghetto women and how they are the sole reason for their plight, read this book. Also, if you hate feminists, or empowered women, read this book. If you feel you need to have a man put you in your place and tell you what to do, this book will agree with you. That is Nasheed's perspective in a nutshell.

Nasheed knows exactly what he's talking about!This book is telling young women they have a choice; either you're going to be a statistic by making DUMB decisions, getting involved with "boys" who have no future or vision about their own lives who only want to "hit it and quit it", ending up with child out of wedlock that you never wanted by a so-called man you never loved who never loved you OR you can get "game" by increasing your knowledge of yourself and the world by learning as much as you can, getting your money right and being in a position to have better options in life and attracting a real man.

Life is supposed to be about constant improvement to ones life, changing your current situation for the better. Not accepting complacency and satisfied with being just another young, unwed mother who is further extending the dysfunction of the american family. GET THIS BOOK!!!

I loved this book. It is very honest and i think everyone should read it. He actually is very honest and tells the truth about everything. This should be on every dating girls bookshelf. :)

I think that every female that is in the dating scene should read this book. Many of the points discussed women already know, but some just need that extra push to step up their game. Many women do not like to play games, however, the dating scene is a game and its play or be played.