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Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family

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I am surprised by some of the reviews here. The book is written in plain language and is very direct in pointing out that men, are failing to fulfill there roll as God intended. It then gives excellent guidance on how take a stand for your family. I have given this book to fellow Christians and those who are not believers, and never have heard anything but positive feedback. In addition to this I have lead men in this study as a group and the results have been wonderful. If you are not REALLY interested at looking objectively / critically at yourself, then don't buy it. Some reviewers here seem unable to move toward accountability. Another reviewer made comment that the book was racist, in that it mentions many current african american families as lacking fathers in the home. As a black man, I realize the truth is hard to take. This is NOT offensive, but enlightening. Great book, and current edition has study guide that is helpful as well.

when i was first given a copy of this book in 1994 i read it on the advice of a friend. it literally changed my life! i always knew being a good father was important, but didn't realize how important. i also wasn't aware how important it is to be a godly husband. i have since met steve farrar and ws even further blessed. i would reccomend that any man, christian or not, should read this book. you owe it to your wife, your children and yourself. i have repeatedly referenced this book for speeches and sunday school lessons for five years. farrars other books are also wonderful. but this one, "point man" could possibly be the most important book any man can ever read besides the bible. God bless... keith reid

Steve Farrar has touched the essence of what it takes to be a Husband and Father in his book Point Man. He steps up to men with an "in your face" look at the realities of life as a man in today's society and provides sound advice on how to stay focused as the head of the family. He doesn't shy away from telling men that they will have to make hard choices and his words dare any man to make the wrong choice by providing "real-life" examples of the impact wrong decisions by Fathers and Husbands have had on families. Point Man should be required reading for every male prior to marriage. And, as the father of three little girls, it will be required reading for all potential sons-in law.

I have read the other reviews of Point Man. I personally disagree with the negative reviews and subscribe instead to the positive ones, as this book has been a most influential read. (have read it 3x and will do so again.) The author puts forth the premise that the family is one of God's gifts, and that the family unit is one of the most influential means for learning God's love/initiating a relationship with Jesus Christ that covers multiple generations/ensuring the continuity of faith. So where is Satan's most effective battle...the family. And how to most effectively neutralize the family...eliminate the point man (i.e-eliminate the Godly effectiveness of the man; destroy the bond between husband and wife/father and child...) I recently took this book to China with me (along with my Bible) for a 3rd reading on the 14 hour flight. Showed it to my Chinese national guide who was about to become a father for the 1st time. He couldn't read it fast enough and couldn't thank me enough for introducing him with such valuable guidance.

This excellent resource for every (any) man has helped me and my small group (men) grow in our Christian walk. There are principles covering all areas where we struggle. I read it four years ago, and I have quotes from it in my daily planner, on my desk at work, and in my Sunday School lessons - even to this day.

A very comprehensive and exhaustive guide to leading your family through todays jungle. A must read for man that wants to be a husband or a father. This book helps to put everything into perspective and helps you to 'Put Your Family First'. I've read it two times and I'm working on my third. One of the most inspiring books I have ever read.

I have read a number of fathering, parenting and family books over the years and this is one of the best. There was nothing startlingly new here for me, but it summarised just about everything I have gleaned from other sources.

One quibble: p154 (of the version I have) elevates the full-time ministry. As an example of a godly man Farrar shows how many of a particular man's descendants became pastors. And that is the problem for many men: we have few role models who are in 'normal' secular jobs and we therefore think that we can't be spiritual giants.

I've read several Christian books encouraging men to celebrate their masculinity, to consecrate themselves to marriage, and to conduct themselves as servant leaders. This title however, far surpasses the others I have read. Farrar through many humorous stories and Divinely-guided insight, reaches deeper into the heart of the Christian man than many other writers do. I consider this title to be the classic work by Farrar.

We need more writers like Steve Farrar, who stir the heart and soul of Christian men to be all they can be for their God, their wives, and their children.

Better yet, turn on one-click. You will want to get this book as soon as possible. I have (as my son likes to joke) 972 books on being a dad. Many are good, some are excellent, but I wish I had bought this one first. It's that good. It will motivate you to be the dad all the other 972 books tell you how to be.

How? Quite simply, Farrar writes like he knows exactly where you are. You may anywhere from what he describes as being spiritually anorexic or bulimic, or you may be a "point man" - it doesn't matter. He will help you along to the next level. He is realistic enough to recognize that after 25 years of bad habits, you most likely won't be reformed overnight. However, he offers good encouragement to keep at it, do what you know God created you to do.

Chapter like "Real Men Don't" and "A One-Woman Kind of Man" will leave many men uncomfortable. Guys, I think too many of us are a "husband of one wife" physically but are cheating mentally or even emotionally, or at least are just not dedicated enough to living our lives God's way. Farrar will encourage you to not just be a husband of one wife, but to be the kind of guy God wants you to be as a matter of total lifestyle. As the book of James points out, "when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin." I think many of us can relate.

Although it does have some material on being a father (such as chapters 2, 9, and 10), it's not primarily a book on being a dad. I think Farrar has his priorities in the right place: you can't be a Good Dad until you are a Good and Godly Man. Then come back and read Farrar's "King Me" or one of the 972 other good books on being a dad.

Really, the book will probably not really give you any new information. So why get it? Because it will reinforce what you knew to be true, and will (perhaps, with God's help) help you to not just be a hearer of the word, but a doer as well.

This book full of practical advice that can be easily applied in today's separated world. The man, as husband, father and head of the family unit is divinely responsible for the leadership, love, protection and mentoring of our family and is further responsible to other men in the body of Christ for the example he sets. This non-condemning book speaks from understanding and love about the unique sins men face; and, about how accountability and fellowship provide a valuable tool for all Christian men seeking to lead a healthy, happy and blessed life according to the Lord's word. I recommend this book for any man, regardless of his personal maturity in Christ, as a guidebook for saving himself, his family and his soul.