Positive Discipline A-Z: 1001 Solutions to Everyday Parenting Problems (Positive Discipline Library) [Paperback]

Jane Nelsen Ed.D. (Author), Lynn Lott (Author), H. Stephen Glenn (Author)

Book Description

Release date: March 27, 2007 | Series: Positive Discipline Library

As a parent, you face one of the most challenging—and rewarding—roles of your life. No matter how much you love your child, there will still be moments filled with anger, frustration, and, at times, desperation. What do you do? Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust the Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to child rearing. In this completely updated edition of Positive Discipline A–Z, you will learn how to use methods to raise a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful. You’ll find practical solutions to such parenting challenges as:

- Sibling Rivalry
- Bedtime Hassles
- School Problems
- Getting Chores Done
- ADHD ·Eating Problems
- Procrastination
- Whining
- Tattling and Lying
- Homework Battles
- And Dozens More!

This newly revised and expanded third edition contains up-to-the-minute information on sleeping through the night, back talk, and lack of motivation as well as tips on diet, exercise, and obesity prevention, and new approaches to parenting in the age of computers and cell phones.

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About the Author

Jane Nelsen, Ed.D., is a licensed marriage, family, and child therapist, and an internationally known speaker. Lynn Lott, M.A., M.F.T., is a therapist and author of more than eighteen books and manuals. H. Stephen Glenn, Ph.D., coauthored the bestselling classics Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World and 7 Strategies for Developing Capable Students.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 336 pages
• Publisher: Three Rivers Press; 0003-Revised edition (March 27, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0307345572
• ISBN-13: 978-0307345578
• Product Dimensions: 7.4 x 0.8 x 9.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #16,052 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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56 of 57 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars A lot of great take-aways March 6, 2009

By M. Heiss

Format:Paperback

Since reading this book (~30 days ago), I have put three suggestions into play at our house.

1) "I notice..." As in, "I notice it took you 15 minutes to brush your teeth. Do you want to tell me about that?" Followed up with listening. Or, "I notice that you have not eaten your carrots. What is your plan?" My very verbal four-year-old has started saying it to me -- wow! He said, "Mommy I notice that you forgot to read me a story. I want to choose it today."

2) Choices. As in, "Good morning, darling! (hug) You told me you'd like to make your own lunch today. You can choose to get ready for school quickly and come make your lunch, or you can take your time and I will make it all by myself. I'll start making lunches at 7:15. I love you, sweetie! (kiss) Don't forget breakfast is at 7:30! Yumm yumm!" Or like this, with a pre-schooler: "Tomorrow is crazy-shirt day at school. Do you choose this shirt or this shirt? Great choice! I'll hang it on your hook so you can get ready all by yourself in the morning."

3) Make sure you are in the same room before making requests of children. I have mentally added ("or husband") at the end of that statement. This has cut down on a lot of me repeating myself, which makes me a happier mom!

The whole act-don't-talk philosophy is lovely. I'm getting a lot of mileage out of it. And I use this phrase all the time: "You kids are very creative. I'm sure you'll imagine a way to get that done. I can't wait to hear how you work it out!" It has put a quick stop to tattling and arguing.

As a rule, I believe that parents need to be in charge at home. Parents set the tone for the whole family. This book will help you do that.

19 of 20 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Super practical, non-preachy, excellent advice June 10, 2007

By S. Holland VINE™ VOICE

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I was a bit skeptical at first, wondering how a Q and A format could possibly be sufficient. Would the book be full of pithy, useless, empty, overly-general advice? No, in fact, it gets right to the point and is relevant and helpful. I'm very impressed with the thoughtful discussion of many of the most difficult parenting problems. It has become on of the first places I turn for advice.

More importantly, because it is quick and easy to read, my husband is willing to read it too, which helps us stay on the same page when it comes to discipline.

35 of 40 people found the following review helpful

3.0 out of 5 stars Helpful, but anxiety-producing August 21, 2011

By Angela

Format:Paperback

I did get some helpful tips from this book (especially Act, Don't Talk). However, I feel like it is not a good match for my personality. I tend to be the type of person who parents largely by instinct and reason, and I also feel like if your children know that they are loved and that you're there for them, things will turn out okay. If you are like me, then this may not be the book for you.

As a mother of a 2-year-old and a 5-year-old, I was looking for some help in curbing emerging sibling issues, and preventing some of the defiance my 5-year-old is starting to display. I recently read How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk, and I loved it but wanted more practical tips. I was hoping this book would consist of tips in the same vein as that book. While there are a lot of similarities, the overall positive and reassuring tone of How to Talk was MUCH more appealing to me. This book felt very preachy to me, and seemed to make all parenting issues black and white. If there's one thing about parenting that I'm fairly sure of, it's that there is no one right way to do anything, as all parents and all children are different. After reading this book, I felt very stressed that I will say the wrong thing (as a lot of it is apparently down to semantics). I felt that so much of the book is telling you that if you say this instead of that, your child will do fill-in-the-blank-horrible-thing. Basically, any little quirk or problem your child has or will have as an adult is a direct result of something you did or did not do, or something you said incorrectly. Maybe that's not what the author intended, but that's how it came across to me. I'm all for taking responsibility as a parent, but I don't care for scare tactics. I also didn't care for the inflexible directives on handling bedtime, nor did I appreciate the first sentence of the bedwetting section: "If your 4 or 5 year old is wetting the bed, it is cause for concern." Really? Not according to my pediatrician and other medical professionals. I don't need a book to give me more things to worry about; there are enough issues that come about naturally through parenting!

I will stick with How to Talk, and I also like the Pocket Parent for quick tips. I am giving this three stars because I did find some of it useful. I just can't get past the judgmental, almost dictatorial tone.