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Positive Discipline [Paperback]

Jane Nelsen Ed.D.
4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (73 customer reviews)

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Book Description

May 30, 2006
For twenty-five years, Positive Discipline has been the gold standard reference for grown-ups working with children. Now Jane Nelsen, distinguished psychologist, educator, and mother of seven, has written a revised and expanded edition. The key to positive discipline is not punishment, she tells us, but mutual respect. Nelsen coaches parents and teachers to be both firm and kind, so that any child–from a three-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager–can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline with no loss of dignity. Inside you’ll discover how to

• bridge communication gaps
• defuse power struggles
• avoid the dangers of praise
• enforce your message of love
• build on strengths, not weaknesses
• hold children accountable with their self-respect intact
• teach children not what to think but how to think
• win cooperation at home and at school
• meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior

“It is not easy to improve a classic book, but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition. Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific, Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm. If you want to enrich your relationship with your children, this is the book for you.”
–Sal Severe, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too!


Millions of children have already benefited from the counsel in this wise and warmhearted book, which features dozens of true stories of positive discipline in action. Give your child the tools he or she needs for a well-adjusted life with this proven treasure trove of practical advice.

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Positive Discipline + Positive Discipline A-Z: 1001 Solutions to Everyday Parenting Problems (Positive Discipline Library) + Positive Discipline for Preschoolers: For Their Early Years--Raising Children Who are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful (Positive Discipline Library)
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Editorial Reviews

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It is not easy to improve a classic book, but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition. Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific, Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm. If you want to enrich your relationship with your children, this is the book for you. --Sal Severe, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too! --This text refers to the Audio CD edition.

From the Publisher

POSITIVE DISCIPLINE is one of our most beloved parenting titles. And the reason is very simple. Author Jane Nelsen's program works. I've used the book on my preschooler with great success. Not only does my little girl listen better, but she and I also seem to have a better relationship now. As a working mom, I hated coming home and having to yell at my child in those precious two hours a day we had together. Now we make the most of our time and we both look forward to it.

Elisa Wares, Senior Editor --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Product Details

  • Paperback: 384 pages
  • Publisher: Ballantine Books; Rev Upd edition (May 30, 2006)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0345487672
  • ISBN-13: 978-0345487674
  • Product Dimensions: 5.2 x 0.9 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (73 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #3,744 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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I feel better and so do my kids! Mugabug  |  22 reviewers made a similar statement
I highly recommend it for every parent. Gayle Anderson  |  14 reviewers made a similar statement
It is written in a conversational style, so it is a quick read. Ms Diva  |  12 reviewers made a similar statement
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
68 of 68 people found the following review helpful
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Format:Paperback
If you are a parent, this book should definitely be on your list of MUST-READs. The idea focuses on respect, letting kids have control over some of their decisions, letting them experience the consequences -- both good and bad -- and reducing conflict in your home. The book helped me see the problems in some of the traditional methods of "discipline" I had been using, and it changed my approach for dealing with two-year old son and our interactions. The book includes concrete examples and focus areas for positive discipline, and explores the long range goals for raising our kids (like what kind of people we want them to be in the end). Since I've started putting the positive discipline principles into practice, I've seen an incredible difference in myself and my son. I started asking for his help, and now he is doing all sorts of things for himself -- getting dressed, helping carry in groceries, and willingly climbing into his car seat (if you can belive it)!! He's so excited to be making contributions to our family on his own, and I'm enjoying him so much without so many tantrums. I've been teaching him about respect -- it sounds so silly, but he seems to understand that it's about treating each other like we like each other. Of course, it isn't the end of every conflict and we still have problems and short tempers sometimes, but it is over so much faster and with fewer hurt feelings on all sides. We're finding a nice balance -- not permissive, not authoritarian -- just respectful and fair. Even if you don't accept the premise of the book, I think it will challenge you to evaluate your own parenting methods. Be forewarned though -- it may seem a little unusual if you just skim through the book, because some of the ideas are unconventional or contrary to what we've been "taught" (like letting kids play during a time out session), but I belive it really makes sense in the end and I encourage you to read the whole thing. I STRONGLY RECOMMEND it to parents who want to reduce the conflict in their house, raise kids with a positive sense of self, and really truly find enjoyment in children.
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40 of 40 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
As a parenting author who only recommends the best of the best when it comes to parenting books, I was shocked to read some of the reviews which suggested that Jane's approach is both demoralizing to parents and simply does not work.

Before writing my own book, Jane's work was one of the three books I used with two blind boys who would have given Helen Keller a run for her money and helped me to not only maintain my sanity (and not go off the deep end) but also raise boys I am proud of.

Hands down parenting is the most difficult job on earth and I believe that Jane would agree. As a family counselor who uses a "feel good method of parenting" similar to Jane's I KNOW that this material works I have seen it work for thousands of parents. I also know that it takes time, consistency and sometimes even support from others. I am saddened to think that some of her material has fallen on deaf ears and some parents have even resorted to fear tactics. Why am I saddened? Because although punishments such as these can work in the short term I have seen first hand the negative effects that happen over time and know that there is a much better way.

Perhaps, because this book was originally written in the 80's and Jane doesn't spend a lot of time in this book emphasizing the importance a parent's own self-care that some readers have misinterpreted this to mean Jane doesn't care about parents. Nothing could be further from the truth though.

Jane's practical use of stories and the way in which she shares some of her own mistakes are nothing short of inspiring.
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43 of 46 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Respect for the little ones May 3, 2000
Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase
This book helped me see discipline in a whole new way. It's true, children don't have to suffer in order to learn they have done something wrong. We need to have respect for the little ones just as much as anyone else, and that's sometimes hard to remember when you are angry. "Positive discipline" explains this concept well. The only problem is if you have very young kids, this book doesn't help much in terms of specific examples. Most of the examples are about children 5 and up. I would imagine "Positive Discipline for Preschoolers" would serve my situation better. I am buying that next and will write a review for it shortly......
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5.0 out of 5 stars Best parenting book I've ever read so far
This book slapped me in the face with reality... My "old fashioned way" was not winning, and not helping my child grow intellectually, but after reading this book, I realized how... Read more
Published 16 days ago by S. Shin
3.0 out of 5 stars Some good advice
I really like the idea of getting a child involved in creating rules, solutions, and consequences.

Several of the items and examples were geared towards teachers, which... Read more
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5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Read
This is a "must read" for teachers and parents. It is well written with numerous examples. I have used these principles and had extremely positive results.
Published 1 month ago by Pastor Joe
4.0 out of 5 stars It makes so much sense
I am a marriage and family therapist. I will definitely use this idea to help parents with their parenting skills. Read more
Published 2 months ago by aidan
3.0 out of 5 stars This book is not bad.
This book had a lot of good suggestions, but I think it underestimates the sheer stubbornness a child can exhibit. Read more
Published 2 months ago by Erin N. Nickless
5.0 out of 5 stars Everyone I loan it to loves it!
I have bought three copies of this book. It is so great I keep loaning it out and that's the end of that copy. Not a complaint. Read more
Published 2 months ago by P. Schuhmacher
5.0 out of 5 stars VERY Useful
I will refer to this manual for a long time. I have copied short examples from it to glue on the wall and repeat to myself to help me change my behavior
Published 3 months ago by H. Williamson
3.0 out of 5 stars Not my cup of tea
I read the book. I agreed with some. I disagreed with others. It isn't a bad book; it just wasn't what I was looking for.
Published 3 months ago by Randella
5.0 out of 5 stars loved
ONt time and perfect". was what i needed and can not complain about what i needed it. package was perfect. would order again would order again
Published 4 months ago by Querose
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This book is a joke
Having just read this book, I do not understand where "little adult" comes into play, nor is talk, persuade, argue, yell, or hit emphasized. 1-2-3 Magic is also helpful, but that being the case does not mean that this book is a joke.
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