The Power of Self-Coaching: The Five Essential Steps to Creating the Life You Want (Paperback)

by Joseph J. Luciani (Author) "Barbara, a fifty-two-year-old insurance salesperson, had been struggling with apathy for years in her marriage, in her lackluster career, and in her life..." (more)
Key Phrases: Reflexive Thinking, Self-Coaching Reflection, Changing the Channel (more...)

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Product Description
The new self-help guide from the author of the highly successful Self-Coaching
This empowering guide shows people who are experiencing emotional turmoil in their lives how to reconnect with their innate capacity for genuine happiness—before more serious emotional problems develop. The Power of Self-Coaching offers five simple, practical steps that put people back in touch with their natural and spontaneous potential—the inner power that can transform their lives. Using self-quizzes, training and coaching exercises, Power Drills, and Dr. Luciani's extremely successful technique of Self-Talk, readers of this book—the essential next level of Self-Coaching—can liberate themselves from reflexive, destructive thinking and begin to create a life of happiness and empowerment.

Joseph J. Luciani, PhD (Cresskill, NJ), the author of Self-Coaching (0-471-38737-1), is a psychologist in private practice with more than 25 years of experience.

From the Back Cover
An easy program for freeing yourself from your mental and emotional traps--and leading the life you want and deserve

"This empowering book will teach, inspire, and coach you to break the habits of insecurity that prevent you from realizing your spontaneous inner potential for genuine happiness."
--John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

"There is nothing more empowering than accepting responsibility. Taking responsibility is not about assuming fault; it is about re-taking the helm and control of your journey in life. This book will help you navigate through the difficulties of personality and behavioral change to more emotional peace."
--Dr. Laura Schlessinger, author of The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

Nobody is born insecure, angry, bored, or depressed. The fact is, happiness is our natural state and, as psychologist Dr. Joseph J. Luciani explains in this warm, witty, and empowering guide, chronic unhappiness is just a bad habit--a habit that can be broken.

It’s much easier than you think! Based on Dr. Luciani’s twenty-five years of experience helping patients unlearn reflexive, destructive thinking, The Power of Self-Coaching arms you with all the tools you need to free yourself from your mental and emotional traps. As you work through the many self-quizzes, training and coaching exercises, and Power Drills, you’ll see yourself anew and feel yourself growing lighter, more spontaneous, and ready to take charge of your life.

A proven five-step program for reconnecting with the innate capacity for happiness, The Power of Self-Coaching gives you what you need to:

• Identify learned patterns of thought and feelings that are making you unhappy
• Use Dr. Luciani’s celebrated Self-Talk techniques to develop new, healthy ways of thinking and feeling
• Eliminate boredom, hopelessness, chronic fatigue, and emotional numbness from your life
• Tap your full creative, intellectual, and emotional potential and live the rich, rewarding life you want and deserve

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Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Wiley (August 4, 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0471463604
• ISBN-13: 978-0471463603
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars See all reviews (29 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #33,470 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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27 of 28 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Letting Go Through Self-Coaching., February 6, 2006

By	Kevin NY (NY) - See all my reviews

A recent review of this book prompted me to add my two cents. I have read Dr. Luciani's book and feel that his techniques are truly unique and unlike any other self-help book I have read. I would definitely say that Dr. Luciani's approach is cognitive (more similar to Dr. Ahraham Low's seminal work than other CBT authors), however, I have no problem agreeing with the author when he says his insights were more intuitive, growing from his twenty-five years of work with his patients. Dr. Luciani's most significant contribution is his central, orienting thesis of control. From developmental roots of insecurity, there is an impetus to compensate through various controlling strategies (which, overtime become habits such as, worry, perfectionism, etc.). To me, this is truly a novel way of viewing struggle. Using this concept (along with the Self-Talk technique in the book), I have been able to dismantle a lifelong inclination toward worry, rumination, and anxiety. Trying to control life made it impossible for me to trust life or myself...until now!

26 of 28 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Read This Book!, March 19, 2007

By	Sally Atman (Redondo Beach, CA United States) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I'm pushing sixty. I've been in and out of therapy and have been reading self-help books all my life. I ordered this (the CD version) with little hope. Not much seems new anymore.

Surprise! I was almost immediately engrossed. Luciani is wonderful. Using plain talk and simple analogies, he sums up what all the niche-marketers and long-winded "experts" are currently trying to sell us as "new." There's nothing new here. But Luciani's approach is refreshing, smart, and absolutely sane.

If you want to make a change (or changes) in your life, "The Power Of Self Coaching" will absolutely make a difference in your approach and give you information and activities that will not only show you how to change, but will inspire you to change.

How can anyone not love an author who wants his epitaph to read "I'd Rather Be Reading This"?

17 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Are You Talking to Me?, August 10, 2004

By	M. Long - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I don't have depression or anxiety and I swear I will never go to a psychologist or psychiatrist. I rarely even go to regular doctors, but am slightly more convinced of the importance of dentists.

Imagine my surprise when I found myself reading Dr. Luciani's book, realizing that many of the habits of insecurity and control could be found in my own life. I came across Dr. Luciani's philosophy of Self-Talk and his views on the habit-based nature of anxiety and depression on his website. Through reading his thoughtful and empathetic answers to truly troubled individuals seeking comfort and understanding, I was moved to read Dr. Luciani's articles and then to purchase The Power of Self-Coaching.

I still won't go to a doctor, but Dr. Luciani's book made me realize that my lifelong anxiousness and fear of failure are habits that I can break through sustained positive affirmation. Self-Coaching is a great tool for everyone struggling to deal with the stress of modern families and careers, regardless of whether you have a diagnosis of anxiety or depression, or are just feeling nervy all of the time.