<DIV>This book is a step-by-step guide for couples who want to enhance their communication skills and maximize their relationship's potential for mutual support and growth. Learn to speak your mind in a way that your partner will hear with interest, not with antagonism. Hear your partner without becoming defensive. Aim for ìwin-winî communication every time. Find out how to clean up after inadvertent ìtoxic spills.î Exercises help you learn to keep anger ceilings low, and to convert moments of anger into powerful opportunities for learning and growth.</div>
Susan Heitler, a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, wrote her first book, David Decides About Thumbsucking, to help parents and children to end thumbsucking habits.
In her second book, From Conflict to Resolution (1990), Dr. Heitler explained that conflicts can be handled in five main ways. Getting angry yields fights. Giving up yields depression. Doing nothing about a problem sustains anxiety and tension. Avoidance via distraction invites addictions and obsessive-compulsive disorders. The fifth and by far the best option is collaborative problem-solving to create win-win solutions.
Dr. Heitler's third book, The Power of Two, teaches win-win communication and problem-solving skills. So do The Power of Two Workbook, The Win-Win Waltz DVD, free games on www.poweroftwo.org, and online workshops at www.po2.com.
In addition, Dr. Heitler's audio CD's on anxiety, depression and couples' skills offer new perspectives for individuals who want to live more emotionally comfortable lives.
Dr. Heitler's own family attests to the effectiveness of the techniques she writes about. She and her husband, married over 35 years, have successfully raised four children, three of whom now run a company that teaches Power of Two skills over the internet. The large extended family of which Dr. Heitler and her husband are now matriarch and patriarch includes 8 grandchildren who love to gather and play together.
