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Text. Love. Power. The Ultimate Girls Relationship Guide for Texting and Dating in the New Millennium [Kindle Edition]

Vanessa Taylor
4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (105 customer reviews)

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Book Description

Text. Love. Power. rejects the idea that women should be open and easy-going with their dates, and orders them to put down the smartphone if they want to get their man.

In this riveting, controversial dating guide for the new millennium, Vanessa Taylor continues the work of Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, authors of The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right.


Don't send another text until you read this book cover to cover. Vanessa Taylor will take you all the way to the altar! -Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets of Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right

Text. Love. Power. is an empowering guide for women in their challenge to find love, commitment and romantic connection with men. The advice is creative, helpful and informative. This book answers any question about texting with men you have ever pondered! -Rhonda Findling, M.A., C.R.C., Don't Call That Man! A Survival Guide to Letting Go

Text. Love. Power. is chock-full of dos and don'ts aimed at shifting the power in dating relationships to women. It's a must-read for every single woman who can't figure out why she's still single. -Dr. Beth Erickson, Marriage Isn't for Sissies, host of Relationships 101 on

It's critically important for a woman to know that if a man really wants to be with her, he'll find a way. There's no need to chase him; it works better if he makes all the moves. Text. Love. Power. provides the only framework you need to navigate todays complex, rapidly evolving dating scene. Contemporary single women: read this book, play by The Rules, and get what you want. -Donna Marie Thompson, PhD., Bouncing Back Now relationship coach

A must-read for every single gal. What The Rules was to the last century, Vanessa Taylor has updated for today's lady in finding Mr. Right! Sheryl Matthys


The hard-to-get girl is born | Meeting Mr. Handsome | Getting Mr. Handsome to ask for your number and call! | Mr. Handsome and his business card | Answer the phone! | To text or not to text? | Does the hard-to-get girl reply to texts? | Texting gone bad | How to stop texting once you start | Online dating and texting for hard-to-get girls | Careful! Texting can lead to sexting | The single texting exception

Can I accept a date via text? | What's considered a date? | What if he's a chatty texter? | What if he leaves a voicemail? | Can I text to confirm our plans? | What if he stands me up? | What if he's late? | What if he cancels? | What if he postpones? | What if he texts after our date? | What if I forgot to thank him? | What if I want to text on a date? | Which texts should I ignore? | What if he stops texting?

Excerpt from Chapter 16:

Countless articles on the internet describe texting situations between men and women. They provide examples of texting etiquette for dating. One advises, It's not okay if a man texts to ask for a date. But, a text telling you that he's running late is fine.

There are two problems with this advice. First, it fails to establish consistency in a relationship. Second, it is piecemeal and promises no specific result. It can be difficult to discern which moves will get the guy, and until now, there has been no system.

Consistency in your relationship yields significant benefits. If you respond to one text and not the other, a man can't understand your standards, much less your motives. When you establish patterns that make a man ask you in a certain way for dates, he will approach other relationship milestones with the same respect: exclusivity, long-term commitment, the marriage proposal.

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  • File Size: 177 KB
  • Print Length: 134 pages
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  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B004VB8RW2
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58 of 67 people found the following review helpful
1.0 out of 5 stars Not for the modern woman January 12, 2012
Format:Kindle Edition
This book is not written for any young woman who is immersed in the world of text communications.

For myself at 22, the whole world operates on cell phones. Simply saying not to text because a man will call seems very old school to me, where as everybody i've talked to at school - educated, smart individuals - prefer texting because everyone of us are busy and its the new, convenient way to communicate. You can either embrace the technology, or you can fight it while the world moves around you.

This book offers games, encourage lies and paints an unrealistic picture for those in my age group. At certain points, particularly when responses are offered for the rule to not text back, its offensive and degrading to women. Some advice offered being along the lines of, "I don't know how these silly things work" with reference to cell phones "not being able to text", and "I don't like texting, it will just chip my nail polish!" is shallow and unreal.

I simply wouldn't recommend this book.
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
2.0 out of 5 stars Couldn't finish November 26, 2012
By Nic
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I just couldn't do it. There are 32 chapters in this book, each one being relatively short 2-4 pages and then followed by a "power pop quiz" and a "power ponder" to test you on what you just read. I read about half the book and at that point was uttering "are you kidding me" so much I began heavily skimming the next 25% and the ultimately decided I couldn't finish. The chapters are entitled things like "Which texts should I ignore?" and "Can I accept a date via text?", all great questions that I have asked myself but the advice given is sometimes childish, sometimes unrealistic and sometimes contradicts what is later advised in the book. There are some bits that are useful which is why I gave it 2 stars, but that could be condensed down to about 10-15 pages. As a 33 year old that loves her IPhone I get that sexting someone you're not really dating isn't a good idea, and you shouldn't accept texts after certain hours or while at dinner, but that's all stuff parents have been preaching to their kids for a few years now. I think a much better book that gives you the premise of the "It girl factor" and playing hard to get is Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship.
I get that men love an elusive girl and it's a delicate dance to keep him interested but some of the advice in this book just goes against creating a foundation for a long term relationship; for example, the author suggests in Chapter 10 How to Stop Texting Once You Start to tell him "The keypad is to sensitive, you don't like squinting at the screen, you can't stand creative don't want to chip your nail polish!" Seriously?
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11 of 13 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Loved it April 6, 2011
By Cincsu
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This was a light easy read that once I started was hard to put down. The rules for texting shared in this book can go along way for a new relationship or one that is already solidified. Considering technology today this is a must read for anyone wanting a healthy relationship!
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10 of 12 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Best Texting guide and more May 6, 2011
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After reading this awesome book it really shed light on issues not just about texting but other things I would personally do to ruin a relationship before it even starting and taking off successfully. Sometimes it could be little things for example not letting the guy make all the suggestions and trying to speed up the process by hinting and suggesting other things. He was suggesting drinks and I was suggesting dinner. I didn't realize until I read this book that you shouldn't do that! Also driving to a man ect....things I thought were wonder I got stepped all over!!! The book covers what to do if you are already texting, how to put an end to it and take control. I really do believe that texting is soo casual and I find it so rude when a guy is only texting and not calling. This book will show you how to take control and put an end to all of that madness. Also how to let him lead. So if you are a "Rules" girl and you want to continue that in this modern day of age buy this book. I was in the middle of another book and decided to put that one aside so I can read this one because I was in a texting relationship and I wanted to be an end to it. Awesome book! Recommend to all you modern "rules" girls!! xoxo
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8 of 10 people found the following review helpful
1.0 out of 5 stars seems a little extreme November 26, 2011
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To say that you should completely ignore a guy's texts and even LIE about why you aren't responding seems very manipulative. Technology is part of everyday life why pretend it doesn't exist simply to manipulate and PLAY hard to get? I didn't get it personally but then again I felt the same about 'The Rules' so if you liked that book you will most likely like this one and vice versa.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Book is contradictory October 18, 2012
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If you find yourself dating, and need some help and advice, then dating books can't hurt. Especially not when they are short and only a few dollars. This book is less than a latte at Starbucks.

The premise of this book is to give us a modern day version of "The Rules" which includes whether or not to text. However, a lot of the advice in this book contradicts "The Rules" (a book by a different author), and even itself. In one section, the book tells you to have your phone on you at all times, and if the guy calls, answer the call regardless of what you are doing, even if you are IN A BUSINESS MEETING! What? This completely goes against "The Rules" about being elusive and only answering the phone some of the time and only returning calls on occassion. But the author states that your goal is to get the date, so that means you always have to answer when the guy calls.

I'm sorry, but I can't imagine ducking out of a meeting at work to try and set up a date with a guy. My boss would die laughing!

In regard to texting, she says you should NEVER text with a guy. If he asks for your number and sends you a test text, tell him you don't have your phone on you. If he then asks why you don't text back, tell him you don't have texting. But then she goes on to say if you are going to text, here's what you should do. So wait, if I shouldn't text with a guy, then why are you telling me how and when to text?

It's a good quick book, and for a few dollars it shouldn't hurt. But it's on the bottom of my list of favorite dating books. Why Men Love Bitches, Why Men Marry Bitches, and The Tao of Dating are GREAT books!
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
4.0 out of 5 stars Modern Day Hard-to-Get Techniques
So I've been meaning to leave a review for this book for a looong time (the author was kind enough to offer me a free copy). I'm all about free! Read more
Published 1 month ago by T. J. Earls
1.0 out of 5 stars How to Play Games
Somehow this book showed up on my Kindle & I have no idea why. So I skimmed through it.

In my eyes, the authors are advocating inauthenticity. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Amazon Customer
2.0 out of 5 stars It's okay
The price was good. However, this author refers to the book "The Rules" throughout the entire book, so therefore I feel like none of the advice given is by the author.
Published 9 months ago by Mares1981
5.0 out of 5 stars wonderful
Easy to read. Straight to the point & no sugar coating advice here.

Easy to remember advice & follow thru.
Published 11 months ago by annamae acosta
1.0 out of 5 stars thumbs down and author will retaliate if you leave a bad review
Update: Just to warn future reviewers. The author will report your review if it is negative. Really sad that she cant take criticism

This book is just a reversion to... Read more
Published 12 months ago by Patricia
5.0 out of 5 stars amazing and so must be read!
Best book I've read so far on texting dating and being it girl for that one who you want to be with
Published 13 months ago by Gigi
5.0 out of 5 stars Definitely for the Modern Woman
I absolutely loved this book and it is an easy, fun read. Author and dating coach, Vanessa Taylor, navigates women through the complexities of modern technology while still playing... Read more
Published 13 months ago by Kathy
5.0 out of 5 stars Terrific!
Tell you very strait forward how you're coming off and I love that it discusses the use of technology so much. It really helped me.
Published 13 months ago by katelyn esparza
4.0 out of 5 stars Must Read for Single Gals in the Digital Age!
I truly enjoyed reading Text. Love. Power. Playing hard to get is simply the only way it works...even in the age of texting, tweeting and Facebook! Read more
Published 14 months ago by Lauren Berliner
5.0 out of 5 stars Clear Directions At Last
This book is laid out in a clear, easy-to-follow manner. I like that it talks about real-world situations that may come up and exactly how to handle them. Read more
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Vanessa Taylor, author of "Text. Love. Power.: The Ultimate Girls Relationship Guide for Texting and Dating in the New Millennium," is a pundit on what makes men pursue women. She specializes in coaching single women on dating and relationships. Her "Platinum Girl Celebrity Blog" analyzes celeb romances to discover what famous women do to get and keep their lovers--and dissects the fatal mistakes that lead to heartbreak.


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