Practice Positive Parenting and Avoid Using Punishment

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The list author says: "Based on research, children are self-motivated to learn and behave when they feel competent, when they have some choice and control over what they do, and when they feel loved, supported, and respected by their parents. Rewards and punishments are ineffective for producing long-term growth because they distract from the real reasons for proper behavior. The alternative is to focus on the whole child rather than just the behavior and ask, "What does the child need in order to succeed?" Steps can be taken before entering a difficult situation to make it easier for the child to succeed, such as explaining to the child what will happen and what you will expect and taking along crayons before going to a restaurant. If the child misbehaves, ask yourself why. Does the child need to be reassured of my love? Is she hungry or tired? Does she need to learn new skills for coping with the situation? Can she be redirected to a more appropriate activity? Here are some books that have helped me become a better parent. Some are general parenting books and others focus on particular topics."
Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles: Winning for a Lifetime
1.  Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles: Winning for a Lifetime by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
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  "Wonderful book with comprehensive, balanced advice and it's supportive of parents (doesn't make you feel bad about mistakes you've made). A must-read for all parents!"
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Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic
2.  Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
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  "Great advice about focusing on your kids strengths and working with the child for success, even when it's challenging."
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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
3.  How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber
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  "Has specific suggestions for interacting with kids in positive, effective ways."
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Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too
4.  Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too by Adele Faber
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  "Adding a second child can be traumatic for the older child, and this book helps!  Discusses how to avoid comparing the children or placing them in roles."
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Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children
5.  Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children by Thomas Gordon
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  "Really good discussion of using active listening rather than lecturing or scolding and win-win problem solving rather than win-lose or lose-win."
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The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families
6.  The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families by Stephen R. Covey
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  "This book and the original 7 Habits of Highly Effective People are excellent guides to improving yourself and your family in humane, win-win ways."
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The Five Love Languages of Children
7.  The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary D Chapman
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  "How to make sure your child feels truly loved by recognizing their preferred language love: physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, or acts of service.  When they feel loved, they feel better about themselves, accomplish more, and behave better."
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Playful Parenting
8.  Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen PhD
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  "Describes how to strengthen your relationship with your child by being more playful.  Also discusses how play can be used to address problems the child is having."
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Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
9.  Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason by Alfie Kohn
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  "Describes the problems with rewards and punishment and how to work with the child instead of trying to control them."
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Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting
10.  Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting by John Mordechai Gottman
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  "How to help children recognize their emotions and deal with them constructively."
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Motivated Minds: Raising Children to Love Learning
11.  Motivated Minds: Raising Children to Love Learning by Deborah J. Stipek
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  "How to get your child to love learning in and out of school.  Focuses on toddlers and elementary school children, but applicable beyond that.  Well-written and easy-to-read."
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BabyTalk: Strengthen Your Child's Ability to Listen, Understand, and Communicate
12.  BabyTalk: Strengthen Your Child's Ability to Listen, Understand, and Communicate by Sally Ward
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  "Helps you develop your child's language ability from birth on.  Discusses child development in detail and strategies for interacting with your child at each stage."
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How to Get Your Kid to Eat: But Not Too Much
13.  How to Get Your Kid to Eat: But Not Too Much by Ellyn Satter
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  "Advocates a division of responsibility where the parent decides what and when to feed the child and the child decides how much to eat (if at all).  Discusses strategies for feeding at each stage in development."
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The Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies to Help Your Child Make Friends
14.  The Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies to Help Your Child Make Friends by Eileen Kennedy-Moore
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  "Describes the social mistakes that children make and activities that will help them improve their social skills.  It's organized around different profiles such as "The Shy Child" and the "Short-Fused Child."  Designed for ages 6 to 12."
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Stress-Free Potty Training: A Commonsense Guide to Finding the Right Approach for Your Child
15.  Stress-Free Potty Training: A Commonsense Guide to Finding the Right Approach for Your Child by Peter Savinoha
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  "Addresses strategies for different personality types: goal-oriented child, sensory-oriented child, internalizer, impulsive child, and strong-willed child."
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The No-Cry Potty Training Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Child Say Good-Bye to Diapers (Pantley)
16.  The No-Cry Potty Training Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Child Say Good-Bye to Diapers (Pantley) by Elizabeth Pantley
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  "Very comprehensive and provides useful, specific suggestions to address a wide range of common challenges."
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