The list author says: "Based on research, children are self-motivated to learn and behave when they feel competent, when they have some choice and control over what they do, and when they feel loved, supported, and respected by their parents. Rewards and punishments are ineffective for producing long-term growth because they distract from the real reasons for proper behavior. The alternative is to focus on the whole child rather than just the behavior and ask, "What does the child need in order to succeed?" Steps can be taken before entering a difficult situation to make it easier for the child to succeed, such as explaining to the child what will happen and what you will expect and taking along crayons before going to a restaurant. If the child misbehaves, ask yourself why. Does the child need to be reassured of my love? Is she hungry or tired? Does she need to learn new skills for coping with the situation? Can she be redirected to a more appropriate activity? Here are some books that have helped me become a better parent. Some are general parenting books and others focus on particular topics."
"How to make sure your child feels truly loved by recognizing their preferred language love: physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, or acts of service. When they feel loved, they feel better about themselves, accomplish more, and behave better."
"Advocates a division of responsibility where the parent decides what and when to feed the child and the child decides how much to eat (if at all). Discusses strategies for feeding at each stage in development."
"Describes the social mistakes that children make and activities that will help them improve their social skills. It's organized around different profiles such as "The Shy Child" and the "Short-Fused Child." Designed for ages 6 to 12."