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Practicing Radical Honesty

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When Radical Honesty was first recommended to me, I was quite surprised, because I had always thought of myself as an exceptionally honest person. While I was not a 'liar' - deliberately telling people what I knew was not the truth - I had never considered that witholding my thoughts and feelings was actually lying.

Brad Blanton, the author, clearly shows how witholding our thoughts and feelings, is a form of lying, which is very destructive to our mental, physical and emotional well-being. The book explains how lying or withholding our true thoughts and feelings is bred into us as moralists, the idea that we should be and act and say things as society expects us to.

We may never 'be' who we think we ought or should be, and so we lie (pretend) about it. Lying and withholding our thoughts and feelings from those we are close to, denies us the ability to BE who we really are, and so we run around in a whirlwind of always trying to be who we think we should be, which cuts us off from the 'nectar' of just 'being'.

Many people misunderstand the concept of 'radical honesty' thinking that if you are radically honest, then that means you just go around telling people what you think of them. Radical Honesty is NOT about simply going around sharing your judgements and assessments of other people. Radical Honesty is about sharing your thoughts, feelings and actions with others, and being committed to working through with the other person, until the anger or pain has gone away.

Radical Honesty is about taking responsibility for your feelings, your actions and your thoughts, and taking charge of your life as an intentional creation based on your preferences, rather than as a victim, blaming others for your pain, hurt feelings and reactive way of living life.

In the end the book is about freedom, about learning to be who you really are and really want to be, not who you think the world, your mother, husband, lover, etc. thinks you 'SHOULD' be. When we show all of who we are - the good, the bad, the nasty - and we can get over it, and people can learn to see us as fallible human beings, and we can relate to one another as human beings, without the expectation that people should be other than who they are, then we have a foundation where true initmacy, compassion and creativity blooms like flowers in the desert after rain.

Sometimes Radical Honesty is about anger. We all get angry, and we can all get over it. We can experience the anger and transcend it. It is when we suppress the anger, that it grows into a cancerous hatred inside us, that eats us up alive. I think we would all prefer to deal with someone's anger than become the object of their hatred.

The book helped me to realize how much of my life had been lived trying to be who I thought I should be. I had been living in my mind, instead of my heart, my thinking based on my expectations of what I thought were other's expectations of me, and who I should be.

The ideas in Brad Blanton's book have changed my life, like very few others ever have. I took his 2 day workshop, started some completion work with my family, then took his 8 day intensive workshop, and it is like I have finally found my 'being' independent of all those images I had in my mind about who I 'should' be. My relationships with my family, my husband and my friends are more intimate, compassionate and life is so much more worth living. And my sex life has dramatically improved, which I cannot complain about.

This book is not a 'gentler' self-help book, like many of the self-help books presently on the market. Do not read it if you want the author to be 'nice' to you. Blanton uses strong language, which some readers may be put off by.

I read Practicing Radical Honesty after first reading Brad Blanton's popular "Radical Honesty". I expected it to be more of the same. Well, I should have known better. Brad connects with the previous book and then takes off beyond individuality, through community, even beyond our current existence. I found his style strightforward and clear. The content covered the "Great Work" - as told by Gurdjieff, Erhard and many others. I love his straightforward approach in explaining the synthesis of these formerly hidden ideas for every day use. I have no doubt that if you put Brad's ideas into practice,using his "Workbook for Life Design" chapter in the book, you will be clearer about your life's purpose and meaning.

What I have learned from reading Brad Blanton's Radical Honesty books is that we all lie - a lot - to create and maintain an image of who we want people to think we really are. The problems come when we discover that living within that false image - both personally and professionally - is very stressful and disconnecting. While telling the truth may cause some very big scenes in the beginning, it is a quick path to a powerful place of personal freedom.

I also read "Radical Honesty", which I think is the best place (other than a workshop) to learn about the basics of the high costs we pay of the "little white (and big black) lie." "Practicing Radical Honesty" coaches us through much the same information with practical suggestions on how to ease into a life of actively open transparency that is Radical Honesty. Both are inspiring books and will give readers a lot of compelling reasons to begin telling the truth with everyone with whom we would like to have a close and authentic relationship.

Have you read Brad Blanton's first book, Radical Honesty?
If you have not, get it today. We can cut through endless layers of complication and turgid self preoccupation with ourselves and our past simply by learning to feel what is, and to tell it like it is. Brad has made telling the truth into a spiritual discipline, a short cut to God. I have done little more than dicking around in the shallow end of the pool with what he offers, but it was enough to get wet, and its refreshing. It will probably take the rest of my life to get to the deep end. Radical Honesty, if we live it full on, is a way of life, a complete spiritual journey.
If you have read his first book, then you will love this very practical follow up. Here are nitty gritty devilish little tricks to crack through our shell of pretence, and then to squeeze our love through the crack. This book goes way beyond the first, and offers a vision of getting honest with yourself, with your life and purpose and mission.
Jump up on the board, and plunge in. It sure beats shivering on the side, waiting to live...

I like this book alot. I just bought ten copies to give to friends. What I like is that Blanton clearly describes how peoples' minds interfere with us seeing what is really going on in our world. The mind tries to support the delusion that we are safe, when really we are in denial much of the time.

He shows us how to get back the freedom to see things clearly and simply--by telling the truth. How radical! I wish everyone would read this book and buy a few copies to give away. Then maybe if we did the things Blanton recommends, we really would feel safe.

Awsome read. Brad tells the truth point blank! If you really want to get free, be prepared for some hard work! Cause telling the truth is not easy!! This book is funny, and very enlightening. Not everyone that reads it will get alot out of it, unless they are "ready"! I highly recommend this book. It's up there as one of the best.
BW

Don't be alarmed by the word radical, being truly honest appears radical these days becuase very few people are telling you the truth. There are hundreds of books on the market, touting tactics, strategies and ways to manipulate how you feel and programs for communicating with others. Programs are for computers! Tell the truth. We were always told to tell the truth, but did you ever really learn how?

Practicing Radical Honesty teaches and demonstrates how. Radical Honesty is invaluable, and is guaranteed to deliver. What else can I say, the truth is the truth.

Dr. Blanton has quite a bit of great advice about taking control of one's life, but for me, his ego got in the way of his message. There are numerous sections in which he points to himself as a model of self-empowerment; not necessarily is he wrong in doing this, but he obviously thinks himself the pinnacle of human achievement and ability in terms of living. I find that ego to be annoyingly disproportionate.

One needs to read Radical Honesty first - this work follows from that. These insecure times are a good time to read this. It will help you understand to be truly free you must jettison the western BS you've been fed.

The Idea behind this book, as I was lead to believe, was to instruct the reader to practice radical honesty. All it did for me, however, was reintroduce me to my dictionary. The author fills his writings with underlying put-downs and sarcasm, telling the reader that they are "pathetic" if they believe one thing and just plain stupid if they really believe the other. I didn't make it through chapter 3 and I loaned this book to a friend of mine who said she didn't get past the first. I waited for this book in the mail for three weeks (I'm in Germany), tore open the box when it arrived and put everything else aside to begin my "journey". I thought this book would be a great follow up the the Celestine series and "Heaven Within", but all it proved to me was that Mr. Blanton had a PhD and I didn't. How Pathetic of me.