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Prenups for Lovers: A Romantic Guide to Prenuptial Agreements

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This reviewer's first reaction to this reference book was: "I'm married almost a quarter of a century, why would I bother to read a non-fiction centering on prenuptial agreements?" I went in for a taste and completed PRENUPS FOR LOVERS. After reading Arlene G. Dublin's guidebook, I realized that I not only learned a lot, but changed my mind about prenups. This tome should be must reading for anyone (either gender) thinking of getting married. Ms. Dublin debunks the non-romanticism that makes the prenup seem more like a cold business contract by emphasizing the importance of honest discussions on finances, future goals, and the consideration that each partner expects from the marriage. There are numerous tips with an index that helps the user focus on a particular topic and an easy to use sample prenup. The bottom line is that this helpful book does more than just coldly protect assets, which is important. It reminds couples that communication is the key to keeping a marriage from ending with a divorce decree and that should start before the "I Do".

Harriet Klausner

What a joy. I never expected a book on prenuptial agreements to be so entertaining and easy-to-read. This is a user-friendly handbook that is warm, witty and well-written. Dubin takes the stigma and mystique out of prenuptial agreements and makes them compelling and commonsensical, increasing the chances of a happy marriage. In the long run, Dubin argues, a prenup protects romance because it grounds a marriage in realistic expectations. Drawing on legal, financial and psychological sources, she completely covers her subject, including a chapter on how to pop the "P" word and how to repsond if you are on the receiving end. Throughout the book, she presents real-life situations, anecdotal materials and individual profiles and she intersperses examples of celebrity and historical prenups. She puts a very human face on prenups, even printing her own agreement. Stressing that both parties must obtain a benefit, Dubin shows how to create a fair, balanced, and loving agreement in a stop-by-step handbook. She forcibly argues that all couples should put the prenup to bed before they wed--and predicts that prenups will become standard in the 21st centruy. If you read PRENUPS FOR LOVERS, it will open your eyes to a totally misunderstood area of our culture. Great gift-giving for an about-to-be-engaged couple, or those living together who are contemplating taking the next step.

This is a gem of a book that helps you navigate financial discussions in a compassionate yet business-like manner. Arlene Dubin informs her readers WHY issues are important and shows them HOW to initiate discussions based upon common values and shared goals. After a couple finds they are on the same page, the dollars involved and technical know-how can be inserted into the dialogue.

I have practised as a Certified Financial Planner for 18 years, and send this book to clients and allied professionals. It is eminently readable, but does not dumb-down a subject that is important to anyone contemplating marriage.

Arlene Dubin makes premarital agreements, and the reasons to have one, easy to understand for all readers. She takes a look at the objections many people have to a prenup and explains clearly why a prenup can be stabilizing to a marriage. The book is well-written and fun to read, too, mixing in real-world examples. It's always terrific when an author can take a topic seriously without being too serious. Ms. Dubin does it.

So much of the book is spent trying to convince the reader that it is OK to write up a prenup, that there is little left over for the nuts and bolts of how to do it. For those of us who have already decided to have a prenup, this doesn't serve our needs. I suppose it might be helpful for those readers who haven't decided to draw up a prenup.

Excellent book that demystifies a touchy subject. Prenups aren't just for "The Donald", but we all could and should have one. Face it, if you are considering spending the rest of your life with someone, don't you owe it to yourself (and your intended) to face all of the facts BEFORE you say "I Do"???

I bought this book in hopes of gaining insight about prenuptial agreements. I had guesses about the book being a marketing scheme. However, when the book arrived, gift wrapped, on Valentines day (it wasn't a gift) any doubts I had were no longer doubts. After wasting my time reading the book from start to finish, I have gained absolutely no insight into the prenuptial process, as the entire book is complete fluff. Don't waste your money.

My son-in-law's lawyer produced a prenup that was almost word for word the same as this book. It helps on the process and the legalese.

Excellent book for anyone getting married or living with someone. It removes the false premise that a prenup is a battleground and instead puts in place the helpul reality that a couple benefits when each party articulates what his/her aspirations are for entering into the relationship.

I bought this for my son several years ago and it must have worked because he is still single. There is nothing wrong with spending a good part of the book convincing the reader that prenups are OK because deciding to do one is probably the most difficult and important part.