Preventing Affairs: You Can Have A Monogamous Marriage, But Not By Just Assuming You'Re Immune [Paperback]

Peggy Vaughan (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 14, 2008

This book is written specifically for those couples who have not faced the issue of affairs--and want to prevent ever having to face it. Peggy Vaughan explains the need to focus on preventing affairs before there is any threat to the marriage. Challenging the assumption that couples can assume monogamy just because they intend to be monogamous, this guide reveals: --No one is exempt from having affairs disrupt their lives. --Attitudes and beliefs are not sufficient to prevent affairs. --Actions and behaviors throughout the marriage are essential. --Responsible honesty is the most important factor in prevention. --Everybody has a role to play in supporting couples' efforts to maintain monogamy, including parents and society as a whole. Peggy Vaughan is an internationally recognized expert in the field of extramarital affairs, having spent 30 years helping people through her many books and her two websites: www.dearpeggy.com and www.preventingaffairs.com.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"This book is terrific. It should be required reading for all engaged couples, in all marriage education groups, and for all marriage therapists."—Susan Heitler, Ph.D., author of The Power of Two: Secrets to a Strong and Loving Marriage

--This text refers to the Kindle Edition edition.

About the Author

Peggy Vaughan is an internationally recognized expert in the field of extramarital affairs. She has spent the past 30 years helping people recover from the devastation of discovering a partner's affair. In addition to her many articles, books, and surveys, in 1996 she developed a website, www.dearpeggy.com, containing one of the most extensive sets of resources available today. Her material is used by individuals dealing with an affair as well as by professionals in the field of marriage and family therapy. Her current focus on preventing affairs includes a new website: www.preventingaffairs.com. She lives in San Diego, California, with her husband and family.

Product Details

• Paperback: 198 pages
• Publisher: Dialog Press (May 14, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0936390212
• ISBN-13: 978-0936390215
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,503,818 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Peggy Vaughan is an internationally recognized expert in the area of extramarital affairs and the founder of www.dearpeggy.com. Since 1996 her website has served as an Extramarital Affairs Resource Center for professionals and the public alike.

She has been a pioneer in providing more understanding and perspective about this issue. Since 1980 she has published 5 books about affairs, 3 books on other life issues, conducted 3 surveys and made numerous media appearances.

Peggy has been married for fifty-five years, has two grown children and three grandchildren and lives in San Diego, CA.

Customer Reviews

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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Are you in love and getting married? READ THIS FIRST!!!, May 29, 2008

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Judy (NC) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Preventing Affairs: You Can Have A Monogamous Marriage, But Not By Just Assuming You'Re Immune (Paperback)

Take it from me.....I am living proof. This is a book to read BEFORE committing to a relationship. It should be part of premarital counseling everywhere! NO relationship is immune from infidelity...even the ones with the best of intentions. I know because my marriage ended because of it, and I lived for many years in denial. You should know that an affair can happen even in loving relationships. This book gives you tools to prevent that BEFORE it happens. "Prevention is the best medicine" most certainly applies to marriages.....don't put your heads in the sand and pretend that an affair cannot happen in your relationship......it can! Buy this book for yourself, your spouse or someone you care about.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars We all need this. Yes, you too., June 4, 2008

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Jeff P. (MA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Preventing Affairs: You Can Have A Monogamous Marriage, But Not By Just Assuming You'Re Immune (Paperback)

You exchange your vows. Then you exchange your rings. You take it very seriously. The beauty and poetry of the vows protects you from then on. The purity and symbology of the gold of your rings affirms that protection. Right? No! This is romantic and traditional - virtually required societally, but has no bearing on whether or not affairs will occur in your marriage. None. Actually, if you take the promise of these vows literally and rely on their magical promise of security from that one precious event, affairs become more likely. Yes, more likely. Security is only achieved by working for it day-by-day, just as life is lived. It comes through commitment with your partner to simple day-to-day proactive honesty. It's not easy. But let Peggy tell you about it, now that I've provoked you. There's no one better able. Peggy talks to you as a friend. No lectures. No homework. When you're finished, you simply understand. Shed the obfuscating cloak woven of magical thinking, cultural tradition and conventional wisdom that we all take on as members of a complex and often misguided society. See the bright reality of the kind of human relationship that's possible that lies beneath. Read Peggy.

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Preventing Afairs a must read, June 4, 2008

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Learner (Arizona) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Preventing Affairs: You Can Have A Monogamous Marriage, But Not By Just Assuming You'Re Immune (Paperback)

This is a must read - I've read through it twice without stop and have all sorts of notes. Recommended to others and getting all sorts of thanks for doing so. So see or read it for yourself.