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Preventing Affairs: You Can Have A Monogamous Marriage, But Not By Just Assuming You'Re Immune

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Take it from me.....I am living proof. This is a book to read BEFORE committing to a relationship. It should be part of premarital counseling everywhere! NO relationship is immune from infidelity...even the ones with the best of intentions. I know because my marriage ended because of it, and I lived for many years in denial. You should know that an affair can happen even in loving relationships. This book gives you tools to prevent that BEFORE it happens. "Prevention is the best medicine" most certainly applies to marriages.....don't put your heads in the sand and pretend that an affair cannot happen in your relationship......it can! Buy this book for yourself, your spouse or someone you care about.

You exchange your vows. Then you exchange your rings. You take it very seriously. The beauty and poetry of the vows protects you from then on. The purity and symbology of the gold of your rings affirms that protection. Right? No! This is romantic and traditional - virtually required societally, but has no bearing on whether or not affairs will occur in your marriage. None. Actually, if you take the promise of these vows literally and rely on their magical promise of security from that one precious event, affairs become more likely. Yes, more likely. Security is only achieved by working for it day-by-day, just as life is lived. It comes through commitment with your partner to simple day-to-day proactive honesty. It's not easy. But let Peggy tell you about it, now that I've provoked you. There's no one better able. Peggy talks to you as a friend. No lectures. No homework. When you're finished, you simply understand. Shed the obfuscating cloak woven of magical thinking, cultural tradition and conventional wisdom that we all take on as members of a complex and often misguided society. See the bright reality of the kind of human relationship that's possible that lies beneath. Read Peggy.

This is a must read - I've read through it twice without stop and have all sorts of notes. Recommended to others and getting all sorts of thanks for doing so. So see or read it for yourself.

This book is MUST reading. We all dream of the perfect marraige, and believe true love will get us there. Peggy Vaughn teaches us how to make dreams a reality. However, a loving marraige is not enough to prevent adultery.

This incredible book teaches us the secrets needed to commit to a lifetime of honesty and respect, not just on our wedding day but for each day of a loving marraige. It is essential reading. The skills and communication needed to solve problems that are not even spoken are provided in this incredible book.

I have read all of Peggy Vaughn's work. She is an incredible writer and her work shows true sensitivy and understanding for those who love. Her life experiences at helping people heal from the nightmare of adultery make her the perfect person to write about preventing the unimaginable pain and trauma that destroys families, the betrayed, and the betrayer. Peggy Vaughn has a gift for healing and teaching. Now she has written a book that no one wants to read, but everyone should.

She writes to help people build the marraige of their dreams. Rather than wishing and hoping for fairy tales to come true this is a how to for a true marraige.

With loving wisdom Peggy Vaughn teaches that intending to be monogamous is like buying a lottery ticket and waiting to be rich. Instead one needs skills and tools to build a solid life. No one is exempt from adultery, and it's life altering consequences.

Responsible honesty is the most important factor in a healthy marraige and preventing an affair. However, this is a skill we need to learn. Too often actions and words are not equal. Responsible honesty is what Peggy Vaughn teaches. It is a life lesson that heals and promotes love and growth. For more of Peggy's incredible wisdom you can also read her website http://www.preventingaffairs.com/7-books/preventing.html

Once again Peggy Vaughan has hit a home run with another in her series of books about affairs and relationships. In this case, she has addressed the most important, yet often overlooked aspect of affairs; prevention. Grounded in what may be the only actual research into the subject of prevention, Mrs. Vaughn has identified the key factors that ensure a monogamous loving relationship with practical and easy to understand guidance on how to apply what she has learned from that research as well as from her own far reaching experience.

Vaughn has undeniably the longest running and most in-depth experience in the arena of affairs and their causes. Her insights go far beyond the clinical and sometimes uninformed pronouncements of those with little experience and as with all of her books, gives a sensible and clear view of what it takes to prevent affairs and secure a long lasting, affair free marriage.

The results of her research provide excellent insights into the myths, misunderstandings and attitudes about preventing affairs and unmasks the naiveté with which almost all of us approach the issue of monogamy and affairs.

Beyond that Mrs. Vaughn provides the couple looking for real insurance against destruction of their marriage through an affair the keys to preserving the marriage and a much happier future than many of us have found in a relationship.

In a stroke of genius, Mrs. Vaughn is the first to openly address the importance of family and parental example as a factor in preventing affairs in our children's future relationships. Think about this; what you know about love and relationships you no doubt learned from observing your parents. If they set a good example, you had a better chance for success. If on the other hand, you learned to not communicate, be dishonest and a host of other crimes against a good marriage, you may well be paying the price for those lessons today. If you have children and want to ensure that their approach towards sex and marital bliss is a healthy one, this book will help you.

This book is one that every married couple should read and it is never too late. Even if your marriage has already suffered the indignity of an affair and you are trying to rebuild, you can use the wisdom contained in "Preventing Affairs" to build an affair insulated life. If you are a newlywed, you must read it to avoid the many assumptions that will lead to the dangerous ground so many of us already know. If you are so far unscathed, count your blessings but never assume you won't be. Simply stated, anyone in a committed relationship who wants to preserve it must read this book!

This book is a concise, quick, read that can prevent your marriage from unexpected disaster.

There is a significant difference between what people who've never experienced affairs think will prevent them vs. those with experience. The message in this book is the real message.

Peggy has identified, and so accurately described what doesn't work in affair prevention as well as what does work. She helps us to look beyond commonly believed myths, and includes all the factors that contribute to affairs.

Included are practical steps that we can take as a society and culture as a whole to really make a difference in the amount of affairs that happen. Affairs may seem intriguing and enticing, even interesting to gossip about someone else's situation - until you're directly affected by an affair, and then you'll wish you read this book before, and not after.

The survey results she includes are very interesting and telling.