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Preventing Hazing: How Parents, Teachers, and Coaches Can Stop the Violence, Harassment, and Humiliation

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I thoroughly recommend this volume to parents of adolescents and young adults who may be embarking on thier college years. Dr. Lipkins astutely points out key elements of the problem and strategies to prevent and deal with the difficulties involved in hazing. A must-read for those with interest in the topic and a need for more information on the subject.
--J. Clive Spiegel M.D., Clinical Associate Professor, Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, ALbert Einstein College of Medicine, Bronx NY

I am currently a school psychologist, a former high school championship baseball coach and scholarship athlete--this book nails it on the head--full of very useful analysis of the culture of hazing--something that goes on at some level on virually every team and although some think it builds team morale, it really saps the energy from the team as well identified by Lipkins--the book provides a deeper understanding about how to understand and deal with hazing--. Read it!!
James Levering, Ph.D.

This book is one that all high schools should distribute on back to school night along with their school guidelines. As well, colleges should distribute the book at their first meeting on campus with the kids and families. It is about time someone brought out into the open what most fraternities are about. Schools only tell us the "great news of having fraternities and sororities on campus". Dr. Lipkins tells us the behind the scene actions of these "great boys will be boys organizations". This is an extremely well written book. It is a step by step guide on recognizing hazing, and what actions to take if you find your child involved in it. As parents we all want to protect our children, but how could we have protected them from the danger of hazing when we didn't even know what was going on? This book gives parents the tools we need to keep our kids safe. I highly recommend this very informative book. The author's knowledge of this subject is very visible in her writing and I command her for taking such an interest in a subject that has been swept under the rug for too long, at the cost of our childrens safety.

As a psychologist specializing in teens I highly recommend this book for parents of high school and college-age teens as well as for educators. It contains important advice, practical suggestions and information that can dramatically reduce the risk of a teen becoming the victim of a dangerous hazing experience. It also provides critical tools for how to intervene and heal when hazing is discovered. Don't think that this can't happen in your community or to your child--it can. Dr. Lipkins clearly has the experience and background necessary to help us understand what we need to do to end the devastation of hazing.

As the parent of an 11 year-old, serious athlete, I appreciate Dr. Lipkins' who-what-where-why-when approach to the prevention of hazing. From her explanation of the roots of hazing to the consequences on those who are affected - not just the victim, but the entire community - Preventing Hazing focuses a necessary light on an activity that is done surreptitiously behind closed doors, under the pretext of fun and bonding. It details real steps that can be taken by parents, educators and athletic coaches to prevent a hazing from occurring. This is a book that everyone who has influence on or cares about a child needs to read.

The book provided a very thorough examination of hazing, of both the psychological and the sociological aspects of it. It also contained personal examples (the "insider's views of hazing")that described the experiences of the victims, their families, the bystanders, etc. The book is very informative, yet very practical, also. It gives very specific recommendations regarding the prevention of hazing, and evaluates the options that victims and families may choose in determining how to cope with incidents of abuse. This book is a helpful sourcebook for students and families and the teachers, coaches and professionals who work with them. As a social worker and the parent of an athlete, I recommend it highly.

As a college student I witnessed countless hazings. I had friends that became emotionally scarred as the result of sorority initiation rites. Even more extreme was the physical abuse of big ten college athletes that took place in my own house. I will never forget how I felt as a bystander watching the most respected athletes of my school drag the newest members of their team through my front door, forcing them to drink until they had no control of themselves and proceed to humiliate them in front of a house full of women. I knew this wasn't right yet I was at a loss of how to handle the situation. I wish I had Dr. Lipkins book twenty years ago to help me through this. Every parent should read Preventing Hazing and discuss it with their children. Hazing is a very serious issue with severe emotional and physical implications. Finally someone has written a book to help all those involved. Please read it!!!!!!!
Deborah Shlafmitz