Prince Harming Syndrome: Break Bad Relationship Patterns for Good—5 Essentials for Finding True Love (and they're not what you think) [Hardcover]

Karen Salmansohn (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: September 15, 2009

The Fairy Goddess Mentor of New York City strikes again with another innovative fresh breath of self-help insights.

Author, talk-show host, columnist, radio and TV personality Karen Salmansohn has been writing advice and mentoring young women for years, encouraging an end to the cycle of less-than-healthy relationship choices that are easy to start, but oh so difficult to break.

Salmansohn’s personal overcoming of difficult relationship traps has become Prince Harming Syndrome a brand new self-help book that mixes Karen’s life experience and the philosophy of Aristotle to create an intimately witty and personal account for women of all ages looking to break their bad habits for good! Karen will teach you how to seek out the 5 essentials for true love NONE OF THEM being what you'd normally think about looking for! For example, one essential is to seek a guy who "values growing." If your man doesn’t value growing, then your relationship won’t survive because a relationship is only as strong as its weakest moments. If your man values growing, he will be open to discussing problems, meeting your needs and evolving so as to make sure problems don’t keep repeating.

Prince Harming Syndrome is a call to action for knowing how to recognize the important difference between Prince Harmings and Prince Charmings by understanding the important difference between "pleasure" and "happiness."

This book is for you if-

You feel like your love life should be renamed your angst life

You’re now absolutely ready to break your bad love patterns for good!

Praise for Karen Salmansohn's Previous Books


Karen Salmansohn’s writing is bold, playful, insightful with powerful metaphors that provoke and inspire...her kinetic images amplify her message and take the book to a new level of literary experience. - Deepak Chopra

Salmansohn has the soul of a stand-up comic. The battle of the sexes has a brave new gladiator. - Jon Stewart


Salmansohn’s advice for regaining your footing after a life set back is smart, do-able and even fun. - Lucy S. Danziger, Editor-in-Chief, SELF Magazine

Editorial Reviews

About the Author

About author Karen Salmansohn

Karen Salmansohn is an ex Senior VP ad agency creative director (at age 26) who left her job to pursue her passion of writing and is now a best-selling author with over 1 million books sold, with titles including How to Be Happy, Dammit; Ballsy: 99 Ways to Score Extreme Success; and The Bounce Back Book: How to Thrive in the Face of Adversity, Setbacks, and Losses.


Salmansohn, a highly respected mentor in the New York City area, regularly gives seminars on topics such as how to increase happiness, productivity, resiliency and harnessing fun as a high performance fuel. Karen was host of Be Happy, Dammit, a popular talk show on Sirius satellite radio, and a regular lifestyle expert for Fox TV's Good Day New York. She has also been on The Today Show, The View, Politically Incorrect, and many morning shows across the country. Salmansohn is also a regular contributor to The Huffington
Post.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 224 pages
• Publisher: QNY (September 15, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 084370926X
• ISBN-13: 978-0843709261
• Product Dimensions: 7.7 x 5.4 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (16 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #248,379 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

29 of 34 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars How to achieve happily ever after October 11, 2009

By Christine J. Zegelis

Format:Hardcover

When I was asked if I would like to review Prince Harming Syndrome: Break Bad Relationship Patterns for Good - 5 Essentials for Finding True Love (and they're not what you think!) by Karen Salmansohn I thought to myself, why not? I am not a self-help reader, listener, follower but I definitely have a history of starting relationships with those rough and tumble, sexy, sweet-talking, powerful guys only to find that they are just not long-term material, hence the singledom I am still in today. Maybe I would gain some insight as to why these Prince Harmings are so attractive.

Ms. Salmansohn uses her own experiences, research and some advice from that ol' love guru Aristotle to differentiate between three kinds of relationships (some for pleasure and one for happiness), to explain the difference between charm and character, and to explain the five essential elements one should include when looking for in a Prince Harming:

1. Does he want to be in a committed relationship?
2. Does he value growing as a person?
3. 4. 5. You will have to read the book to find out.

Ms. Salmansohn encourages the reader to write down what your "happily ever after ending" would include in great detail (including the five elements she lists) and to read and visualize your response for 5 minutes, three times a day. Eventually, visualizing positive images and thoughts will lead to a more positive outlook on relationships and life in general. There are also questions that should be asked of your potential Prince before you devote your self (and/or your body) to them and the relationship. This book is not only about the men. There are chapters devoted to becoming a Princess Charming ("Be The Change You Want To Date") and breaking the habits that seem to attract those bad boys.

I thoroughly enjoyed this book and not only for the visual appeal. There were a few eye-opening moments and times I said "Ah hah - makes sense!". The writing is fun, practical and straight-forward. A great choice for those looking for their own happily ever after.

Now, you may wonder "who is Karen Salmansohn?" as I did when I first looked at this book. I had not heard of her and was pleasantly surprised to see her extensive background.

* best selling author of 29 other books such as How to be Happy Dammit
* regular blogger on The Huffington Post online
* regular speaker at seminars
* interviewed on The Today Show, The View and Politically Incorrect

When asked why she feels the philosophies of Aristotle (many referenced in her book) are relevant today, she provided this answer:

One of Aristotle's big philosophies is that many people are unhappy because they foolishly confuse pleasure for happiness - when the two are incredibly different.

1. Pleasure is about immediate gratification and merely brings temporary joy - which is unsatisfying in the long run. Basically, pleasure is all about immediate fleeting gratification of the body and ego.
2. Happiness creates long-haul joy, because it's all about growing into your highest potential - your best favorite you. True happiness comes when you surround yourself with people and experiences which increase your soul's self-development - hence the joy lasts as long as you last - because the joy created becomes an integral part of who you are as a unique, and thriving individual.

I would encourage anyone to take a peek at Ms. Salmansohn's Facebook page website. It is is chock full of tips on dealing with stress, career, being happier (dammit) and of course love including chapter one of Prince Harming

6 of 7 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars A+ FROM A THERAPIST December 8, 2010

By Anonymous

Format:Hardcover

I love this book! I am a mental health therapist who has had her eye open for a book such as this for quite some time. I've had a number of female clients over the years who struggle with the common problem of choosing men/being attracted to men who end up being "jerks", "losers", "users", or simply not the "marriage material" they thought. I think this author takes a unique, but very common sense approach to the problem, breaking down her points into easy-to-read and humorous excerpts. She speaks personally as if writing woman to woman, and at the same time essentially educates women about paying attention to the reality of the man they are considering/dating versus considering/dating that man's potential. I think this book can really help women stay focused on developing their own self respect, giving easy to follow guidelines to help decipher the qualities they are looking for, and in turn aide women to be able to see a man for what he is versus being fooled or caught in a fantasy of who he is. She really trumps other relationship self-help books when it comes to the section about maintaining a healthy relationship with a good man, too. After years of counseling women who become dissappointed, hurt, and at times blindsided by the man they are dating or married to--and counseling some of those men they've ended up with--I think this author really pegs the topic and clearly knows the core of what true, mature love is. I've recommended it a number of times and will continue to do so!

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book! Not your typical self-help tome January 1, 2010

By Megan

Format:Hardcover|Amazon Verified Purchase

I was so surprised by this book. I am always open to new self help books but this one wasn't like others I have read. I discovered this author on [...] when reading an excerpt of the book and wanted to check out the whole thing. It looks at your past relationships and how you can use them to heal and be ready for your great love (plan B!) It also uses ancient philosophy as back-up and lots of research from respected psychologists (ex. John Gottman). She sometimes goes overboard with the puns and silly phrases, but that was very easy to overlook given the message of the book - how to attract your soulmate (using law of attracting and also some concrete advice) and what to look for in a potential mate, but also making sure you are ready to give in the relationship.