Diagnoses are the tombstone of the therapist's frustration, and accusations such as, defensive, resistant and secondary gain, are the flowers placed on the grave of his buried dissatisfaction. No one scapegoats, no one is defensive, no one wants his self-defeating behavior. Everyone who comes to therapy, including the reluctant family member, is motivated. The issue is the therapist's ability to influence. If there is to be a diagnosis, there is only one: Therapist
Incompetence.... The correct path is the discoverer's path - from the specific to the general. This volume does not concern itself with the generalities of family life. It directs the reader to look for his own specifics before him, to become his own discoverer. It urges him to see for himself whether the adolescent before him is searching for emancipation, identification, retrenchment, or whatever the therapist may choose to call what happens between them; and to ignore the preconceived motions of others. --- excerpts from book's Introduction
